Adult Only Wedding

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I got married in Vegas and nobody brought their children on an intercontinental flight to go through a wedding in a chapel next to a casino 😂
Seriously tho, I would say something for sure in the invitation, maybe phrasing with emphasis about not being able to offer children entertainment or childcare during the service and the dinner/buffet as the event is geared towards adult guests only.
 
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A good friend of mine just had her child free wedding, and it was a great one. She had a few nieces and nephews at the ceremony but they had to disappear at about 4. There might have been some grumbling but overall I think people respected their wishes (I know I did!)

They phrased it :

“As mentioned on the invite, we’ve decided not to invite children to our wedding. Please don’t take this personally, but we’d rather everyone was free to kick back and relax without worrying about stepping on a small person. Obviously this doesn’t apply if you’re breastfeeding at the time of the wedding.”
 
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It’s your wedding so you do what’s right for you. We only had children that was immediate family and on our invites we just sais something along the lines of ‘unfortunately we will not be inviting children other than immediate family so enjoy the day/night off !’
 
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There are some lovely little poems and ideas online of things you could put into the invite.
I've been to several weddings which have been child free, and I was completely fine finding childcare for my children. The only time it's caused an issue is when my youngest child was just under four months old and I was exclusively breastfeeding at the time. I'd expressed enough for the grandparents to feed him, however come 8:30pm I was totally uncomfortable, leaking boobs and there was nowhere for me to pump (wedding in a field and only stinky porterloos). I left at 9pm to get back to my family by 10pm (after being at the wedding from 7:30am) and the bride went ballistic at me. :-( Maybe I was being unreasonable, who knows, but I got mastitis after that wedding.
 
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There are some lovely little poems and ideas online of things you could put into the invite.
I've been to several weddings which have been child free, and I was completely fine finding childcare for my children. The only time it's caused an issue is when my youngest child was just under four months old and I was exclusively breastfeeding at the time. I'd expressed enough for the grandparents to feed him, however come 8:30pm I was totally uncomfortable, leaking boobs and there was nowhere for me to pump (wedding in a field and only stinky porterloos). I left at 9pm to get back to my family by 10pm (after being at the wedding from 7:30am) and the bride went ballistic at me. :-( Maybe I was being unreasonable, who knows, but I got mastitis after that wedding.
I think if you have such a tiny baby, you should be able to ask the couple if you can bring your kiddo
 
We had a child free wedding, apart from our children and one of my bridesmaid’s son who walked her down the aisle. We just out at the bottom of the invite “unfortunately due to number restrictions at our chosen venue we are unable to accommodate children”
 
I think if you have such a tiny baby, you should be able to ask the couple if you can bring your kiddo

Nooooooo!


If the couple have specified that it’s an adults only event then that’s what it is. They will be aware of any guests that have children but they have decided they don’t want kids at their wedding - breastfeeding babies or screaming toddlers.

It would put them in such an awkward position if they have said it’s an adults only wedding and then someone asks to bring a child. Don’t do it!!!!

Either find childcare and make appropriate arrangements or decline the invitation. 🤷🏼‍♀️
 
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Your wedding your choice but i would say if people decline the invite don’t be horrible about it.

some people don’t have childcare, are not happy leaving their children with strangers etc (I would never leave my kids with a babysitter I didn’t personally know so the offer of local childcare would not be used) so if you are fine with some people maybe not being able to make it, go ahead x
 
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We were told my husbands cousins wedding was CF. So we got a babysitter, no issue... Then the night do came and thier were kids from the grooms family that "we couldnt say no to" really pissed off my husbands family as none of us brought our kids. Some had even travelled pretty far to be thier and had to leave thier kids for the weekend.
 
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We were told my husbands cousins wedding was CF. So we got a babysitter, no issue... Then the night do came and thier were kids from the grooms family that "we couldnt say no to" really pissed off my husbands family as none of us brought our kids. Some had even travelled pretty far to be thier and had to leave thier kids for the weekend.

That's what really annoys me!
 
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We were told my husbands cousins wedding was CF. So we got a babysitter, no issue... Then the night do came and thier were kids from the grooms family that "we couldnt say no to" really pissed off my husbands family as none of us brought our kids. Some had even travelled pretty far to be thier and had to leave thier kids for the weekend.
Thing is, we have a small family, the only kids in it are my SO's niece and nephew. The niece and nephew are going to be part of the wedding party so that is the only kids we will be having. Our wedding list is pretty small anyway, around 40 people. Haha.

I've spoken to friends about it who had adult-only weddings, the exception being two kids in the wedding party that were family and they had no issues.

Many of our friends have babysitters apart from one couple who's kid is a nightmare. In fact, their child is the only one I REALLY don't want at the wedding BUT you can't not invite just one child. So that is why it will be no children apart from the two in the wedding party.

Nooooooo!


If the couple have specified that it’s an adults only event then that’s what it is. They will be aware of any guests that have children but they have decided they don’t want kids at their wedding - breastfeeding babies or screaming toddlers.

It would put them in such an awkward position if they have said it’s an adults only wedding and then someone asks to bring a child. Don’t do it!!!!

Either find childcare and make appropriate arrangements or decline the invitation. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Yep, I would rather someone decline the invitation. No children apart from the two in the wedding party. No exceptions.

And I wouldn't be horrible about someone declining. A lot of my friends I have spoken to with young children said they'd prefer to go to a wedding w/out kids as it is day off. Haha.
 
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There are some lovely little poems and ideas online of things you could put into the invite.
I've been to several weddings which have been child free, and I was completely fine finding childcare for my children. The only time it's caused an issue is when my youngest child was just under four months old and I was exclusively breastfeeding at the time. I'd expressed enough for the grandparents to feed him, however come 8:30pm I was totally uncomfortable, leaking boobs and there was nowhere for me to pump (wedding in a field and only stinky porterloos). I left at 9pm to get back to my family by 10pm (after being at the wedding from 7:30am) and the bride went ballistic at me. :-( Maybe I was being unreasonable, who knows, but I got mastitis after that wedding.
I think if you have such a tiny baby, you should be able to ask the couple if you can bring your kiddo
Nooooooo!


If the couple have specified that it’s an adults only event then that’s what it is. They will be aware of any guests that have children but they have decided they don’t want kids at their wedding - breastfeeding babies or screaming toddlers.

It would put them in such an awkward position if they have said it’s an adults only wedding and then someone asks to bring a child. Don’t do it!!!!

Either find childcare and make appropriate arrangements or decline the invitation. 🤷🏼‍♀️
If it’s the wedding of someone you really care about though surely they’d understand if you are literally breastfeeding and it’s causing you physical pain to be away from the baby for that long! Sandra mentions the bride going ballistic at her for leaving. I think people forget their humanity in their quest for the perfect wedding.

We had kids at our wedding and it was lovely. Their little faces seeing me in my dress is one of my favourite memories. One thought I’d actually turned into a princess. It’s good for the ego.

However a family member brought their dog without asking (in a pretty fancy hotel), the fiancé of one of my bridesmaids is very very allergic and I didn’t want dog hair on my dress so what could we do but ask them to leave the dog in the room. It barked the place down and other guests complained to reception. I just couldn’t believe they’d put us in that position.
 
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Each to there own. I personally wouldn’t be fussed if I couldn’t bring my child. It’s there wedding day it should be how they want it. I would just be blunt and put adults only on the invite. It then leaves no one mistaking what you want. We went aboard to get married on our own. Honestly the best thing we ever did. No drama and nice relaxed day :) x
 
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I want an adult-only wedding, but my partner has a LOT of children in his family (including 5 nieces and nephews under 10 and a 10-year old brother) and then there's me with no children in the family! So I will have to try and persuade him!

I say go for it though, if they can't make it, would it ruin your day?
 
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We had a family wedding where my daughter wasn’t invited. I was more upset about the way it was handled-no chat about it being an Adults only wedding or even a message with the invites. They simply just left her off the invite. That in my opinion is not the right way to do that.

I’d include a note with the invite or speak to those with kids to say it is adults only.
Oh grow up was left off the invite because she wasn’t invited, she still wouldn’t be invited if a gentle poem explaining this was delivered to you by white doves
 
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Oh grow up was left off the invite because she wasn’t invited, she still wouldn’t be invited if a gentle poem explaining this was delivered to you by white doves
Ha, grow up?! You know nothing apart from the bare minimum I chose to share to help the OP. Your opinion means nothing to me as you don’t know about conversations that were had, promises that were made or my family’s dynamics.
For the record, I had an adult only wedding but chose to speak to my friends with kids before I sent the invites. That was my point, that the conversation might be awkward but it is better in the long run.
 
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Ha, grow up?! You know nothing apart from the bare minimum I chose to share to help the OP. Your opinion means nothing to me as you don’t know about conversations that were had, promises that were made or my family’s dynamics.
For the record, I had an adult only wedding but chose to speak to my friends with kids before I sent the invites. That was my point, that the conversation might be awkward but it is better in the long run.
I also had an adults only wedding and just sent the invitations to the adults. No one was butt hurt so yes, grow up
 
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Keep seeing this pop up so thought I’d come have a read. I have to admit until reading this I wouldn’t have considered the idea that just because my kids names aren’t on the invite means they’re not invited. I would have just assumed they’d be invited unless stated otherwise. I think it would be beneficial to mention the fact it’s adults only. Either within the invite wording or just speak to those concerned.

For what it’s worth I’d be happy with it being an adult only wedding, more fun for me and my boyfriend anyway 😂
 
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We had an adult only wedding, except for our kids and our god children Not one person moaned and many were grateful for the excuse to have a weekend away child free.

It’s becoming more the norm now, but it does help if you give your guests a lot of notice so they can enlist grandparents etc

If we hadn’t said no kids then we’d have had 42 seats taken up by our closest friends kids, meaning we couldn’t invite all our family, other friends and colleagues because our venue could only seat 85
 
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I also had an adults only wedding and just sent the invitations to the adults. No one was butt hurt so yes, grow up
You sound like such a twit, people were probably glad to have an excuse not to come to your wedding
 
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