I like this thread. It makes me feel less guilty for choosing not to be available 24/7.
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I do this if the persons last message to me is not worthy of much of a reply. If it’s menial chit chat I don’t go to the effort of replying.
What really irritates me sometimes is if I haven't replied to an email/message within an hour or two, they resend the message again and add a "?"
Now that really pisse me off, and makes me feel even more inclined to ignore them. Or at least put them to the back of the queue
Now that really pisse me off, and makes me feel even more inclined to ignore them. Or at least put them to the back of the queue
I have to admit, I'm terrible for forgetting to reply to messages. I currently have 383 unread text messages, 8 unread whatsapps, 9 unread instagram messages and 10 on Facebook Messenger.
I often see a notification come through when I'm busy at work and think "I'll reply to that when I get home". But then I get home, make dinner, do some uni work and often fall asleep so I forget about it.
I'm not ignoring people on purpose, and to be fair, most of my friends just ring me now if they need me. They understand I lead a busy life and don't expect a reply instantly. I'm just busy and my life isn't centred around answering my phone. If somebody needs me that urgently, they'll call.
I often see a notification come through when I'm busy at work and think "I'll reply to that when I get home". But then I get home, make dinner, do some uni work and often fall asleep so I forget about it.
I'm not ignoring people on purpose, and to be fair, most of my friends just ring me now if they need me. They understand I lead a busy life and don't expect a reply instantly. I'm just busy and my life isn't centred around answering my phone. If somebody needs me that urgently, they'll call.
I sometimes leave the vn on read but don't play them with a girl who sends me the most unnecessary vn EVER!
If i don't wanna reply to a msg i don't open it.
I like it when I'm texting people who don't allow the read option cuz it's just more relaxed tbh.
If i don't wanna reply to a msg i don't open it.
I like it when I'm texting people who don't allow the read option cuz it's just more relaxed tbh.
Sometimes when I’m out and about I’ll accidentally open a notification which marks the message as read but I haven’t actually read it, then I won’t respond until hours later once I’m home, so it’s not intentional it’s just my iPhone not asking for face recognition when my hand touches my phone.
I do this often, usually by complete mistake. I will read a message and could be in the middle of something with all the intentions to respond, for it to later on skip my mind. Unless it's a regular occurrence with somebody who you personally know for a fact is not that busy in real life and you know are forever on their phone. I wouldn't take offence.
Sometimes I'm not going to lie... If it is a long winded message about something I'm not that invested in, I often read and run. Not to be nasty but maybe at that specific time I just have something I'm prioritizing more.
Sometimes I'm not going to lie... If it is a long winded message about something I'm not that invested in, I often read and run. Not to be nasty but maybe at that specific time I just have something I'm prioritizing more.
Me too.
I don't reply to just a "hi", mass forward pictures, memes, or quotes. It's not even the effort of the person's own words. To me its the equivalent of getting an ad brochure in the post; you don't even look at it, you just throw it away, knowing already that it'll be irrelevant to you.
I used to feel obliged to but it's honestly a lot of effort on my part to always be the one that carries the conversation forward, for someone that's barely trying. If I'm thinking of someone, I send a proper message and let them know, and ask how they and the family are doing.
I have a friend that kept sending me generic quotes. I assumed she was mass forwarding them to everyone. She asked me once why I sometimes don't reply to her messages, and I was honestly confused. Told her I always reply. So she sent me screen shots of the cheesy memes and generic quotes that she had forwarded. I had replied to the text parts of the conversation, but never the memes/ quotes. I couldn't believe I was even being confronted with this of all the issues in the world. We're not kids. I told her (nicely of course, I know I'm sounding a bit harsh here) that I don't reply to mass forwards because I don't consider them conversation... or anything really. Thankfully she understood and stopped.
I'm sure there's people that like that sort of thing and consider it communication, but I don't have time for it and I don't want to make the time for it. I would be glued to a screen all day if I had to read and reply to every mass forwarded quote and meme.
(I'm talking solely about generic messages and memes which I know is not what the OP is referring to, but it just popped into my head that these are the times that I purposefully ignore the message, and sometimes delete it if it takes memory space).
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My mum used to always complain about my brother never replying to her texts, he went through a phase of being a nightmare to get hold of so she pulled him up on it and he said, 'well you never ask me a question so I don't need to reply' so from then on my mum always ensured she put a question in her texts to him and sure enough he replied
The person who is not replying is either genuinely too busy or too busy for you or cant be bothered. If they received a message to say they had won a large amount of money they would reply pretty quickly I would imagine.
I work all day and we're not supposed to use our personal mobiles in work time. They're supposed to be switched off and in your locker. My job is slightly different, so I do have mine on, but it's for my convenience not everyone else's. I only have WhatsApp, but if I read a message then everyone knows I'll get back to them when I can. Your life and needs is not my priority all day, if it's something life threatening then everyone knows how to get hold of me in an emergency.
To be honest, I'd find it rude folk expecting an immediate response because they think that what they are doing should be top of everybody else's list of importance. It's not, so deal with it
I remember the days of running round to the phone box with a handful of 2ps to call someone, so not one that has to have my phone glued to my hand 24/7.
To be honest, I'd find it rude folk expecting an immediate response because they think that what they are doing should be top of everybody else's list of importance. It's not, so deal with it
I remember the days of running round to the phone box with a handful of 2ps to call someone, so not one that has to have my phone glued to my hand 24/7.
I do this all the time. Sometimes I open a message by mistake when opening my phone so I read it but might not have the time or mental energy to reply so I mark it as unread so I know I need to reply to it later.
I like to reply when I know I can engage in conversation. If it’s just a quick question then I’ll probably reply straightaway but if it’s a casual how are you it will take me longer.
I like to reply when I know I can engage in conversation. If it’s just a quick question then I’ll probably reply straightaway but if it’s a casual how are you it will take me longer.
I think it is important to push back on expectations from friends and family that you shouldn’t be immediately accessible to reply to them. I had to start weaning some friends off my replying straight away because it was getting quite demanding and to be honest, caused anxiety because replying to people does require mental energy sometimes, making sure you say the right thing in the right way etc. I have had social media since I was 13 and I am early 30s now so in my adult life I have known no different, but it is such a mental zap on the brain sometimes. I have only just started using mute on people and I am finally at a point where I am putting myself on social media time outs in some parts of the day. I like Tattle because you can chat anonymously without people expecting anything of you. I spend far more time here now than on my personal SM accounts
I probably have just forgotten , I would never ignore someone on purpose without good reason.
This!!!!!! It’s my own fault that I get so wound up by people not replying. I really need to stop being so obsessed with having immediate responses and focus more on what’s going on around me.I think it is important to push back on expectations from friends and family that you shouldn’t be immediately accessible to reply to them. I had to start weaning some friends off my replying straight away because it was getting quite demanding and to be honest, caused anxiety because replying to people does require mental energy sometimes, making sure you say the right thing in the right way etc. I have had social media since I was 13 and I am early 30s now so in my adult life I have known no different, but it is such a mental zap on the brain sometimes. I have only just started using mute on people and I am finally at a point where I am putting myself on social media time outs in some parts of the day. I like Tattle because you can chat anonymously without people expecting anything of you. I spend far more time here now than on my personal SM accounts
it bugs me too especially if I’m waiting for a message from a man I’m into but here are the reasons I may not respond to people.
They constantly text and I feel comfortable enough with that person (parent, best mate) to not respond and know they won’t think I’m ‘ghosting’ them
I wake up in the middle of the night/ travelling to work/ in work and check my phone but don’t have time to reply
Prioritising people- I think everyone has a hierarchy of people they respond to quick and they may have plans or urgent business with someone so will remain online chatting to that important person.
I leave a lot of messages as unread because I feel obligated to reply once it’s opened and sometimes I just don’t have time to think of a reply. The people who I’m closest with will always get a reply because I don’t overthink what I’m saying.
If I read a message and don’t reply it’s because I’ve opened it when I’m busy and then forget to reply- I am so easily distracted, if I open a message at work and then have to do a task at work, I will completely forget about replying to the message!
If I read a message and don’t reply it’s because I’ve opened it when I’m busy and then forget to reply- I am so easily distracted, if I open a message at work and then have to do a task at work, I will completely forget about replying to the message!
I think it’s kind of rude to expect other people to be at your beck and call and to expect them to reply to messages right there and then, as if they haven’t got anything else going on in their life.
People who get hung up on people reading but not replying right away just make me want to walk off in the opposite direction if I’m honest. It just screams pressure within any potential friendship and I’m not here for that.
People who get hung up on people reading but not replying right away just make me want to walk off in the opposite direction if I’m honest. It just screams pressure within any potential friendship and I’m not here for that.
I should have been more clear in my original post. This particular instance isn’t a friend. It is someone I know through someone else and my original question to said person was regarding childcare and their job. Said person still hasn’t responded over a week later so I am assuming they have either ignored me (despite previous conversations as normal and responding very quickly indeed) or they genuinely forget. yes I was annoyed originally as they seemed very polite previously & I think if someone is asking a genuine question about something quite serious as childcare, it doesn’t really take a lot to respond. It wasn’t a fly away comment or question, meme or quote. I didn’t ask them respond straight away, I just noticed that they continued to be online and have been since.