BarryEvansHun
Active member
I have not read the entire first thread on BR. So I’m not 100% sure what’s happened after the show was aired.
But this the most realistic series depicting the behaviours around SA I’ve ever seen in my life.
The fear and shame around having a bond with your abuser(s), not being able to not stop yourself going back for more and more abuse, the constant confusion that makes you act out in ways you could not imagine.
Also hearing and seeing people’s reactions on how fucked up it is, how he could have stopped it at anytime, how he has a part to play, etc really has reminded me how far we still have to go in order to understand victims of SA.
I was 8 years old when I started getting abused, I wasn’t a scared little victim petrified of my own shadow, I was infatuated with him (aged 45). Even after he received a 13 year prison sentence, I didn’t believe it was rape. Until I saw a therapist as an adult and learned abuse and trauma rewires the brain, rewires our reward system - which affect all other future relationships forever.
Needed to be shown. This is real life. Victims aren’t angels, we don’t need to be, to be heard.
But this the most realistic series depicting the behaviours around SA I’ve ever seen in my life.
The fear and shame around having a bond with your abuser(s), not being able to not stop yourself going back for more and more abuse, the constant confusion that makes you act out in ways you could not imagine.
Also hearing and seeing people’s reactions on how fucked up it is, how he could have stopped it at anytime, how he has a part to play, etc really has reminded me how far we still have to go in order to understand victims of SA.
I was 8 years old when I started getting abused, I wasn’t a scared little victim petrified of my own shadow, I was infatuated with him (aged 45). Even after he received a 13 year prison sentence, I didn’t believe it was rape. Until I saw a therapist as an adult and learned abuse and trauma rewires the brain, rewires our reward system - which affect all other future relationships forever.
Needed to be shown. This is real life. Victims aren’t angels, we don’t need to be, to be heard.