Uninviting wedding guests

[FunkyMonkey]

Summersuzy I am in a similar position.
I was in an extremely abusive relationship which ended abruptly when he was sectioned for holding a gun to someone’s head (!) About a week later I found out I was seven months pregnant.
About three years later I got together with another boy in our friendship circle, we have been married for ten years now.
My ex was very charismatic and popular and I know lots of them blame me for his demise and don’t like me at all. They didn’t see what happened behind closed doors.
All you can do- all I can do- is ignore it. They don’t know your life story. People think what they think. Sorry for derailing! And OP I’m really glad you have found a way to exclude the group you don’t want there x

 

[Prgirl_cesca]

Thank you so much it is a destination wedding in Greece, ceremony and reception are booked but after that our planning has halted.... We are supposed to fly out later in the year and view the venue, will make more decisions over styling and extras at that point hopefully. In the back of my mind I still feel like even in 2021 getting this pulled off is going to be hard! Even with the shorter guestlist. We started planning before I had ever heard the words corona virus, weirdly feels sickeningly indulgent now to be going ahead with the current state of the world

You are allowed to feel upset and disappointed that you can't plan how you would like. Fingers crossed by next summer this will be a distant horrible memory.

 

[Prgirl_cesca]

That's exactly what I did ahhh yes love that we are on the same page!!!! No one really pushed back, I'm probably getting slated in some mini chat somewhere but hey
... If they're gonna hold that against me, it kinda confirms I didn't want them there anyway right?!

WELL DONE! Yep, doesn't matter anymore.

Good luck with the wedding. What sort of venue are you getting married at? Have you done much planning?

 

[Elisha97]

On the topic of friends hubby has a group of friends since his teens but recently we’ve noticed we’ve been excluded from their child’s birthdays and not invited to anything. I made a new fb and none accepted me, one of the mums who my hubby has known years and would have always been in their house has deleted him off fb too. They made excuses not come to our children’s party. We don’t know how to navigate it hubby is non confrontational but I feel their problem is me I really don’t know what I’ve done but it does annoy me. Photos uploaded of all the “friends” and us excluded is just plain nasty. Any tips?

Just ignore it. There’s always a small chance you did ‘something’ but if they’re petty enough to do that then there’s no point trying with them.

My partner has a friend like this who does similar things but luckily everyone else really likes us so we stay in the group, probably much to their annoyance. Some people just like to be ‘in’ though so if another person decides your face doesn’t fit they all just follow.

you’re probably thin and good looking and one or both of you are doing well in life and people do just get jealous and that’s how they deal with that emotion

 

[Littlemisadoughnut]

Have you only sent save the dates and not the official invite?

Yes, exactly that

 

[Littlemisadoughnut]

I’m invested in this - how did you exit the WhatsApp group?

I didn't I bottled that bit I've muted it and plan to try and do a gradual fade....

I’m invested in this - how did you exit the WhatsApp group?

Thanks so much for the advice and pep talks! You've lifted such a load for me

 

[FunkyMonkey]

Sorry to hear you had to go through that and I’m so glad you are happier now What’s that saying what others think of us is none of our business or something like that

Thank you- never thought it would be okay but it is now. And exactly that, nobody knows your business. Which all the current influencers could do with working out!

 

[density]

Don't send an invite and if asked, just say you could only invite family. Then dip out of whatever you need to dip out of.