I don’t think you’re being unreasonable by being upset about it but I do think that it may be one of those things that you just have grin and bear it. You probably can’t change the situation and I think him talking to his Nan could end up causing family disputes and do more harm than good (her not really acknowledging you is better than her actively trying to exclude you etc). I do think his Nan is in the wrong for her behaviour though so I can imagine it’s tough! I think you’ve just got to learn to not let it get to you which is hard I know.
When I first met my husband’s family at a family meal, his sister came up to me and basically said she wasn’t being nasty but she couldn’t be friendly with me as she was still friendly with his ex girlfriend. How ridiculous! My husband’s ex girlfriend was very dramatic when he started dating me a bit like your partners ex has been. Even though she split up with him and this was months later. Anyway he dated his ex for a couple of years when they were teenagers, we are now MARRIED for three years and together for TEN. She still isn’t friendly with me
I get a smile and a hello but no other conversation than that. To be honest she is not my type of person anyway I find her very odd so her and his ex must have had that in common I dunno
. But basically the point of my story is that in the beginning it would upset me, they would be commenting all over each other’s social media etc so I felt I couldn’t get away from her. I wondered what was wrong with me and why I wasn’t good enough to be accepted by her. Now ten years on it doesn’t affect me anymore although I do think it’s a shame. I think when she was being rude she maybe thought I was a fling and I turned out to be his future wife
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