I used to feel similar so I hope you don’t mind me sharing my perspective on what’s helped me. I was pretty obsessed with the idea of owning a house but I now like to think that not owning a house gives me the ultimate flexibility. Yes, renting is expensive and can be stressful but I can take a job I like somewhere (anywhere) else with little upheaval. I can move somewhere else easily if I want to experience a new city. I don’t have to do much when I move in/out as I still rent furnished. Some people only have a house through family wealth/inheritance and not through any particular success (which is fine btw, it’s just a fact).
I understand why people want that security and ownership and you’re not being a snowflake. But I was in a constant cycle of ‘I can’t attain this, everyone else has, I must be failing’ and I had to remove myself from the obsession of documenting every success as a big announcement on social media, take a break and assess what it was I actually wanted. I’ve realised that for me, all I want stability, security and to have a nice time and I don’t necessarily have to get that through house ownership or marriage or children. But that’s me
personally and I appreciate it might not reflect how you feel if these things are important to you (and it’s ok if they are!)
However, I’d try not to spend too much time stressing over it. I spent my entire 20s worrying about saving money and progressing in my job after a career change and then as soon as I felt like I’d got back to where I was previously, I had to spend it all on mobility aids and take a 50% pay cut because I became ill. What a waste of time and energy that was
finishing off by saying I seem to be completely unable to write a short tattle post I keep submitting a thesis in each thread, apologies
I understand why people want that security and ownership and you’re not being a snowflake. But I was in a constant cycle of ‘I can’t attain this, everyone else has, I must be failing’ and I had to remove myself from the obsession of documenting every success as a big announcement on social media, take a break and assess what it was I actually wanted. I’ve realised that for me, all I want stability, security and to have a nice time and I don’t necessarily have to get that through house ownership or marriage or children. But that’s me
personally and I appreciate it might not reflect how you feel if these things are important to you (and it’s ok if they are!)
However, I’d try not to spend too much time stressing over it. I spent my entire 20s worrying about saving money and progressing in my job after a career change and then as soon as I felt like I’d got back to where I was previously, I had to spend it all on mobility aids and take a 50% pay cut because I became ill. What a waste of time and energy that was
finishing off by saying I seem to be completely unable to write a short tattle post I keep submitting a thesis in each thread, apologies