I would like to start a friendship and take it slow and see where it goesbut only once I’ve ended this relationship and move out etc.
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I remember you posting before about issues with your boyfriends family during lockdown, I think you'd moved in with them but the stepmum didn't want you there? Is this the same boyfriend?
no he turned out to be a psychopath with a Crimean record for abusing his ex sohe was kicked to the kerb!
I know you initially asked for advice regarding your partners’ parents. However, I think you now know the answer and that is to leave this relationship as you’re not happy.
I think you need some time yourself and to enjoy being single. Especially as you have another ex who’s a “psycho”. You say you left your previous ex as you needed “to find yourself” but initially got into this relationship that you’re not happy in. Starting up a friendship with an ex is not straightforward. What if he’s moved on?
Most of the time when we say we want to be “friends” with an ex is if we still have feelings for them and hope to be back together, or if there’s children involved and for both sides to be friendly for the sake of the children.
You need to be honest with your current partner how you truly feel, about everything. & also be honest with yourself. I do hope everything works out for you.
Just a random update to this. A few months later I got stronger confirmation something was happening...
Then we drifted apart for a year. My partner would never go anywhere with me, was so distant. A year later he said he wants yo split. No communication no explanation...just separation. I've since found more evidence. Always trust your instincts.
Then we drifted apart for a year. My partner would never go anywhere with me, was so distant. A year later he said he wants yo split. No communication no explanation...just separation. I've since found more evidence. Always trust your instincts.
I’m so sorry
I remember reading your post ages ago and always thought it was dodgy how he lied about the drink. I guess that’s how it starts though… I hope you’re okay 
what evidence did you find?
I looked and found some messages confirming my suspicionsI’m so sorry
what evidence did you find?
. Thanks, I will be, just an adjustment starting again.
Absolutely go with your gut - I cannot stress this enough.
My ex had a female friend like this and she HATED me because she was friends with his ex. So much so that he said "oh you can meet her last" when he was introducing me to his friends when we first got together. The first time I met her was at his birthday party and she point blank ignored me all day/evening and made things unbearably awkward, to the point that I ended up in tears leaving early. He had a word with her, but it made little difference to her behaviour even though she apologised (to him, not me!!)
She had also broken up with a boyfriend and was leaning on my boyfriend a lot. She got him presents for his birthday that only a girlfriend would get for their boyfriend, including a newspaper from the day he was born (?!?!?).... I had to point out to my ex how bizarre her behaviour was. She invited him and not me to her birthday celebration in Ibiza.
My ex and I didn't last long after that. It wasn't just because of her, but I could never have stayed with him if he'd continued that friendship. What I didn't understand was that she was really pally with his ex and hated me coz I was with him, but she CLEARLY had a gigantic possibly unrequited crush on him. I have no idea if they eventually got together and don't care, but there was something very very off.
Have you spoken to your boyfriend about your concerns?
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So true - the gut never lies, and I am so sorry this happened to you. Good on you for trusting your own instincts and believing in yourself. Things will get better xxx