I’m 32 and starting to worry I’m never going to be mature. In a lot of ways I act like a grown up, I have a responsible job, a long term partner and my own flat but the thought of settling down (marriage, kids) seems so dull to me. I feel the same inside as I did when I was 23, I enjoy the same things and have the same priorities (to an extent). Did you wake up one day ready to start adulting? or are you still a teenager trapped in a grown ups body?
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I am only 27, not married, no kids.
I think I felt grown up when I went to university and left home. Having to think and do things for myself was a wake up call
But now Im still thinking young while still being grown up. Still have my freedoms and can do whatever i want without being questioned.
Come 30 and I think that's when I will finally cast away my "teenage" thinking and finally grow up!
I think I felt grown up when I went to university and left home. Having to think and do things for myself was a wake up call
But now Im still thinking young while still being grown up. Still have my freedoms and can do whatever i want without being questioned.
Come 30 and I think that's when I will finally cast away my "teenage" thinking and finally grow up!
33 here, and very similar situation to you. I have no desire to start adulting yet, but feel like I should do by now!
we got a kitten earlier in the year, and the thought of any more responsibility than that terrifies me!
we got a kitten earlier in the year, and the thought of any more responsibility than that terrifies me!
I don’t. Not really. Sure, if I were to go to some event aimed specifically at young people in their late teens, early 20s or students then I would feel very old. Also when I’m referred to as J and C’s mum then yeah. Physically I feel I’m getting old, mentally I still feel younger and often look around for the more senior adult in a crisis. I’m 32 in Feb. 
I don’t feel like an adult, I feel like I’m pretending. Even carrying a baby out of hospital didn’t make feel like a real adult!
Yes I do this- especially at work before realising that person is me!I don’t. Not really. Sure, if I were to go to some event aimed specifically at young people in their late teens, early 20s or students then I would feel very old. Also when I’m referred to as J and C’s mum then yeah. Physically I feel I’m getting old, mentally I still feel younger and often look around for the more senior adult in a crisis. I’m 32 in Feb.
I am 40 yrs old, have a husband, 2 kids, a mortgage... I don't really feel grown up. I just fake it and hope no one finds out 
14. My mum died and I had to take on a lot of responsibility. But I don't feel I've gotten any older since then.
I’m 31 and feel the same as I did when I was 15! It’s very weird. I’ve got as much responsibility as any other functioning adult (minus children and partner- through choice) but I still don’t feel very grown up. I still think of myself as being young(er) and when people ask me my age it takes me a minute to remember I’m not 23/23! 
Sometimes this is a hindrance - at work for example, I often think I undervalue my input / experience when really I shouldn’t do that cause I’ve been working for a long time now!
Sometimes this is a hindrance - at work for example, I often think I undervalue my input / experience when really I shouldn’t do that cause I’ve been working for a long time now!
I don’t feel like I’ve grown up. A low point for me was being back with parents for lockdown 2020...one days I got pissed off about something. Stomped up the stairs and slammed the bedroom door...the proceeded to roar with laugher as I was being petty. My mum said she didn’t mind as made her feel 20 years younger again x
Early 30s... Any day now. 
Sometimes me and my friends look at all our children and think wtf who let us have these! Can you believe it!!
still feel like I’m young at work till I got asked to participate in an inter generational call with some graduates.. wait.. am I not the same generation as them? Nope.. early to mid (ha ha) 30s
still feel like I’m young at work till I got asked to participate in an inter generational call with some graduates.. wait.. am I not the same generation as them? Nope.. early to mid (ha ha) 30s
When I was 18. I left home because my Mum is toxic. I've always been independent and grown up fast because of it.
I felt even more grown up this year when I got my first ever home (ive always lived in flats) with my boyfriend & our new baby
I felt even more grown up this year when I got my first ever home (ive always lived in flats) with my boyfriend & our new baby
Wow that’s so young! Best of luck in your home with your new baby x
I remember being told when I was in my late teens or early 20s that you never feel any older and I scoffed at the old person trying to hold onto their youth - now I totally get it.
I’m 30 and I suppose there are situations where I act grown up, for example my flatmate is 24 and I deal with bills etc. because she has no idea what actually goes into keeping a house running. But on the other hand I still live with a flatmate.
I’m 30 and I suppose there are situations where I act grown up, for example my flatmate is 24 and I deal with bills etc. because she has no idea what actually goes into keeping a house running. But on the other hand I still live with a flatmate.
I thought I did feel like one, until I was in my late 30s then one of my grandparents had been ill in hospital for a few weeks and my dad asked me to attend the MDT meeting to plan care.
It very quickly became apparent that my dearest grandparent wasn't going to last the week and I was family spokesperson being an NHS associate professional at the time.
So it was left to me to gently explain to the rest of the family, that it was kinder to let go and let them have a dinner one last time before we did.
I'd been raising kids for years and had a mortgage i was trying to overpay on, a job, a car and all that grown up stuff.
But I realised on that day that I had shifted up a position in the family and I was a proper grown up.
I don't recommend this tit, tbh. Over-rated.
It very quickly became apparent that my dearest grandparent wasn't going to last the week and I was family spokesperson being an NHS associate professional at the time.
So it was left to me to gently explain to the rest of the family, that it was kinder to let go and let them have a dinner one last time before we did.
I'd been raising kids for years and had a mortgage i was trying to overpay on, a job, a car and all that grown up stuff.
But I realised on that day that I had shifted up a position in the family and I was a proper grown up.
I don't recommend this tit, tbh. Over-rated.
I’m 32 and don’t feel grown up! I bought first house at 24 with bf and then we married at 26. That sounds so young now but I don’t feel any different if you know what I mean. I’d say in the past couple of years I’ve really matured though, not wanting to go out partying all the time and spending the next day with my head down the toilet! Urgh, I guess I’m getting old!
I became a fully-fledged adult the day I had to arrange for my beloved dad to go into residential care instead of going home on his own. I wanted to rewind time and have him comfort me, instead of the other way round. Pathetic, huh?
Also at work, I’ve got a pretty decent job, and always feel inferior than those proper adults winging it!
winging it!When I started to listen to Radio 2, appreciate nice glassware and actually enjoy peace and quiet!