Good points, yes. Perception is everything.In terms of appearance yes (it's probably whey the Democrats wanted him to the nominee so badly) he just looked more conservative and to be fair had a history of being more of the right of the party however he ran a more left leaning campaign than Obama and Hillary Clinton adopting a significant number of Bernie Sanders policies and messaging and even in office his domestic agenda was more socially progressive or 'woke'. Of course he kinda ruined his progressive credentials with his unwavering support of Israel's actions in Gaza.
Then you have Harris who never big deal about about being a woman, never liked mentioning race or LGBT issues, leaned more to the right on both policing and immigration and yet was still perceived as woke by her opponents. Given that the reason she lost was far less Democrat voters turning up to vote allowing Trump (who got nearly the same votes than he got in 2020 when he lost) sneak in. We'll never know but I wonder what would have happened if she hadn't caved and took a harsher line on Israel and had more economically and socially progressive (ie: woke) policies. Could she have gotten vote numbers similar to Biden's? Given how close a lot of the swing states were it's compelling to think about.