TTC #3

[Dipdab]

Huge congratulations @Smallpotato and @Elsass

 

[Lola UK]

I’ve downloaded Premom and bought the tests to try and track ovulation (see if I actually am ovulating!) as ive been relying heavily on apps, which is crazy. I can’t actually do anything about it, even if I get peak, unless immaculate conception is a thing? And if it is, then I’m here for it!!

Flo says this is my fertile week, but I’ve been getting Lows so far!! Will be interesting to see what happens.

 

[fishsticks]

if anybody else has lost weight to improve their chances of bfp could you drop your tips/tricks for me.
ive been eating smaller portion sizes, less carbs and more greens and trying to be more active. Any home workout tips are welcome too x

If you're self conscious like I am, there's loads of YouTube videos for running on the spot or step, etc. It feels silly at first, but anything to get your body moving is good

 

[Sallycinnamon_]

It’s so frustrating isn’t it when you DTD at what you think are the right times & it still doesn’t work.

I’ve a question regarding your partners, how are they finding the process? Mine told me today he’s finding it stressful which is leading to DTD issues. Now I literally tell him as little as possible re testing cus I know it’s stresses him but he’s not stupid. I’d never jump on this much otherwise I guess I just wondering if anyone else is the same and any way to relax about it.

Quite similar. He didn’t want to know when my fertile period was from the beginning so I never told him but I think he can guess. He also feels I’ve been stressing too much over it and thinks that could be contributing to not getting pregnant as yet, so can’t help but feel I’ve been stressing him out a bit too.
He also feels I contacted my GP too soon to start investigating but I think he’s just nervous, which I understand. I approached them at a year of trying which is reasonable, but by the time we’ve actually got a sperm analysis booked it’ll be 14 months.
It’s funny how we can have different views you know? I want to know as soon as possible if there’s a problem with either of us but he’s happy waiting it out a bit longer and relaxing more.

 

[JLXRD]

I am with you ladies - the flashing smiley gets very old from about day 4 onwards. I kinda feel like it’s patronising me and get angry at it ngl

 

[grumpycat]

Thank you, I might buy the cheaper OPKs and try them. I’m not sure what my CM is like during my peak, I’ve not noticed much of a difference but will monitor going forward. Thanks for your replies

Have you tried using an app like Ovia? It can be wildly inaccurate but allows you to input data for CM etc to keep track of things too

 

[cecedoon]

Hi everyone,

So I had the vaccine last week and now I am 6 days late. Last time it made my period come early.
No symptoms, but my partner kept on at me to test. I have a night out saturday so I reluctantly did(I hate testing as the negatives make me feel so bad)
And I got my first ever BFP.

I am honestly in total shock. We are at the fertility clinic. My partner has low sperm mobility and I found out a week ago today that I have endometriosis and was devestated.

Its early days and I know anything could happen. I also know this may make some of you feel bad. But I also hope it gives some of you some hope. It's taken 20 cycles and no hint of anything in all that time.

I found out today my SIL is also pregnant. Straight away. It still made me annoyed. Its really unfair. The heartache of TTC had made me decide I didn't want to try next month. But it had already happened

I have a way to go but I hope my news gives you all that hope tonight if any of you are in need of it

Fingers crossed for you & congratulations

 

[calmyourritas]

I posted on here last week thinking I could be pregnant. I am pregnant but I don’t think it’s going to stick I’m having the worst stomach pains . I’ve had a miscarriage before and the pains are exactly the same. I thought about calling Epu but I had such a terrible experience the last time I was there. I haven’t told anyone not even my oh because he’s been working away.

I’m so sorry darling Have all my fingers crossed for you xx

Apologies for my ignorance, I’ve never been pregnant - what is EPU?

Early pregnancy unit

 

[Sallycinnamon_]

Hi ladies. I am fairly certain this pregnancy will not be progressing and I will be back with you all shortly, I just wanted to update you all.

Spoiler: Trigger warning: potential pregnancy loss

I wrote last week that my tests weren’t getting darker and my CB digi was also stying in 1-2 weeks. I’m sad to say that my tests have still not darkened and this morning are nearly negative with very faint lines. CB digi has now said 1-2 weeks for 10 days. I know people say not to look at test darkness but for my tests to have been dark and now be coming back almost negative at 19dpo with multiple brands, it’s not looking good.

My symptoms have faded from last week - I know that means nothing but coupled with the tests, I am feeling fairly certain this will not result in a successful pregnancy.

I am obviously devastated and have spent the whole morning since testing just inconsolable. I never allowed myself to feel too happy as I was sure something was wrong, and I guess I was right. My husband has been so happy though and he is just crushed so I just feel incredibly guilty for his sadness, even though I know there’s nothing I could have done.

I am basically just waiting for the physical symptoms to start, which I’m pretty terrified about to be honest. I’m only 4+5 going by ovulation (or 6+2 from LMP) so I’m hoping it won’t be too physically painful. I have not gone through a loss before so I don’t know what to expect. This would have been our first baby.

I am rambling and I’m sorry for offloading here, but I didn’t tell anyone about the pregnancy and have no one to speak with about it, just feel like l can’t move forward at the moment.

I’m so sorry, sending you love xx

 

[Honeybeetea]

Sorry I just need somewhere to rant.
The past 2 weeks I’ve been on the most horrendous period, and for the first time my moods have been so low that I’ve had thoughts of harming myself (I’ve called my doctor and did not act on the harming) I’ve been in excruciating pain from my thighs to my back.. one day I bleed heavily, the next spotting, the next heavy.. bright bright red to then pale pink to brown... I’ve no idea what’s going on
I’ve had norethisterone, I’ve had naproxen and another one with an M I’ve had co coda ok for the pain...

To top it all off! Everyone is pregnant absolute everyone around me, 5 years we’ve been going now and a few losses but it’s starting to kill me... I’m even dreaming that my family members are pregnant with twins for them to give them up for adoption and me begging to have them...

(I’m seeing a psychiatrist right now don’t worry) but I just want my body to work and for a doctor to take me seriously!

Sorry to read you’re in so much pain! You’re always welcome to come here and vent - we all need it sometimes.🤍

Good to hear you’re seeking help for feeling so low, that’s often the hardest part! Have you always had painful periods? Sending love to you xx 🤍

 

[Lemonlee89]

I don’t I’m afraid but just wanted to say welcome to you and @fishsticks Great to have you here, fingers crossed it won’t be for too long!!

Thank you and same to you!!! Glad to have found you guys Reddit was far too big and overwhelming and at least here I can also get my influencer gossip too

 

[Unknown345]

it could go either way, it definitely depends on how you are feeling and wether you would prefer to give it a few days of waiting or test and find out straight away. Since AF is due today most over the counter tests should be accurate but if you’re going to test I’d recommend first response or clear blue.
I hope you get that BFP youre hoping for lovely

Thank you for your advice, isn’t it typical that just after I wrote the post I got signs of AF arriving when I wiped. Thank god I didn’t go out yet and waste money on another test!

I’m keeping positive about it, onto the next cycle. We are going to try out Pre Seed, Prenatal vitamins and some other tactics so if anything works I will be back to update!

Hope everyone gets their BFP in the meantime!

 

[Louk]

Nearly 5 weeks post mc now and still no sign of period returning. Feel like I can’t properly get back into trying until it does and I’m worried it’s going to take ages. Any words of wisdom?! Should have been finding out the gender around now which sucks I will always wonder what would have been

So sorry for your loss

Thanks Tattle Ladies, even though we're total strangers, it's nice that we can come here & someone is there to listen and support

 

[Sallycinnamon_]

I tested first thing this morning

Congratulations

 

[Hopping12]

eeling really lost at the moment, I’m pretty sure I’ve had a chemical pregnancy early days but I feel heartbroken. Trying for baby number 3- there will be quite a big age gap 10 years and 6 years.. but I feel like I can’t remember having this before. Tested positive last Monday (faint) , started spotting brown on Wednesday... thought perhaps implantation- Didn’t have it with my girls. First response tests came and tested at around 1pm super dark line As the day went on spotting turned to Quite heavy bleeding. That evening I had mild cramping and back ache.
Still tested everyday and the line got lighter and lighter since then.
Yesterday I had a clot I thought I had passed it

tested this morning and it’s still there but super faint. I felt no sickness last week. But today I feel really sick.

I know I’m clutching at straws but is there any chance? Or is it over this time. I’m pretty sure it’s a chemical from researching I would of been around 4-5 weeks and everything matched up.

 

[JLXRD]

Congrats @Smallpotato

 

[Honeybeetea]

Hi ladies. I am fairly certain this pregnancy will not be progressing and I will be back with you all shortly, I just wanted to update you all.

Spoiler: Trigger warning: potential pregnancy loss

I wrote last week that my tests weren’t getting darker and my CB digi was also stying in 1-2 weeks. I’m sad to say that my tests have still not darkened and this morning are nearly negative with very faint lines. CB digi has now said 1-2 weeks for 10 days. I know people say not to look at test darkness but for my tests to have been dark and now be coming back almost negative at 19dpo with multiple brands, it’s not looking good.

My symptoms have faded from last week - I know that means nothing but coupled with the tests, I am feeling fairly certain this will not result in a successful pregnancy.

I am obviously devastated and have spent the whole morning since testing just inconsolable. I never allowed myself to feel too happy as I was sure something was wrong, and I guess I was right. My husband has been so happy though and he is just crushed so I just feel incredibly guilty for his sadness, even though I know there’s nothing I could have done.

I am basically just waiting for the physical symptoms to start, which I’m pretty terrified about to be honest. I’m only 4+5 going by ovulation (or 6+2 from LMP) so I’m hoping it won’t be too physically painful. I have not gone through a loss before so I don’t know what to expect. This would have been our first baby.

I am rambling and I’m sorry for offloading here, but I didn’t tell anyone about the pregnancy and have no one to speak with about it, just feel like l can’t move forward at the moment.

Thinking of you and sending you love we're all here for you to offload whenever you need xx

 

[kit359]

Hi girls. I’ve been a long time lurker but have a few questions so hope you don’t mind me popping on .
I’ve never been pregnant. Ever.
I’ve tried for a couple of months but last year but nothing happened and I don’t think I was tracking it properly tbh.
But this month I’m going to really try as I’m 32 now and I don’t have time on my side.
I’ve come on today and checked 3 sites then for my suspected ovulation date and they’re all different .
Can anyone recommend any digital ovulation texts?
Has anyone used the Ava bracelet?
And can anyone recommend and vitamins?
Thank you girls

Hello! I used three different apps (Flo, Ovia and Glow) and each one would give me more or less the same window of 4-5 days during which to TTC. For more accuracy on which exact day I was ovulating I invested in the Mira fertility tracker - you pee on the wands every morning then stick them into the machine and it measures your LH levels and you can really tell when you're actually ovulating. It is expensive though. As an alternative you could do the Clearblue digital sticks - the static smiley is when you're peak ovulation.
I got pregnant on our second attempt (I am 34) and am currently 12 weeks using the methods above - I also did one acupuncture session and started taking Proceive, Bee Pollen/Propolis and Omega supplements. I also cut out alcohol in the weeks leading up to my ovulation. oh, and DTD every day (sometimes twice a day) for the entire window, and a bit after it. Good luck!

 

[fishsticks]

Hahaha yes!!! I feel like it's taunting me and I'm definitely not smiling anymore, just getting mad. I haven't even told my husband I'm peeing on stick for ovulation so I can't even go have a moan to him!!

 

[begaphobia]

I’ve not used BBT so I’m not sure!
it could be worth trying to use BBT to pin point but it’s also worth reading up on the luteal Phase of your cycle (after 0) this is usually 14 days ish after you have ovulated and ends with your period if I remember rightly. So CD22 would mean if your cycle is 30 days only an 8 day luteal phase - but don’t take me for certain on that!!

have you tried using cheap OPKs along side CB? I would use CB digi for first morning urine and then I would use the cheap ones to check that my LH surge stayed low throughout the rest of my cycle. So, it could be worth doing that but cheap OPK’s are difficult to read and take (can’t be first morning wee, between 10-8pm with a 2/3/4 hours wee hold)

when you get your peak OPK on CB, what is your cervical mucus like (TMI, I know sorry!

Thank you, I might buy the cheaper OPKs and try them. I’m not sure what my CM is like during my peak, I’ve not noticed much of a difference but will monitor going forward. Thanks for your replies