Work & ex husband

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Agree with this. You need proper legal advice. Don’t sign a damn thing!!!!! Get legal advice ASAP.
Technically I’m still his wife, I’ve ripped the contract up, another family member works there & they swan in as & when they choose but still get a salary & don’t have to use a time sheet, I’ve been ‘demoted’ for no reason other than we have split up

If it was me in your situation. I would be behaving like a right little madam . I'd probably be cancelling their work or something.
I’ve started messing about at work, taking more breaks, more so that I don’t have to listen to them laughing & joking together, his solution was I wore earphones so don’t hear them!
 
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Sounds like he is doing more to wind you up.

Don't let your standards slip because of him.

Hold your head up, do your work correctly and don't let yourself down.
 
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Go to the doctor. Get signed off on sick leave due to your mental health being effected. Look for a new job while you are on such leave.
He has a legal obligation to pay for his kids so seek legal advice from citizens advice in that.
Most companies only offer SSP which is absolutely appalling. She would be better off on fourlough
 
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He can’t demote you for that reason. If he’s not careful he’ll have an expensive divorce on his hands and an employment tribunal. definitely seek legal advice from CAB as soon as you can


Technically I’m still his wife, I’ve ripped the contract up, another family member works there & they swan in as & when they choose but still get a salary & don’t have to use a time sheet, I’ve been ‘demoted’ for no reason other than we have split up



I’ve started messing about at work, taking more breaks, more so that I don’t have to listen to them laughing & joking together, his solution was I wore earphones so don’t hear them!
 
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Husband or not he can not just demote you for that reason, please seek legal/employment advice and go to town on his sorry a!
 
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Is she not embarrassed or is she being a fool flattered by the bosses attention?
They are both fools, she is a lot younger than him it’s the boss & employee cliche but they flirted at work in front of me before we even split up & he has admitted to that, part of me wants to smash their faces in but I know I’m better than that!

He can’t demote you for that reason. If he’s not careful he’ll have an expensive divorce on his hands and an employment tribunal. definitely seek legal advice from CAB as soon as you can
I’ve made a free appointment with a solicitor to see where I stand, I will take this further if I have to, in some ways I feel bullied & singled out plus completely embarrassed that I’ve been demoted like this.
 
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Don’t sign anything
Get some legal advice & as hard as it is right now not to lose your head, make damn sure you keep your dignity at work! By all means break your heart when you walk out at night but whilst there you must be the bigger person. Good luck x
 
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Please don’t sign any contracts! When you communicate with him about HR issues, follow it up with an email or do it by email. Keep a record of EVERYTHING. Seek free legal advice then duck him over. Bide your time. I’d instruct child support agency too and get an agreement that he will pay for them.
 
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Please don't sign anything. Can you get legal advice? It sounds as though he's winding you up because he's hoping that if he does so, you'll have enough and will just leave.
 
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Need some advice really, I split with my husband last month, my choice number of things, we work together, he has his own business & I’ve worked there on & off for a few yrs, the problem I have is he is currently seeing an employee who also works there & it’s so uncomfortable, I have a feeling the relationship started way before we split up!

It’s taking me all my time not to have an outburst at work, I hear them laughing & joking, I don’t have anyone to talk to in or out of work really. I’m so bloody lonely, his excuse is I broke it off with him so he doesn’t see the problem but I see it as he has zero respect for me in the workplace. It wouldn’t bother me at all if we didn’t have to work together & left their personal life outside the workplace.
Oh crikey what a situation to be in.

You are hearing them talking and laughing and they are most likely laying it on a bit thick for your benefit, knowing that you can hear them.

Do you have shares in his business? I hope that you do as that will give you more leverage.

I would be inclined to seek legal advice as to what your next step might be.
 
Oh crikey what a situation to be in.

You are hearing them talking and laughing and they are most likely laying it on a bit thick for your benefit, knowing that you can hear them.

Do you have shares in his business? I hope that you do as that will give you more leverage.

I would be inclined to seek legal advice as to what your next step might be.
Don’t have shares, my husband & another family member are directors & shareholders, I just keep being told because we are ‘separated’ I’m not entitled to anything even though I’m still legally his wife!
 
Don’t have shares, my husband & another family member are directors & shareholders, I just keep being told because we are ‘separated’ I’m not entitled to anything even though I’m still legally his wife!
Are you involved in the business at all aside from being an employee there? Did you put any money into it?

you need to get proper legal advice. Ignore whatever tit he’s telling you. Get legal advice regarding work and legal advice regarding the separation/money/child support etc. Where are you both living? Do you own a home together? What about money/bank accounts etc?
 
Are you involved in the business at all aside from being an employee there? Did you put any money into it?

you need to get proper legal advice. Ignore whatever tit he’s telling you. Get legal advice regarding work and legal advice regarding the separation/money/child support etc. Where are you both living? Do you own a home together? What about money/bank accounts etc?
I work in the business & have done for about 5yrs so I’ve put my part into it, I live in our home with our kids, he lives with his mum, he seems to think because we aren’t together anymore ie separated he isn’t committing adultery but we are still married, he wants me to sign my part of the business over to him & he will sign the house over to me, I’m not stupid I want what belongs to our kids & again he thinks he can make me sign a zero hour contract, put me on a time sheet & hourly wage instead of a salary because we are separated, he thinks I’m thick.
 
I work in the business & have done for about 5yrs so I’ve put my part into it, I live in our home with our kids, he lives with his mum, he seems to think because we aren’t together anymore ie separated he isn’t committing adultery but we are still married, he wants me to sign my part of the business over to him & he will sign the house over to me, I’m not stupid I want what belongs to our kids & again he thinks he can make me sign a zero hour contract, put me on a time sheet & hourly wage instead of a salary because we are separated, he thinks I’m thick.
God he sounds like an absolute bleep 🤦🏽‍♀️ Get legal advice, don’t sign a thing and let him know you’ll be taking it further. Who the hell does he think he is 😖
 
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I work in the business & have done for about 5yrs so I’ve put my part into it, I live in our home with our kids, he lives with his mum, he seems to think because we aren’t together anymore ie separated he isn’t committing adultery but we are still married, he wants me to sign my part of the business over to him & he will sign the house over to me, I’m not stupid I want what belongs to our kids & again he thinks he can make me sign a zero hour contract, put me on a time sheet & hourly wage instead of a salary because we are separated, he thinks I’m thick.
I work in family law and you could petition on the basis of adultery because as you say, you're still married! I really hope you get some sound legal advice and find a way out of this. I feel for you, it sounds a horrendous situation to be in. But hold your head high, at least you know you're not the one who has behaved in an appalling manner. I also think the way he has gone about demoting you is all wrong, legal advice is also required for that too!
 
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He’s the thick one, zero hour contracts; demotion, hourly pay? He’s basically taking food out of his children’s mouth, don’t let him walk all over you or or children like that x
 
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Keep a diary of EVERYTHING. And try not to act on the way you are being treated. He cannot just force you out or demote you. Make sure you take the same salary/wage home. If he starts messing you about to much at work tell him you will take legal action if he keeps it up.
You need to play the long game here because once the divorce proceedings start you will be entitled to part of the business as well and if you contributed to the business ie working there etc your stake will probably be bigger than if you were just a stay at home mum.
Make sure you go out and find a really really good divorce solicitor and do it now! Being as he was the main provider you can stick him with your solicitor costs as well
 
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