I could have written the first paragraphs too. I remember tidying out my mumās stuff after she died and sheād been carrying around a crappy poem my brother wrote for years and it broke me. It really stays with you doesnāt it? My mum had known her mum preferred my uncle so I thought she would have tried to break the cycle. Daddyās girl here too!
We saw on the recent holidays that Lily is a friend, camera woman and an extra carer for Max. I hope she treats her well too - sheās had a lot of upheaval in her short life. Thank god she seems to have a good relationship with her dad!
Aww I'm sorry to hear that, and that your mum passed. Just little things like that sting, don't they? My mum is a general hoarder of all gifts which causes all other issues! Thankfully it doesn't affect me on a regular basis, and doesn't affect my relationship with my parents or my brother as a rule but it does come out every now and then. My brother and I joke about it as he doesn't think she has favourites and I'm like "mate.... here's seven reasons today alone you're the favourite"
I actually think it's more obvious now we're adults which is actually probably better as there's less resentment there. My mum IS generally right, I am more independent than my brother and I probably wouldn't want her doing the things for me that she does for him
She does seem to have a good relationship with her dad. I'm sure I saw a comment in here about her wanting to go and live with him, but Vav wouldn't allow it.
She does seem to also have a lot of pressure put on her. They do a lot on the basis of the wee ones needs and she just has to deal with it too. They never really do anything just the two of them, which I think is important for any parent and child relationship.
I hope its all being done offline, but given how much Vav records, she could even record the set up, or scenery to show she's out and about. The fact it's not says to me it's not happening as much as it should be.