I cut my husbands mother off a few years ago as the final straw to her behavior. She was always used to being in control and having what she says goes. Unfortunately for her, her son married me and that behaviour doesn’t sit right with me nor will I allow our child to believe that is how you treat people in life. She has never been held accountable for her behaviour until I called her out on it (after many years). My family are close and we treat each other with respect. Your position within the family certainly doesn’t give you a pass for shitty behaviour. Situation now is her and her partner will never step foot into my house again, they see my child when I say and hubby can go round when he likes it’s his mother at the end of the day. The sister in law has recently gone underground so I presume she’s realised I’ll never allow her mother back in our family life and has taken her side. That’s fine. FIL is a diamond, worship the ground he walks on. He’s a real family man. Continual apologies don’t work for me, only a change in behaviour shows how truly sorry somebody is. My child knows the score, I will never defend toxic, shitty people however I put no pressure on them to not go round but should they ever drag my name through the mud in my child’s presence they will be cut off in a heartbeat.
Funny though I know one of them stalks my SM so I have a bit of fun with that every now and again. Childish I know but play that game with me and I’ll burn you.
The shock of his comment probably stopped you all in your tracks and maybe, not only embarrassed you but the other people on the call too. Would’ve been better if MIL could’ve text you later on and said ‘I’ve had a word with him about what he said, he was out of order etc etc’ Just an acknowledgment would’ve been better than her silence! I hope it goes ok for you at weekend
