Sounds like he isn’t really ready for the help at all, he’s just paying lip service to it. Hopefully he’s ready to make the leap properly soon.
Sounds like he isn’t really ready for the help at all, he’s just paying lip service to it. Hopefully he’s ready to make the leap properly soon.My OH had finally reached out for help but he isnt really trying. He sets targets and fails at each one, justifies and excuses drinking.. im so sick of him being useless falling asleep on the sofa the next day, snapping at the kids, leaving me feeling like im alone, the worry of what he'll do when drunk (nothing violent!) .. its just so draining. Its hard to stay, but its hard to leave.
He isnt, at all. He is still avoiding dealing with what drives him to drink. Before drink, it was something else. Before that, something else. I'm so drained from it. I just don't know what it will take.Sounds like he isn’t really ready for the help at all, he’s just paying lip service to it. Hopefully he’s ready to make the leap properly soon.
I really feel for you. This is so draining. People won't break their addiction unless they are motivated to do it. Everyone around them can do all they can but unless the alcoholic wants to stop, it's all a waste of time.He isnt, at all. He is still avoiding dealing with what drives him to drink. Before drink, it was something else. Before that, something else. I'm so drained from it. I just don't know what it will take.
Just to say I feel for you. Its an exhausting process to be a part of and unfortunately alcoholics have no regard for how they make us feel.He isnt, at all. He is still avoiding dealing with what drives him to drink. Before drink, it was something else. Before that, something else. I'm so drained from it. I just don't know what it will take.
I hope you have a lovely break, and that you’re able to switch off your worries about what’s happening back home.HI everybody, just checking in and hope you all ok. Husband still sober, going to AA daily. I am going on holiday on Sunday leaving him by himself, so of course i am a little nervous that i am not at home checking on him. But I really do not time away recovering from all the 2021 trauma.
I hope you and the addict in your life recovery and forgiveness.
Love to you all
Fantastic, so pleased for you.he stayed sober!!!
You have to put yourself and your children first. If he refuses to acknowledge that he has a problem, won’t discuss it, won’t take an ultimatum…. What are you expecting to happen? He’s going to get worse and worse and worse. This isn’t going to get better. He’s refusing to put you or your children before his addiction and won’t even meet you half way. That’s no life for you as his partner and sure as shit as no way to bring children up with a drunk father.My husband is still drinking between 350-700ml each week. His first reaction to any stressor is to drink, but it’s obviously just an excuse for him to drink. I don’t really know what to do. I don’t want to leave. An ultimatum wouldn’t work on him. Every time I say anything about his drinking he gets annoyed and dismissive. He is very much in denial. He’s always sick and tired and won’t acknowledge that alcohol could (guaranteed does) have a part to play in how terrible he feels most of the time. I’m pregnant with our second child. I avoid him when he’s drinking and go to bed because I can’t stand the smell or how relaxed he gets when the alcohol kicks in. I’m just really tired of it. I know his drinking has nothing to do with me but it’s hard not to take it personally. When he started having 1 or 2 midweek 3 years ago, I thought it was funny that he was a bit hungover the next morning. I never thought this was where I’d end up.
My coping mechanism is the same, but its hard to watch someone you love going through it.I have a close family member who is an alcoholic in denial (and has been for as long as I can remember). I certainly won't be alone. I don't want sympathy, but I wanted to enquire about coping mechanisms.
My coping mechanisms have been to distance myself, not to deal with them when drunk - so perhaps matching their denial with my own!
Is anyone else willing to share?
I'm sorry to hear thisHi all, I have messaged in here before about my dad and his binge drinking. We are currently in another binge period - since February he has been drinking everyday and just lying in his bed. I haven’t gone along much or phoned him but it is just really hanging over my head. I was looking at old photos and came across one of him as a little boy and I just felt so sad for him, and what he has become. He is such a talented, funny person with such a dark cloud over his head. I hope you are all doing ok
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