Two of mine potty trained in the dead of winter, and it is absolutely fine
your house will be lovely and warm, warm enough for a naked bottom half when it’s needed. And I think when you are constantly showing them how to push their trousers down during potty training it becomes a lot easier for them to grasp, as it’s being done so often.Thanks MamaMe. I just love a good overthink.Two of mine potty trained in the dead of winter, and it is absolutely fine
We are all guilty of it! We all know rationally these things come in their own time, but it doesn’t stop us getting worked up and worried about things x
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pregnancy is wild!Gentle parenting just means (to me) holding the boundary in a respectful way. So in the example above the little boy threw. She started well, then when he threw again she should have repeated and given a consequence “if you throw again we will have to move out of this part so you don’t hurt anyone” and then when it happened again she should have reminded him “we don’t throw, you’re hurting other children. We are leaving this area now so you can’t hurt anyone else.”The problem I have with gentle parenting, and it’s not really a problem and hopefully one of you wise ladies can help, is that I don’t really understand it. I get the theory but I just never see it in practice. There seems to be a fine line between gentle parenting and just not really parenting and I don’t know how to walk it (for example at soft play, a child lobbed a toy at my then baby’s head, his mum said “oh no we don’t throw we use gentle hands” and he did it again, I moved her and then he did it to another child. Clearly that’s not really parenting (IMO anyway) but what actually constitutes “gentle parenting” in those circumstances?) I’m not sure if I’ve articulated it well at all, but I’m just confused about how far you go with boundaries etc. I didn’t realise the naughty step or going to their room was so controversial either (I don’t do them anyway as she’s too young and isn’t actually being naughty so what would it achieve
I’m struggling anyway with pregnancy hormones m, usually quite chill but at the moment I’m so irritable and snappy all the time, feel like a terrible mum. Although I cried earlier because she waved at a bus and the bus driver and passengers waved back
Anyway sorry that was a waffle!!!!
Thank you, I feel the same about your posts. You always say what I want to so much more coherently!Just wanted to say I love reading your posts, and really value the things you share
Sorry, I am back for moreThe problem I have with gentle parenting, and it’s not really a problem and hopefully one of you wise ladies can help, is that I don’t really understand it. I get the theory but I just never see it in practice. There seems to be a fine line between gentle parenting and just not really parenting and I don’t know how to walk it (for example at soft play, a child lobbed a toy at my then baby’s head, his mum said “oh no we don’t throw we use gentle hands” and he did it again, I moved her and then he did it to another child. Clearly that’s not really parenting (IMO anyway) but what actually constitutes “gentle parenting” in those circumstances?) I’m not sure if I’ve articulated it well at all, but I’m just confused about how far you go with boundaries etc. I didn’t realise the naughty step or going to their room was so controversial either (I don’t do them anyway as she’s too young and isn’t actually being naughty so what would it achieve
I’m struggling anyway with pregnancy hormones m, usually quite chill but at the moment I’m so irritable and snappy all the time, feel like a terrible mum. Although I cried earlier because she waved at a bus and the bus driver and passengers waved back
Anyway sorry that was a waffle!!!!
my issue with the naughty step is that it’s removing a child from everyone else,to a situation where they are alone and disregulated, and has no connection to what they did. Leaving them alone, calling their normal behaviour naughty and ignoring them. Someone above mentioned a little chair with stuff to do, where the adult stays close to help the child calm down away from the situation, but not alone, not shamed by being called naughty. Sorry to go back to this (a bit behind on the thread) but we do nursery M/T/W (well Monday is Granny day but similar vibes) and then a class on Friday. If I try and schedule anything in on a Thursday we get crabby, whinge, angry boddler. I know you said she’s used to it but she still could be tired. I’d be tired from swimming and horse riding in one day. We tend to limit activities to one a day to avoid meltdowns.
we had an experience of an older kid (maybe 3 or 4) barging into the baby bit and starting to throw balls around, which nearly hit my child. The parent wasn’t really aware of what their child was doing but then they came over and just went “oh dear. Come on let’s go and buy you a cake” ! I think gentle parenting still allows you to deal with the behaviour and set consequences.
I’m not looking forward to it This is defo meLoving the gentle parenting discussion in here. It's really made me reassess how I talk to my little girl. I have a tendency to be the shouty, angry mum and have a really short fuse, and I'm determined to try and change how I respond to her. This has been very interesting reading, thank you all
You know, I try my best not to be shouty and angry - but ask my older kids what sort of mum I was this morning and the answer will shame me til my grave. I shouted and ranted at them, and it wasn’t nice for any of us. All my fault. I think wanting to do better, not be that shouty person, and trying to find ways around it show how much we care, and how we want to be better. Very few people are naturally able to stay calm at all times. I am 100% not one of them, to my shame.Loving the gentle parenting discussion in here. It's really made me reassess how I talk to my little girl. I have a tendency to be the shouty, angry mum and have a really short fuse, and I'm determined to try and change how I respond to her. This has been very interesting reading, thank you all
(I know that’s not reality and that they won’t be like it all the time) there’s a weekly group he does like andis used to, but other than that I’m thinking let’s just do stuff we like. Spend more time outside at parks etc. do library trips, just potter about.It’s a long process and I can still be that shouty mum at times, I feel like I constantly remind myself to take a second, not immediately react and work out an approach. I just like to think we’re both learning together. It’s hard but seeing changes in her behaviour and in myself has been the ultimate reward xLoving the gentle parenting discussion in here. It's really made me reassess how I talk to my little girl. I have a tendency to be the shouty, angry mum and have a really short fuse, and I'm determined to try and change how I respond to her. This has been very interesting reading, thank you all
Of course it’s ok. It’s so overwhelming being taken to new places with new people, noises, mountains of toys and unpredictable toddlers. My daughter hated them until she made a friend with an older girl who took her under her wing and finally left my side. She is now very confident and makes friends wherever she goes. That is due to being at preschool which she only started when she turned 3.This is going to sound so silly when I put it like this but do you think it’s ok that my child doesn’t really like play groups / toddler groups ?
I only ask this as I’ve been a bit worried about him in terms of development (he babbles a lot but isn’t really speaking) and when I take him to new groups etc he usually hates them and screams/cries when all the other toddlers there are like playing nicely
I feel like you have it drummed into you from somewhere that you must take your child to groups to socialise them etc but it’s just left me stressing and feeling there’s something wrong with both of us.
I have kind of snapped myself out of that and just trying to think: he hates busy new places, I hate busy new places so should I be surprised
There’s just something in my brain telling me I’m not doing enough for his development (again don’t know really where I am getting that message from).
Really need to let go of this constant worry / guilt and just spend time with my boy but why is it so hard sometimes !
