I think you are one strong lady, if you can survive that, my problems seems little. I am happy you are now happy - sending you lots of loveI def recommend having counselling, it can be such a huge help, even years later. I grew up in a home where there was severe domestic abuse which resulted in my mum and us kids packing and leaving home and moving 300 miles away in the space of 2 days. When I was 16 I would wake in the night with our lodgers boyfriend in my bed having sex with me, I never told anyone as I thought I’d be blamed for it happening and the lodger would come find him and laugh cos he’d sleepwalked in to my bed. It wasn’t until approx10 years after that I properly realised he’d been raping me, I just always thought it must have been my fault. I lost my younger brother to suicide at 28 which was devastating. I became involved with a guy who was well known as a great gentle giant guy but was really a severely depressed arsehole who became violent. He attempted suicide twice while we were together and throttled me twice till I passed out. I tried to walk away so many times and he would suck be back in with saying how he was scared and how much he needed me etc. He called me to his house where’s he threw petrol all over the house and me and him and then tried to set us on fire! He had taken an overdose which meant I was strong enough to fight him and stop him setting us alight. It ended when he tried to hang himself in my house when he was drunk and I stopped him, he left and drove his car into a lorry and died. I can honestly say I have never felt grief like it, it felt broken in two. I also had a massive sense of relief because I’d spent 2 years trying to stop him killing himself and now it happened. I felt free of him. I went for counselling 8 months after because I just felt I needed to talk and get everything out. I can honestly say I’m happy and loving life now. Sorry for the explicit details or triggers for anyone but I’m living proof that people are stronger than they think
I want to thank all of you ladies for your feedback, posting this yesterday was my first step moving forward. Keeping my husbands alcohol disease a secret from my family, his family and our friends is very hard, because you feel isolated and alone. As if i have 2 lives, one at work where i am confident and strong, and one at home where i walk on egg shells and fearful of what would happen next. To all of you that has gone through your own traumatic events in your life, it is an eye opener for me and i wasnt sure if it was the right thing to open up on here, but it is giving me courage. It is good to know that there are caring, non judgemental people out there. Thank you very much.
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