I have very conflicted views on my accent my family are all yorkshire born and bred but both my parents have quite soft spoken mild accents then they spilt up and i moved to fairly run down part of teeside and thats the accent i,m stuck with despite only living there about 10 years and then moving to london where i,ve been about 20 years now.
To tell the truth my accent alienated me and made me feel like a bit of an outcast.
Its hard to be so different and i was young and lonely and then a new mother with no family and i became very self conscious almost paranoid.The horrible thing is when you feel like that people pick up on it and it only makes things worse.I felt rejected from the wealthy mothers because i was working class and a bit defensive maybe i looked a bit hard faced and i,d find them being polite but keeping me at a distance the only other mothers were either immigrants or londoners born and bred and the thing that i most noticed was that in london everyone seems to stick to their groups almost tribal but i had no group to belong to!
Its natural isn,t it to want to belong to a community or stay with similar people but i felt out on a limb.
Plus i,m introverted by nature and in the end i just shut down a bit and didn,t really initiate conversation with people for fear that they would already have a prejudice about me and that i,d only confirm it.
Can i just say because its seldom really talked about but women with a working class accent are i feel heavily discriminated against i know the reverse is true as well i find myself either freezing or fawning(and i hate myself for it) when i hear what seems like for a better word a posh accent.
I find britain to be very heavily segregated and riddled not only by class prejudice but by colour gender and economics.
When the chips are down and things are not going well this can be pretty devastating sometimes.Life here is very insular and hermit like being indoors a lot(the weather does not help!) Chances for socialisation are rare unless you go to the pub or are out on the prowl looking for fleeting fun!
The things i enjoyed doing were all things i could do alone (cinema,art galleries,museum) So i did everything myself or with my kids and thats the point i want to make accents show where you are from but they don,t show who you are! Also any accent can be percieved in a negative or positive light but some accents have more clout than others because they convey privilege and a sense of wealth.
Now wealth is not just money but status,health aspirations and to a certain degree confidence. When you feel poor and others reinforce this it can put you on a doward spiral of low self esteem frustration antagonism and even despair.
I strongly believe that no one should be mocked,ridiculed mimicked or talked down to because of the sound of their voice.
duck that its not banter and its passive aggresive and its putting people in what we think are their places (what arrogance is that to presume that you know where someone belongs.So i decided to come out of the woodwork and to stop feeling deprived and that only i would decide if i belonged or was accepted or not.
I cannot be jocular to have irony you need to feel secure and i never did to come from the poorest part of england was hard but its given me an edge i can also empathise with other lost souls who like me never felt as if they belonged anywhere either and i have compassion for the marginalised and the rejected and i know its not fake virtue signalling because i,ve been there too.
So yeah accents are great bullshit detectors because anyone who judges you negatively because of them are showing themselves to be unworthy of your attention and not deserving of your time or energy.
To tell the truth my accent alienated me and made me feel like a bit of an outcast.
Its hard to be so different and i was young and lonely and then a new mother with no family and i became very self conscious almost paranoid.The horrible thing is when you feel like that people pick up on it and it only makes things worse.I felt rejected from the wealthy mothers because i was working class and a bit defensive maybe i looked a bit hard faced and i,d find them being polite but keeping me at a distance the only other mothers were either immigrants or londoners born and bred and the thing that i most noticed was that in london everyone seems to stick to their groups almost tribal but i had no group to belong to!
Its natural isn,t it to want to belong to a community or stay with similar people but i felt out on a limb.
Plus i,m introverted by nature and in the end i just shut down a bit and didn,t really initiate conversation with people for fear that they would already have a prejudice about me and that i,d only confirm it.
Can i just say because its seldom really talked about but women with a working class accent are i feel heavily discriminated against i know the reverse is true as well i find myself either freezing or fawning(and i hate myself for it) when i hear what seems like for a better word a posh accent.
I find britain to be very heavily segregated and riddled not only by class prejudice but by colour gender and economics.
When the chips are down and things are not going well this can be pretty devastating sometimes.Life here is very insular and hermit like being indoors a lot(the weather does not help!) Chances for socialisation are rare unless you go to the pub or are out on the prowl looking for fleeting fun!
The things i enjoyed doing were all things i could do alone (cinema,art galleries,museum) So i did everything myself or with my kids and thats the point i want to make accents show where you are from but they don,t show who you are! Also any accent can be percieved in a negative or positive light but some accents have more clout than others because they convey privilege and a sense of wealth.
Now wealth is not just money but status,health aspirations and to a certain degree confidence. When you feel poor and others reinforce this it can put you on a doward spiral of low self esteem frustration antagonism and even despair.
I strongly believe that no one should be mocked,ridiculed mimicked or talked down to because of the sound of their voice.
duck that its not banter and its passive aggresive and its putting people in what we think are their places (what arrogance is that to presume that you know where someone belongs.So i decided to come out of the woodwork and to stop feeling deprived and that only i would decide if i belonged or was accepted or not.
I cannot be jocular to have irony you need to feel secure and i never did to come from the poorest part of england was hard but its given me an edge i can also empathise with other lost souls who like me never felt as if they belonged anywhere either and i have compassion for the marginalised and the rejected and i know its not fake virtue signalling because i,ve been there too.
So yeah accents are great bullshit detectors because anyone who judges you negatively because of them are showing themselves to be unworthy of your attention and not deserving of your time or energy.