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Actually, Lionesses sleep outside with their cubs all the time. Such a western human standpoint. SMH.I know the defence have a job to do, but describing this woman as a lioness protecting her cubs is far from the truth!
Actually, Lionesses sleep outside with their cubs all the time. Such a western human standpoint. SMH.I know the defence have a job to do, but describing this woman as a lioness protecting her cubs is far from the truth!
Jesus. she is basically knowledge-proof, isn't she?And the way she said "you always put babies down on their front" ... I know things change all the time but my eldest neice is 14 and it was on their backs, back then.
They do once they're born, they don't before.CM's potential future babies have human rights too.
I think you misunderstood me a little bit to honest. I was involved in the social care system myself as a child and I also studied social care at Masters level.I think it’s hard to make blanket statements to be honest.
A wrong removal can do a hell of a lot of damage to both the child(ren) and the parent(s) especially if the placement is not suited to the child.
It’s still a better alternative than the extreme cases we hear about but most removals don’t fall into that category.
I feel sorry for the individual SWs on the ground because they’re damned if they do and damned if they don’t and trapped by a failed system but the issues with the system as a whole have been patently clear for a long time and the upper figures need to stop whining about damned either way and overhaul it. It’s not anti-SS to say they make a hell of a lot of mistakes and while yes, they get more flack for it than Roberta in the office who messed up a spreadsheet and ordered 20000 bics instead of 200, that’s because their mistakes have massive consequences. They face the same amount of flack as eg a doctor who makes a mistake and it has life changing consequences. Some mistakes are worse than others.
I’ve no doubt she was. Cold, hungry and in pain. IMO every single choice they made were ones to conceal Victoria and therefore were only to benefit themselves. Never what would have been best for her and often ensuring she was especially vulnerable.This probably explains the screaming baby. She was in agony.
I agree. I think some parents don't see their children as separate humans with their own needs. The child is an extension of them and also their possession. The adult wants overrides the child's needs, but the parents sense of self is so damaged that they won't give up their child as that is somehow winning. It's all about the fight to get THEIR child back. The child belongs to them so they can do what they like. I'm thinking of Finlay Boden and Ellie Butler as cases where the children were both removed after social work and courts but then returned to the parents who killed themI think there are lots of parents that don’t love their children or maybe they think they do, but they really don’t.
There’s been a few cases on the news over the last few years of parents killing their children or allowing their children to be killed, these people do not love their children.
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I don’t see how CM could care about that baby after she manhandled her like a rag doll. I don’t believe they wanted to keep her because they loved her. There’s something more sinister about all of this.
I've also carried my babies in slings and even following the guidelines I was so paranoid at first, constantly checking them and their positioning, re adjusting them etc. The guidelines state baby should be Tight, In View, Close Enough to Kiss, Keep Chin Off Chest, Supported Back, having a baby slumped inside a jacket supported only with your arm outside that coat literally goes against all of them. I wore my babies inside my coat but with it zipped as far as the back of the sling, their head fully out of the top, with a hat on if it was cold. I did that because I read it is safer to do so because if you're too hot they are and vice versa. Constance being the all knowing excellent mother that she is would surely know this too? It wasn't about keeping Victoria safe or warm it was about keeping her hidden and I don't believe she would have kept her that way in the tent when they were "away from prying eyes".Sorry I’ve been flat out but keeping an eye on things from a distance so haven’t had time to comment..
I can’t get my head around how she thought it was ok??? I honestly believe she thinks walking around with a baby zipped up inside her coat is an ok thing to do and won’t cause any harm!! I have spent a majority of the past decade baby wearing (in a sling) and the number one rule is to make sure their breathing is unobstructed and baby is high enough that you can “comfortably kiss their head”! Not shoved down a padded jacket, where they can’t see, you can’t see them and they are slowly breathing in more and more of their own carbon dioxide!!
I’m looking forward to hearing the judges remarks… although I’m dreading the sentencing if theyre found guilty, there’s been a few cases recently with years and years of awful neglect, found guilty of GNM and they are only sentenced to a few years - it’s awful!!
Totally. A few of her comments have come across so so badly today. Latest being 'we didn't have a penchant for tents'. And earlier 'I like the feathered duvets and comfort' and 'I'd rather be in a plush bed in a palace'. So snotty - all of it. It doesn't sound like someone who is devastated and sorry and driven to the edge of despair. It sounds like what she is - someone who was arrogantly determined that they knew what was best, and still is despite their actions likely having caused the death of their child.Thanks for that, I hadn’t thought about it in that way. The historical conviction in itself wouldn’t be enough to remove the children but it would certainly be in the SS reports and in their minds when assessing the case.
With regards to her Jesus comment I think that’s horribly flippant when this case is brought considering the death of her own child. She’s showboating and trying to appear superior when most people would be regretful, and I hope that’s not lost on the jury.
I don't buy it at all.I dunno if I wholly buy that she was the victim of coercive control here TBH, rather than simply being utterly deluded.
I understand what you’re saying.I feel like I have to keep saying this- I’m not defending their actions. I’m also not suggesting they deserve our kindness.
What I am saying though, is that we should be kind to each other. There will undoubtedly be women (thousands of people are reading this thread) who are reading the comments here and wondering why they’ve failed because they’ve no maternal instinct. Even women who might have just had their 3rd/4th baby and still not felt that. When they’ve not failed at all. It’s just an expectation that we as women pile on each other in a way we don’t do to men.
I’m not wanting to police the thread either- I always notice how for the most part these threads become a safe space where people are able to share their experiences and I’ve personally learned a lot from reading and listening to people. On a topic that is so horrendous it’s genuinely nice to be reminded of the fact that 99.999999% of human beings are decent people.