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As requested - just having another little snooze - dreaming of fish...
He's adorable!
Just like Roo
So beautiful - Gem is drooling over that pic.
He’s the most gentle and dear little fellah - UNTIL he gets anywhere near a vet or a veterinary hospital. Then he becomes like a ferocious lion and tries to get under my jumper to hide. The change in his personality is shocking - really shocking...
Oh! Little Gem! The jewel in the crown...So beautiful - Gem is drooling over that pic.
Lovely to hear from you, @Namima, hope you and yours are all well. Thank you for your lovely words - and well done to your son for getting through his matriculation exams during such a disruptive year. I think you are right, little gestures, random chats and a supportive hug go a long way. Yesterday was a lovely, sunny day and we walked the pier and had a 99 - a very Irish ice cream of huge national relevance (vanilla whipped cone with Cadbury’s flake on top) and lots of chat. So, simple things are all we can offer. Sending love and hugs your way.Hugs to you @Milking Keynes
Just wanted to add my love for this thread and you lovely lovely Tattlers ! I am not too good with showing my feelings but all I can say is when I see a long post ..."Yay" and when I get to the last post
They hate the Vets, @Oops. Gem takes the place down when they go near her and, in the car, she starts to shake and tremble. It’s awful.He’s the most gentle and dear little fellah - UNTIL he gets anywhere near a vet or a veterinary hospital. Then he becomes like a ferocious lion and tries to get under my jumper to hide. The change in his personality is shocking - really shocking...
Oh! Little Gem! The jewel in the crown...
Hope Teddy Bear is on the mend.
- what a collection of stunners!
Oh, my, what a beaut! Aren’t we blessed with our gorgeous fur babies
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OH! Isn’t it awful seeing them soooo distressed? Also trying to reassure the vet you don’t have a bad-tempered dog that wants to bite and snap and escape. I dread vet visits - for both of us...Lovely to hear from you, @Namima, hope you and yours are all well. Thank you for your lovely words - and well done to your son for getting through his matriculation exams during such a disruptive year. I think you are right, little gestures, random chats and a supportive hug go a long way. Yesterday was a lovely, sunny day and we walked the pier and had a 99 - a very Irish ice cream of huge national relevance (vanilla whipped cone with Cadbury’s flake on top) and lots of chat. So, simple things are all we can offer. Sending love and hugs your way.
They hate the Vets, @Oops. Gem takes the place down when they go near her and, in the car, she starts to shake and tremble. It’s awful.
Both you and dear @Namima sound like wonderful, caring mothers. No surprise there though...
Heart-melting darling beautiful GemHope Teddy Bear is on the mend.
Oh, my, what a beaut! Aren’t we blessed with our gorgeous fur babies
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thank you, Auntie Oops
I GASP every time I see him! He’s sooooo beautiful - what beautiful fur babies we have. Such a blessing...
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Oh, Master Teddy Bear - you are so handsome all curled up there, and I love your mama @Oops... (not sure where to put the apostrophe here!) taste in 'sofa bed'!
I hope that you are both doing a bit better today, and over the trauma.
As I said yesterday, I love Teddy Bear's spirit, and I haven't even met him! (You describe him so beautifully though @Oops... )He’s the most gentle and dear little fellah - UNTIL he gets anywhere near a vet or a veterinary hospital. Then he becomes like a ferocious lion and tries to get under my jumper to hide. The change in his personality is shocking - really shocking...
Oh! Little Gem! The jewel in the crown...
I had a horse who was already a giant (17hh if anybody knows what that is), and he used to have some back issues, so I would take him to a specialist who worked from the racecourse during the Friday night trots. I would turn up with this poncy dressage horse, who would grow to at least 19hh with all of the excitement of the races!
A little bit harder to handle, but I always loved that extra bit of spunk and class that he had. Roo....oh my...I think I've said it before, but I'm absolutely in love with you!
How are you lovely lot today! I've been a little bit Missing In Action this evening. To be honest, I had a not great day, and a crisis of confidence hit along with many tears, and sobbing about how I'm not good enough. I'm sure we all come up against that sometimes.
Anyway - I am much greatly cheered having seen the pooch contingent of this thread. You are all so blessed to have them, as they are to have you! What pampered and loved pets.
Have a wonderful day all...I am off to beddy byes (shortly).
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Sending you lots of love especially today!Oh, Master Teddy Bear - you are so handsome all curled up there, and I love your mama @Oops... (not sure where to put the apostrophe here!) taste in 'sofa bed'!
I hope that you are both doing a bit better today, and over the trauma.
As I said yesterday, I love Teddy Bear's spirit, and I haven't even met him! (You describe him so beautifully though @Oops... )
I had a horse who was already a giant (17hh if anybody knows what that is), and he used to have some back issues, so I would take him to a specialist who worked from the racecourse during the Friday night trots. I would turn up with this poncy dressage horse, who would grow to at least 19hh with all of the excitement of the races!
Roo....oh my...I think I've said it before, but I'm absolutely in love with you!
How are you lovely lot today! I've been a little bit Missing In Action this evening. To be honest, I had a not great day, and a crisis of confidence hit along with many tears, and sobbing about how I'm not good enough. I'm sure we all come up against that sometimes.
Anyway - I am much greatly cheered having seen the pooch contingent of this thread. You are all so blessed to have them, as they are to have you! What pampered and loved pets.
Have a wonderful day all...I am off to beddy byes (shortly).
I am absolutely sure you are MORE than "good enough" but sometimes these feelings come and all we can do is ride the wave until we emerge the other end, in the shallows, a bit battered and bruised maybe, but ready to get out there again. And you have friends here!
Would love to see horse pics if you are able to share. I still ride a bit but getting my confidence back after a fall - from an 18hh chap- Not even a bad fall but you know...
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a rotten day - you are a hard-working, articulate, clever and committed wife, mother and student. You are wonderful. Believe it. Have a good night’s sleep and see you tomorrow. Big hugs xxxOh, Master Teddy Bear - you are so handsome all curled up there, and I love your mama @Oops... (not sure where to put the apostrophe here!) taste in 'sofa bed'!
I hope that you are both doing a bit better today, and over the trauma.
As I said yesterday, I love Teddy Bear's spirit, and I haven't even met him! (You describe him so beautifully though @Oops... )
I had a horse who was already a giant (17hh if anybody knows what that is), and he used to have some back issues, so I would take him to a specialist who worked from the racecourse during the Friday night trots. I would turn up with this poncy dressage horse, who would grow to at least 19hh with all of the excitement of the races!
Roo....oh my...I think I've said it before, but I'm absolutely in love with you!
How are you lovely lot today! I've been a little bit Missing In Action this evening. To be honest, I had a not great day, and a crisis of confidence hit along with many tears, and sobbing about how I'm not good enough. I'm sure we all come up against that sometimes.
Anyway - I am much greatly cheered having seen the pooch contingent of this thread. You are all so blessed to have them, as they are to have you! What pampered and loved pets.
Have a wonderful day all...I am off to beddy byes (shortly).
Thank you so much Geranium - what you say makes good sense, and sometimes I need to give myself a break. It's because you all feel like friends here that I felt able to share, so thank you.
I will try and find a pic of Teepee - having said that, they are probably all done the old fashioned way! (I.e., non digital!) I used to ride an 18hh chap called 'Cathedral'. Thankfully I never had a fall, but it always looked like a jolly long way down. He was such a gentle thing. We used to gallop down the beach from time to time, and he would feel as safe as houses.
In the meantime, here's a pic of Em and myself from 25 years back.
She was a wee bit of a naughty thoroughbred, but we love them anyway. (I thought I should chop my head off, lest I get in trouble with the powers that be. I actually haven't read the rules on such matters. 
Thank you so much!! I might not be able to get out the door tomorrow!
Seriously though, you're so lovely. Every time you post something I feel so cheery and encouraged, (and I still have my lucky shamrock). 
I feel so blessed to be allowed to contribute to this group of special people. I'm glad I landed here.
The double bright orange hemer
There are a couple of specialist hemerocallis growers not that far from me and I've been seduced over the years!
Phlomis russeliana is so under-rated...so useful for awkward spots. People always ask me about it as it looks so unusual.
Dahlias...the bigger and blowsier the better!
The double orange hemerocallis is the common one. There are some gorgeous cultivars; H. Catherine Woodbery is an old but lovely pink one.I will definitely endeavour to get Bowl of Beauty! In fact, I almost popped into a garden centre on my way home from Uni today to see if they had it, but decided I would go in the weekend instead. One of my favourites in the garden is also Shirley Temple. Yes - I must get Graham Thomas! It's been on my 'must do' list for a while. My mother/father-in-law has one, and they rave about it (and I love it). I'm going to do a rose 'shiftaroony' after I prune them in August. I have 4 Sally Holmes roses that I keep having to hack back, so I am going to pop them up the hill so that they can merrily flower away to their hearts content without my interference. It's such a prolific bloomer and so healthy! (Never needs spraying, and is always disease free). Then the plan is to shift some Margaret Merrill's which are quite sparse bushes, so I thought I might just group them together to make it look more prominent. My garden is mostly pinks/blues, but to be honest I'm pulling out a lot of stuff at the moment that mum gave me, and that I'm tired of! Nerine Bowdenii is one (although, let's be honest, it won't get chucked, it will be shifted to somewhere that isn't in my direct line of sight), and a bright pink salvia (I think it's probably 'Skyscraper'), it's far too bright. Again...I'll probably just pop them up the hill, or next to the barn.
Regarding dahlias - I'm very new to them - however, I seem to be drawn to the dinner plate varieties. I had huge success with Fleurel and of course, Cafe au Lait. (I know...boring!). I also loved Gerrie Hoek. Dahlia fails were 'X-Factor' (something might have been wrong with the tuber - who knows), and Dark Fubuki (although mum loved it, and it was prolific, so it will be dug out and sent next door to her!) Thank you for that suggestion! I want to try Wizard of Oz, Sweet Nathalie, Rococo, Zirconia and Strawberries and Cream this year. (Among hundreds of others!!)
I have just realised that I misread your comment on 'hemerocallis' as hellebores! LOL. I love hellebores, especially as it adds interest at the time of year that you really need it.I have an area behind a cherry laurel hedge that I am thinking of mass planting with hellebores. I'm going to pop over to mums in the next few days and dig up some bearded irises and hemerocallis' that I've had my eye on (ooh, and also some phlomis russeliana).
I only have one daylily - again, from mum - it's bright orange, and not really 'me'.
Apologies for taking over the thread with gardening! Therefore, I have found the world's shortest poem so that we don't go off track on my behalf, by Ellen Everett:
let us live like flowers
wild and beautiful
and drenched in the sun
There are a couple of specialist hemerocallis growers not that far from me and I've been seduced over the years!
Phlomis russeliana is so under-rated...so useful for awkward spots. People always ask me about it as it looks so unusual.
Dahlias...the bigger and blowsier the better!
Really loving the gardening advice - I have a whole bed to fill so this is all very informative - thank you
Now - back to Aldi & Lidl to discuss the elusive Mighty Peas and pineapple serum!!
thank you for sharing
I love this thread! Brings me so much joy, especially on the days when other threads get too intense for me. I also love @Miscanthus 's gardening advices. I have a bookmark tab for all your posts on gardening.
Em looks gorgeous . I’ve never ridden a thoroughbred- I’m more of a cob person really. I always seem to end upon the bigger horses though and generally find them easier than opinionated ponies but omg sometimes you look down and think ..... the ground seems very far away. Now I’m a lot older I worry more about breaking bits of meThank you so much Geranium - what you say makes good sense, and sometimes I need to give myself a break. It's because you all feel like friends here that I felt able to share, so thank you.
I will try and find a pic of Teepee - having said that, they are probably all done the old fashioned way! (I.e., non digital!) I used to ride an 18hh chap called 'Cathedral'. Thankfully I never had a fall, but it always looked like a jolly long way down. He was such a gentle thing. We used to gallop down the beach from time to time, and he would feel as safe as houses.
In the meantime, here's a pic of Em and myself from 25 years back.
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Thank you so much!! I might not be able to get out the door tomorrow!
I feel so blessed to be allowed to contribute to this group of special people. I'm glad I landed here.
Sorry to hear you were not having a good day. Are you able to articulate why you feel like this? Sending hugsOh, Master Teddy Bear - you are so handsome all curled up there, and I love your mama @Oops... (not sure where to put the apostrophe here!) taste in 'sofa bed'!
I hope that you are both doing a bit better today, and over the trauma.
As I said yesterday, I love Teddy Bear's spirit, and I haven't even met him! (You describe him so beautifully though @Oops... )
I had a horse who was already a giant (17hh if anybody knows what that is), and he used to have some back issues, so I would take him to a specialist who worked from the racecourse during the Friday night trots. I would turn up with this poncy dressage horse, who would grow to at least 19hh with all of the excitement of the races!
Roo....oh my...I think I've said it before, but I'm absolutely in love with you!
How are you lovely lot today! I've been a little bit Missing In Action this evening. To be honest, I had a not great day, and a crisis of confidence hit along with many tears, and sobbing about how I'm not good enough. I'm sure we all come up against that sometimes.
Anyway - I am much greatly cheered having seen the pooch contingent of this thread. You are all so blessed to have them, as they are to have you! What pampered and loved pets.
Have a wonderful day all...I am off to beddy byes (shortly).
Thank you Miscanthus! All hugs greatly received.Sorry to hear you were not having a good day. Are you able to articulate why you feel like this? Sending hugs
I was/am feeling like this as I am completing a law degree, and I received an assessment back which I felt that I had really nailed, and I got a grade which did not meet my expectation. (If I am honest with myself, it was still a very good grade). Most people would agree that studying is different when you are older. You have sacrificed the chance to earn money, and time with your family to do this thing. I've been struggling with trying to improve my grades, and it all seems rather in vain. I suppose I'm frustrated, and I also don't know where to turn for help. I used to work within the faculty so that brings its own challenges that none of my friends/colleagues will touch me with a barge pole (for fear that they look like they are giving preferential treatment an ex-colleague). The issue is that I know I have problems with expressing the 'analysis' part of legal writing - that is, applying the law to the facts. I can make sense of it in my head, but since I haven't really been able to receive any help with it, now when I try to approach it for exam preparation, it fills me with anxiety, and I just cannot do it.
I know it's stupid, in the wide scheme of things - it doesn't actually 'matter'. Right now I feel like an imposter. I know I will be a good solicitor, but I also feel too lacking in intelligence to even get to that stage.I suppose this isn't helped by having constant heart palpitations and other ongoing health things. In all honesty it's likely that I am going through perimenopause, so it's possible that my hormone levels are completely out of whack. I think I'll be popping off to the Doc next week - at least that's an easy thing to do.
Sorry to dump this on you all. I suppose it's just real life. I am grateful to have the love and support of those within this thread. I know I'm always saying 'thank you', but I am thankful!
I showed one of my horses in the cob section, however, looking back, she was actually quite streamlined! (She was a quarterhorse/thoroughbred cross). Extremely naughty! Almost put me off riding altogether. 'Opinionated ponies' - I just love that!!Em looks gorgeous . I’ve never ridden a thoroughbred- I’m more of a cob person really. I always seem to end upon the bigger horses though and generally find them easier than opinionated ponies but omg sometimes you look down and think ..... the ground seems very far away. Now I’m a lot older I worry more about breaking bits of me
I am very worried about breaking things. My old dressage instructor has a wee menagerie of horses/ponies/foals, and I pop out to see him yearly (at least) when I need cuddles. There's something about the smell of horses that I just love. And their eyes!
There are some people who choose to go through life dodging stress and ducking challenges. You are not one of them.Thank you Miscanthus! All hugs greatly received.
I was/am feeling like this as I am completing a law degree, and I received an assessment back which I felt that I had really nailed, and I got a grade which did not meet my expectation. (If I am honest with myself, it was still a very good grade). Most people would agree that studying is different when you are older. You have sacrificed the chance to earn money, and time with your family to do this thing. I've been struggling with trying to improve my grades, and it all seems rather in vain. I suppose I'm frustrated, and I also don't know where to turn for help. I used to work within the faculty so that brings its own challenges that none of my friends/colleagues will touch me with a barge pole (for fear that they look like they are giving preferential treatment an ex-colleague). The issue is that I know I have problems with expressing the 'analysis' part of legal writing - that is, applying the law to the facts. I can make sense of it in my head, but since I haven't really been able to receive any help with it, now when I try to approach it for exam preparation, it fills me with anxiety, and I just cannot do it.
I suppose this isn't helped by having constant heart palpitations and other ongoing health things. In all honesty it's likely that I am going through perimenopause, so it's possible that my hormone levels are completely out of whack. I think I'll be popping off to the Doc next week - at least that's an easy thing to do.
Sorry to dump this on you all. I suppose it's just real life. I am grateful to have the love and support of those within this thread. I know I'm always saying 'thank you', but I am thankful!
I showed one of my horses in the cob section, however, looking back, she was actually quite streamlined! (She was a quarterhorse/thoroughbred cross). Extremely naughty! Almost put me off riding altogether. 'Opinionated ponies' - I just love that!!
I am very worried about breaking things. My old dressage instructor has a wee menagerie of horses/ponies/foals, and I pop out to see him yearly (at least) when I need cuddles. There's something about the smell of horses that I just love. And their eyes!
You have made the brave decision to study for a degree as a mature student, knowing that it would be challenging and stressful. This is on top of your other commitments, while sacrificing the opportunity to earn and entering the menopause. You should be congratulating yourself.
You are clearly driven and have very high expectations of yourself. You want to grow, learn and better yourself. You should be proud. Your frustration arises from these high standards. That's good!
Imposter syndrome? We've all had that. You have to keep believing in yourself and hold on to your 'dream'; keep going through the motions until one day you will realise you are no longer the imposter.
Lack of intelligence? I don't think you would have got this far, do you? You can do this! Your grades are good. You might want excellent but good is probably good enough.
Studying when you are older brings with it all these questions because we know all the implications, the risks. It's also so much more rewarding.
On the specifics, you have to practice exam questions over and over and over again. If you feel you are not articulating what's in your head on paper try speaking aloud, try explaining the facts to a willing friend or record yourself, play it back, try again. Then write it down.
Yes, exams are are scary, but some stress is good. You signed up for this and the exam day will arrive and you will be prepared. Failure is not an option!
You need a mentor...is there somebody in another faculty or in the legal profession you can speak to. Can you approach one of your ex colleagues in your facilty and ask them to set aside that personal relationship to help you?
Re the perimenopause, you should definitely seek medical help. Get a blood test, find out what's going on, adjust your diet, get enough sleep, look at hrt. The run up to menopause can do crazy things to your body and head, including rocking your confidence.
We are all here for you, willing you on!
In the mean time, I'll stick to gardening tips
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