Dirty Dan sounds like a horrible character and needs to take responsibility for what he does. BUT, and this is a big BUT.
Bullshitter Alice is an adult, she is a parent, she has a family around her. She has children she needs to protect and support.
If you go back through the chronology this is not a sophisticated conman taking advantage of a poor harmless single mum. This is two fantasists embarking on a doomed relationship.
THE WARNING SIGNS
1) He has dead eyes
2) Way too many Emoji's
3) It was obvious he had bought his insta followers from the engagement levels. She knew this
4) The person you have just met is happy to meet your kids within 1 week.
5) The person you have just met doesn't have anywhere to be, they can spend all their time with you, go on holiday at the drop of a hat.
6) We raised questions that they took seriously enough to respond to. So, BA was fully aware
7) It now looks like the story they concocted about knowing each other before, about having met each other's families etc was lies. So BA was complicit in the lies.
8) On a forum, BA reads (Tattle) people posed serious questions about Dirty Dan being a conman.
9) On the same forum, the posters hypothesized all sorts of conspiracies based on how ridiculous your life was looking.
10) Dirty Dan set up at least 10 accounts on here which BA must have read. We spotted him every time because his bitterness just seeps out of his words. It is there after a couple of lines and this is with him trying his hardest not to be spotted. This must-have shown through to her.
10) The person you have just met either suggests or agrees with your suggestion to move in together.
11) Then they tell you they can't be on the lease.
12) The person you have just met starts borrowing money to pay off debts.
How do you respond to all these warning signs? You uproot your children to move 50 miles away, to move in with someone who you must have very strong suspicions is not who they are pretending to be.
You could not make it up