I’m another one who is a recovering alcoholic. It’s hard for me to admit this but for years I was obsessed with alcohol in the same way BM is. Always trying to rationalise or explain away my drinking. I would do dry Jan and obsess over how many hours/days I had been alcohol free for, thinking of the drinks I would have “earned” come the 1st of Feb. Weirdly the only time I found it easy to stay sober was when I was pregnant, but even then I went back to alcohol dependence after both pregnancies. I’m not proud of it AT ALL but I’m sober and have been since a June 2021. Life is so much better on the other side. I hope for her kids’ sake she has a wake up call one day. My kids never saw me drunk but I wasn’t the best parent I could be to them and I’m so grateful for the chance to be that for the rest of my life.