TTC #6

[Chocolatelover123]

For those who have ttc for a while.. do you ever struggle to envision yourself actually having a baby? How do you keep that motivation/hope going? It’s been so long that the thought of me actually having a full term pregnancy with a baby to hold at the end of it seems unrealistic! I focus so hard on trying to get pregnant but then the hard work of maintaining that pregnancy kicks in mentally. Sorry if this makes no sense… just some rambling thoughts I’m having to myself this Friday morning!

No I get you completely I feel exactly like that. The months where I’ve given up hope and not tracked etc have actually felt better mentally. Although I still haven’t been able to crack not counting down for a period. Not much point to this post other than to say your not alone

 

[Lara98]

For those who have ttc for a while.. do you ever struggle to envision yourself actually having a baby? How do you keep that motivation/hope going? It’s been so long that the thought of me actually having a full term pregnancy with a baby to hold at the end of it seems unrealistic! I focus so hard on trying to get pregnant but then the hard work of maintaining that pregnancy kicks in mentally. Sorry if this makes no sense… just some rambling thoughts I’m having to myself this Friday morning!

Sorry if this is unrelatable but I've been feeling the same lately more so the fact I'll not be able to become pregnant due to my condition. It still hurts a lot though knowing ill never carry a child, however lately my worry has been very low egg count for my age and wondering if it'll even be my own child a surrogate carries or if I'll have to adopt or use an egg donor. I've really struggled to keep positive, some days I have no hope at all but other days I have a little bit.

I think a big part of it for myself is accepting the situation for what it is. Its really hard but I've started to accept the fact that even if I don't have my own biological child and I have to use an egg donor or adopt, I'll still be a mother and love that child no less. That there are ways around struggles even if it's not the traditional route I hoped for. I've grieved over something that I've not even had - it's really strange I can't describe it.

Sorry if I've gone off on a tangent and it's not very relatable but I just wanted to voice what's gone on lately in my head. I really hope everyone on here who wants to have a child and be a mother finds there way someday

Ps. If there's any other threads which may be better for me to use please let me know x

 

[Naataaliiee]

So, hopping onto this thread as TTC my 2nd is already proving more difficult than my first! With our first, I came off the pill rather… erratically, shall we say, so my body was all over the place. I didn’t track anything, didn’t even have a proper period and fell pregnant within 6 weeks. Only now do I appreciate how bloody lucky that is!
TTC no.2.. only had 3 cycles of trying so far but doing so much more this time round in terms of tracking, predicting, all the apps etc and it isn’t happening as easily as the first time!
I’m not for one minute moaning, as I know this could be a much longer journey. Just want to perch myself here with others with the same end goal

 

[storminaDcup]

One of my best friends has just had some awful news. She had been trying for a while whilst navigating some fertility issues, and they fell pregnant recently which they over over the moon about. but they’ve since found out at 14 weeks that the baby has severe abnormalities and it’s likely they will have to make the most awful decision. How do I support her through this / what do I say, I feel so useless

 

[Chocolatelover123]

One of my best friends has just had some awful news. She had been trying for a while whilst navigating some fertility issues, and they fell pregnant recently which they over over the moon about. but they’ve since found out at 14 weeks that the baby has severe abnormalities and it’s likely they will have to make the most awful decision. How do I support her through this / what do I say, I feel so useless

This happened to one of my friends unfortunately there is nothing you say just be there for her. Even if it’s taking some food round

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

One of my best friends has just had some awful news. She had been trying for a while whilst navigating some fertility issues, and they fell pregnant recently which they over over the moon about. but they’ve since found out at 14 weeks that the baby has severe abnormalities and it’s likely they will have to make the most awful decision. How do I support her through this / what do I say, I feel so useless

How awful for your friend to go through this Exactly what the above post says, just be there for them. Don’t try to make any sense of the situation as it’s just a tragic situation which needs no justification.. check in regularly especially as time goes in too cos no doubt she will appreciate the support when other people ‘move on’ Sending love to you and her! X

 

[unidentified]

One of my best friends has just had some awful news. She had been trying for a while whilst navigating some fertility issues, and they fell pregnant recently which they over over the moon about. but they’ve since found out at 14 weeks that the baby has severe abnormalities and it’s likely they will have to make the most awful decision. How do I support her through this / what do I say, I feel so useless

I’m sorry for your friend having to process such difficult news. Sands offer great advice regarding this.

 

[Pineapple55]

For those who have ttc for a while.. do you ever struggle to envision yourself actually having a baby? How do you keep that motivation/hope going? It’s been so long that the thought of me actually having a full term pregnancy with a baby to hold at the end of it seems unrealistic! I focus so hard on trying to get pregnant but then the hard work of maintaining that pregnancy kicks in mentally. Sorry if this makes no sense… just some rambling thoughts I’m having to myself this Friday morning!

This is exactly how I feel, I just don't ever see myself being pregnant or having a baby. It's a hard thought to cling onto when you've not managed to get pregnant isn't it.

One of my best friends has just had some awful news. She had been trying for a while whilst navigating some fertility issues, and they fell pregnant recently which they over over the moon about. but they’ve since found out at 14 weeks that the baby has severe abnormalities and it’s likely they will have to make the most awful decision. How do I support her through this / what do I say, I feel so useless

So sorry love, that's awful you're clearly a supportive friend so that'll be good for her.

Decided before bed to do a (cheap) test on last wee of the day on 7DPO for some stupid reason. Needless to say it was negative

 

[Moonbaby09]

One of my best friends has just had some awful news. She had been trying for a while whilst navigating some fertility issues, and they fell pregnant recently which they over over the moon about. but they’ve since found out at 14 weeks that the baby has severe abnormalities and it’s likely they will have to make the most awful decision. How do I support her through this / what do I say, I feel so useless

Speaking from experience of this please just be there for your friend, talk about her precious baby and don’t forget about her baby. If she names the baby use the babies name and speak about it. Just try to be there for her and in any way you can. If she shuts off just keep reaching out to her.

 

[make-mine-whiskey]

For those who have ttc for a while.. do you ever struggle to envision yourself actually having a baby? How do you keep that motivation/hope going? It’s been so long that the thought of me actually having a full term pregnancy with a baby to hold at the end of it seems unrealistic! I focus so hard on trying to get pregnant but then the hard work of maintaining that pregnancy kicks in mentally. Sorry if this makes no sense… just some rambling thoughts I’m having to myself this Friday morning!

I've not had a positive pregnancy test in the 15 months of trying and my hope is starting to dwindle I'm not going to lie. I've tried 'manifesting' with vision boards and everything lol. We're just in limbo at the moment because we have to wait for hubs second test which is in September as his first results were slightly abnormal and they don't know if it was a lab error honestly the waiting list with the NHS is ridiculous

 

[Pineapple55]

I've noticed the test I did last night now has a faint line. Obviously it's an evaporation line as it didn't appear within the time and was testing far too early anyway but it's the closest I've come to seeing that second line so trying not to let it get in my head going to see if I can hold off testing until Sunday morning as I'll still only be 10DPO then.

 

[WordsFromReuben]

6DPO and first month using a BBT thermometer rather then a standard one. My temp seems all over the place but I did back up check it with my other one to check it’s about the same, I think it’s because of the heatwave. I wish they would give more insight as to if this os looking ok or not

 

[Pinkpascal]

Just did a FrEr test and BFN. Filled out an econsult at the doctors to see what's wrong with me.
Edit: if I shine my torch on the window, I can see a really faint line but nothing when I don't shine a light. Could this be an evap line?

 

[call.me.coco]

Just did a FrEr test and BFN. Filled out an econsult at the doctors to see what's wrong with me.
Edit: if I shine my torch on the window, I can see a really faint line but nothing when I don't shine a light. Could this be an evap line?

Maybe test again tomorrow?
With my first pregnancy I could only see a VERY faint line when holding the test to the window, otherwise nothing! Even then I wasn’t sure if there was a line and wished I had used a digital one instead.

 

[Pineapple55]

Just did a FrEr test and BFN. Filled out an econsult at the doctors to see what's wrong with me.
Edit: if I shine my torch on the window, I can see a really faint line but nothing when I don't shine a light. Could this be an evap line?

Have you got a new FRER? I did one before, saw a line when I shone a light on it then realised a new one I hadn't used was exactly the same so it must have been where the dye would go if it had been positive.

 

[Pinkpascal]

No I don't have another one. I'm just going to take it as a BFN and wait for AF to arrive. I don't want to torture myself overthinking it. I'm not sure how much longer we can keep trying, I feel bad for the sperm donor as we only get one chance a month, I'm frustrated that we can't get IVF on the NHS as we aren't a straight couple and I'm convinced there must be something wrong with me because I haven't conceived.
To top it all off, I have to go to my sisters baby shower on Sunday and pretend my heart isn't breaking.

 

[Pineapple55]

No I don't have another one. I'm just going to take it as a BFN and wait for AF to arrive. I don't want to torture myself overthinking it. I'm not sure how much longer we can keep trying, I feel bad for the sperm donor as we only get one chance a month, I'm frustrated that we can't get IVF on the NHS as we aren't a straight couple and I'm convinced there must be something wrong with me because I haven't conceived.
To top it all off, I have to go to my sisters baby shower on Sunday and pretend my heart isn't breaking.

Oh love I'm sorry I think you're doing the right thing by not driving yourself mad overthinking it. It's really unfair you can't get IVF on the NHS too. There probably isn't anything wrong with you, it's just hard because you only get the one attempt each month.
Look after yourself and do whatever you need to do to get through Sunday

 

[Burrito88]

I’m 5DPO. Trying not to think about it until the end of next week. If nothing happens this cycle we’re going to go private for fertility tests.

For those who have ttc for a while.. do you ever struggle to envision yourself actually having a baby? How do you keep that motivation/hope going? It’s been so long that the thought of me actually having a full term pregnancy with a baby to hold at the end of it seems unrealistic! I focus so hard on trying to get pregnant but then the hard work of maintaining that pregnancy kicks in mentally. Sorry if this makes no sense… just some rambling thoughts I’m having to myself this Friday morning!

Funnily enough I was just thinking this the other day. I see my friends with their kids, and the babies in my family, and I just can’t see myself in that position even though it’s what I’ve always wanted. Maybe it’s a coping mechanism? But yes, you’re definitely not alone

 

[Pineapple55]

I feel completely exhausted! Think I need to drink more water hope everyone is doing ok

 

[wishiniwasskinny]

Me and my husband have been undergoing tests for unexplained infertility. He had to do a semen sample and I’ve had a blood test and today went for a pelvic ultrasound. The Dr who did the ultrasound said that everything (womb and ovaries) looks healthy and as expected and it looks like I’m ovulating. I’ve got to call for the results in a week and then dependent on results may be sent for more tests (they can’t see my Fallopian tubes using an ultrasound for example)