Thank you all for clarifying the Catholic marriage rites for me! Although I personally am not one, I live in an area of the US where a good portion of the religious population is Catholic; I could not imagine any practicing/devout member getting married in such a sketchy way as Joe and Aija. I agree with @NicePeasNorma that the only reason Joe wouldn't want a religious wedding is so he is "free" in the eyes of the church (or he's not practicing/devout and doesn't care anyway).
I personally would wear clothes that my partner enjoyed (and would expect him to reciprocate), as long as it doesn't feel violating or inappropriate. Flowy dresses that make me feel beautiful? Absolutely! Crop tops that make me feel uncomfortable? Never.
I do want my partner to find me attractive - not my clothes, but me. If my man ever told me that I only looked beautiful wearing a certain style but like crap when I'm not, is he attracted to me or to my clothes?
I can take my partner's preferences into consideration while I'm dressing, and he can do the same. Neither of us are obligated to dress to the style/tastes of the other, but it can be a nice expression of love to do so.
Ladies, if your partner is telling you that you are only attractive when you are wearing dresses and not at all attractive when wearing sweatpants (and heaven forbid that he threatens to cut you off if you don't bend over backwards for him) - run far, far away. He doesn't care about you; he's just being manipulative and condescending. Both men and women should never be judging or unloving over the clothes that your partner chooses to wear.
(JMO, of course)
My opinion about dressing for your man:My dear ladiezh, as usual our eleganth lady is all over the place and it keeps getting worse and worse.
First and foremost, this is absolute horrible advice and it actually explains why Anna's style has been getting worse. It is shocking because it was never good and somehow it reaches new levels of out of the place combinations.
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This is 101 how a narcissistic partner behaves. Pretending that all you do, including how you dress up, is 100% for them. I actually BELIEVE that Anna has issues with being a magnet of narcissists because with this mindset, you are literally the easiest target.
She is providing 2 bad examples /advice here.
First: Anna tries to sell that you can "fake it" to lvl up your style going to Zara and purchasing her preloved crap to "pass" as some type of old money / elegant person. It is so silly and dangerous.
Most people from those social circles will spot you easily as a vulerable lost soul. Worst case scenario, if you go to a 5 stars hotel lobby with a friend, some gentlemans will think you are there escortingEven the staff members will recognise you are a new face and don't know what to order.
You cannot, and I don't know how to stress this enough, CANNOT fake belonging to a social circle of individuals that grew up with multiple properties, trust funds and housekeepers. The Anna Bey case is 1 in a 100000 and it actually ended up pretty badly.
The best investment to lvl up is actually building up a career where people respect you. That also applies if you actually are a good housewife (by this I mean, taking care of being a good host and your kids, not "elegant" crap)
Second: Anna says that you should do your best for your partner to "like you". Nope ladiezh, don't do that. You will be a magnet of manipulative gross man. It is the other way around. They need to like you first in order to ask you for a date
If your man says thinks regarding "I would like you to wear this or that", it needs to be an honest conversation about what do you like and if you are willing to change a bit for him (or not, that is 100% up to you).
If your man says that he doesn't like your outfit, be careful, some guys do this in order to KILL your self-esteem or because they are crazy jealous. Again, this is narcissists 101 and it's sad that Anna allegedly had "bad experiences" in the past and does not recognise how f"$"$ up it is your husband picking your outfits!
What type of stylist would admit that she rather leave her man to pick her outfits? Is just lol all over the place.
Regarding her husband being catholic
I come from a catholic background and there is a distinction between secular catholics and practicing catholics. For Jews it is similar I may say, but basically some may describe themselves as catholics even when they do not go to the Church very often. This is actually deeply criticised.
"True" Catholics go to Church most Sundays, Easter and Christmas celebrations are BIG and all about spending time with your family (and again, going to Church). Having a big Catholic marriage is part of the puzzle, it is actually weird to skip the "party" part of it because is the most important thing: receiving the blessings from your family. The next step is trying hard to get pregnant or to adopt if there are health issues. Catholicism is all about family, going to church and connection. It is also required you and your partner do the Catholic confirmation before getting married.
It would be impossible for a true practicing Catholic guy to fit into Anna's lifestyle of "dog mom" and Channelas.
I am 99% sure that she just answered that because it feels proud her "husband" is not a muslim arab, such a horrible thought here (that I do not share) but this is probably what is going on Anna's head answering such a vague thing.
I personally would wear clothes that my partner enjoyed (and would expect him to reciprocate), as long as it doesn't feel violating or inappropriate. Flowy dresses that make me feel beautiful? Absolutely! Crop tops that make me feel uncomfortable? Never.
I do want my partner to find me attractive - not my clothes, but me. If my man ever told me that I only looked beautiful wearing a certain style but like crap when I'm not, is he attracted to me or to my clothes?
I can take my partner's preferences into consideration while I'm dressing, and he can do the same. Neither of us are obligated to dress to the style/tastes of the other, but it can be a nice expression of love to do so.
Ladies, if your partner is telling you that you are only attractive when you are wearing dresses and not at all attractive when wearing sweatpants (and heaven forbid that he threatens to cut you off if you don't bend over backwards for him) - run far, far away. He doesn't care about you; he's just being manipulative and condescending. Both men and women should never be judging or unloving over the clothes that your partner chooses to wear.
(JMO, of course)
. Anyways, I've started receiving notifications from Anna on my emails and YouTube again for some strange reason, so out of interest, I thought I'd take a look at her youtube to see what she's up to know. Gosh. She still looks the same, but her content is suddenly more relatable. She's gotten off her high horse and now doing videos about non high-end fashion, the downfall or the Chanel flapbag (there are a lot of "downfall of..." X, y and z beauty brands on the net, so I'm not surprised by that. I am surprised though by her video about elegant being a "subculture" as any other. I can hear full well that she is acknowledging her crass past and saying that she's just moved into the "subculture" of elegance as a way of improving herself. Good way to deflect that she is not part of the in crowd. Also a good way to acknowledge that anybody can be more gentile without being super rich. Tick for that. However, WHY is she still hawking the 'A List' club and app does that not go against the grain of what she's saying by still calling it the 'A List'? Don't like that. 
hat on her flea market. I'm not going to further comment on the outfit 
) at home. I am not an ahfluent laydee married to a thousandarie Joe, hence I shop for wall decorations at Ikea...unlike our deer ehleghnut laydee here....oh wait!
