I grew up quite quickly, I moved out sharpish, teenage pregnancy (the dad and I are now married and have been together for over a decade). But in my head I’m still 18, I still try and do the things I would have done at 18 but my body gets angry at me for it now! But I look back and think what a know it all tit I was in my 20s. Then you hit 30 and become fine with not knowing at all and just winging it and care less what people think! Will I get to 50 and think god I’m old? I hope not!!
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I was 11 when my mum had my younger brother. I was kept off school to take care of him when he was unwell etc. I missed a lot of my education. I married young and hoped to have some fun then but the ex produced 2 sons from his previous marriage I had no idea of. He insisted we had them each weekend, only for him to bugger of out and leave them with me. Obviously that marriage didn't last long but it left me with the feeling that I didn't want children of my own. I kind of had to grow up fast, then it left me when I finally got my life back together and I had the fun that I should have had as a teenager when I wasn't allowed out. Now I think I wouldn't be trusted to have children foisted on me. which suits me fine.
I don’t think I truly felt like an adult until I was 28. Even though I had a 3 year old son I didn’t feel like I had control of my life. I had my own house etc but it was all a blur. It wasn’t until I found the courage to leave my abusive ex that I felt like I had the strength to live my life.
I still dont feel grown up, im 32, married, child, mortage and i still feel like im not an adult at times 
sometimes i do but not often.
sometimes i do but not often.
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3 grown kids, been 'adulting for 29 years but still feel a fraud, like i am bullshitting and blagging my way through life and i still wonder what i want to do when i 'grow up'.
3 grown kids, been 'adulting for 29 years but still feel a fraud, like i am bullshitting and blagging my way through life and i still wonder what i want to do when i 'grow up'.
I still feel young at heart. If being an adult means dealing with your responsibilities, paying your bills on time, working a job etc, then I'm an adult.
But really, is anyone, unless it means giving up fun? I can look back and recognise when my parents were obviously excited in company and playing-up, same for aunties & uncles. I recall plenty of what could be classed immature behaviour out of adults all around me throughout my life: selfishness, sulking, up to high doe and as red in face as any kid at Christmas when packing to go on holiday. All of that in me as well.
Growing up doesn't mean growing out of fun or enjoyment. It does mean realising you've got to look after yourself, rather than expecting someone else to do it.
But really, is anyone, unless it means giving up fun? I can look back and recognise when my parents were obviously excited in company and playing-up, same for aunties & uncles. I recall plenty of what could be classed immature behaviour out of adults all around me throughout my life: selfishness, sulking, up to high doe and as red in face as any kid at Christmas when packing to go on holiday. All of that in me as well.
Growing up doesn't mean growing out of fun or enjoyment. It does mean realising you've got to look after yourself, rather than expecting someone else to do it.
I’m 28, have a nine year old and am just in the process of getting a mortgage on a part buy part rent but I don’t feel grown up at all
100% the same. I’m 32, own house, good job and married to my husband but I still feel about 16. Still more bothered with Instagram and what other girls look like and shopping etc but my husband is getting desperate for a baby. I don’t think I’m grown up enough!
In my early 30’s and in my head i’m still 19. Except i’m far from it, I have a child that’s been at primary school a few years, bought a house with my now husband 4 years ago (his first property, my second property process - previously had my own apartment). I have a pretty responsible, full time job and yet still don’t really feel ‘grown up’.
Like a few others have said, it sort of hit me when I started doing the school run (yay covid working from home means I can do the afternoon school run & don’t have to pay through the nose for childcare!), although I look at the other mums and assume they’re older than me. Though i’m sure looking again, they aren’t!
My body definitely feels old though, I wake up knackered no matter how much sleep I have. Knees crack, back is always awful!
Like a few others have said, it sort of hit me when I started doing the school run (yay covid working from home means I can do the afternoon school run & don’t have to pay through the nose for childcare!), although I look at the other mums and assume they’re older than me. Though i’m sure looking again, they aren’t!
My body definitely feels old though, I wake up knackered no matter how much sleep I have. Knees crack, back is always awful!
I'm 29 and don't feel grown up. I'm in a long-term relationship but I've never really worked because of longstanding illness (I've been in higher education since the age of 16!)
I’m in my 30s. I have always felt like an adult, even as a child. I think it comes from having a hard childhood and having to be very self sufficient.
Then left home at 16, moved in with my now husband at 18, married at 21 & have 4 children.
Then left home at 16, moved in with my now husband at 18, married at 21 & have 4 children.
I'm 39 with 3 children, a grandchild, a house and a good job and I still don't feel like a grown up all the time
At the age of 26 I went backpacking on my own and aslo worked in australia for a year. When I got back home I felt more grown up compared to some of my friends.
This is me, doesn’t help that I still looks about 12 and so don’t get taken as seriously. I’m 32 too and have a very responsible job but I certainly don’t feel an adult yet. Definitely could still be in my early to mid 20s and it’s not that I’m immature, I just don’t feel my age.
I'm 41, have a partner, a home and a responsible full time job. I don't feel any more mature than I did when I was 17, just more tired
Probably about 28, but it was gradual. I graduated uni and got my first teaching post when I was 22, so I was in a very responsible role through the week but at the weekend I was still going out and getting off my face drunk and falling over in nightclubs 
Used to sit in the staff room on a Monday surrounded by 40 year old women like wtf am I doing here??
The nights out slowly got less and less and when I was about 28 me and my pals went on a rare night out and I sat in the club the full time thinking, my god how did all these children get in here?? The music was too loud and we couldn’t chat so we left early and that was it
Used to sit in the staff room on a Monday surrounded by 40 year old women like wtf am I doing here?? The nights out slowly got less and less and when I was about 28 me and my pals went on a rare night out and I sat in the club the full time thinking, my god how did all these children get in here?? The music was too loud and we couldn’t chat so we left early and that was it
40 is closer than 30 for me and I still laugh at farts 🥸
I think there have been two big changes in the last 20 years for me and my maturity. One is I have become more confident in myself and taking time to form my opinions rather than follow the crowd. I thank my eldest sister for teaching me this valuable lesson because when you’re confident you’ve looked at an issue from all angles, you’re more controlled and you can really a force to be reckoned with.
The other one is taking responsibility and consciously have more empathy. My 6 year old daughter taught me that one
I think there have been two big changes in the last 20 years for me and my maturity. One is I have become more confident in myself and taking time to form my opinions rather than follow the crowd. I thank my eldest sister for teaching me this valuable lesson because when you’re confident you’ve looked at an issue from all angles, you’re more controlled and you can really a force to be reckoned with.
The other one is taking responsibility and consciously have more empathy. My 6 year old daughter taught me that one
I'm 41, married with 3 kids and I've always felt that I'd never grow up.
Until last month and I found a grey pube...that it now, its game over!
I'll have a sherry and get out the scrabble...let's partayyyy
Until last month and I found a grey pube...that it now, its game over!
I'll have a sherry and get out the scrabble...let's partayyyy
I’m 32 and I still love clubbing (decent clubs not student places or places that just play cheesy music) but I wish I didn’t as most of my friends have grown out of it, I am clinging onto my younger friends and hoping they will still go out with me after lock downProbably about 28, but it was gradual. I graduated uni and got my first teaching post when I was 22, so I was in a very responsible role through the week but at the weekend I was still going out and getting off my face drunk and falling over in nightclubs
The nights out slowly got less and less and when I was about 28 me and my pals went on a rare night out and I sat in the club the full time thinking, my god how did all these children get in here?? The music was too loud and we couldn’t chat so we left early and that was it
Otherwise I’m going to be that weird 40 year old on her own getting chatted up by 18 year olds for banter.I think living alone makes you feel a bit more grown up. I definitely feel more like an adult when I'm cleaning my flat or buying my own food or remembering when bin day is
I've always been fiercely independent from around aged 3/4 and my parents weren't really around much so I think I was an adult in a child's body for my childhood/teen years so I never felt 'young'. That said, I still watch nickelodeon/disney channel tv shows and read young adult fiction so I suppose I'm young in that sense
I've always been fiercely independent from around aged 3/4 and my parents weren't really around much so I think I was an adult in a child's body for my childhood/teen years so I never felt 'young'. That said, I still watch nickelodeon/disney channel tv shows and read young adult fiction so I suppose I'm young in that sense