I had intended to have an adults only wedding aside from 3 nieces and nephews that I wouldn’t have dreamt of doing it without.
This then lead to me inviting mother family members children only ( children of cousins mainly ) but not my friends children.
In the end none of my cousins brought their children and all wrote on their RSVP that THEY would rather enjoy the day without having to worry about them.
I didn’t directly or indirectly address not inviting my friends children with them. I just put the couples name on the invites, there were no issues whatsoever and once again all of my friends seemed more than happy to be able to enjoy the day without having to worry about their kids.
It’s your wedding, it’s costing you a lot of money and you want to be able to enjoy the day. Too many people have opinions about who should and should not be invited to weddings, but it should all be down to that particular bride and groom, no one should pass judgement. I always say that when it comes to weddings no one should ever assume they will be invited and if I am then I am always quite honoured to be asked and would go along with the couples wishes happily (ie no children).
Besides, invites go out early enough these days that people know the situation giving them time to arrange childcare etc. You do what makes you happy.