Several warnings of what? Rather than a naughty step could you create a calm corner? I’ve got a tent from Ikea with fluffy blankets and pillows and when I see her getting dysregulated and having challenging behaviour we go there and read a book and have a cuddle. I try and head it off before it gets to the stage where we are both not calm and she is having a full on meltdown. It’s not always possible but definitely helps.
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You don’t have to stay in but you don’t have to do much either. Does she like going in the garden. Mine likes doing things like play doh or painting at home
We love going for a walk or to the park ( I know that isn’t for everyone ) but I do think half a hour swimming and then a hour horse riding is a lot for a little one In one day but that’s just me. I’d say one or the other is plenty cos she goes to nursery as well.
Mine goes to nursery 9-3 and when we got home he’s tired. We usually play for a bit he has a chill on the iPad whilst I make tea and clean up then its bath and bed
Weekends in summer we are usually in the garden or a walk
Winter soft play once a month
. We really don’t do an awful lot. Your schedule makes me tired just thinking about it! 
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I have never put mine on the naughty step. I don’t want to sound like a twit but it’s just not something I do. And if I tell him off like raise my voice he gets upset and cries more. Maybe I am soft but he is quite a good boy most of the time and I rarely have to tell him off!
I think some people would say I spoil him a bit and maybe I’m too soft but he is genuinely well behaved. I don’t let him do what he wants but he does have probably wider boundaries than some on here just because me & my partner are both quite laid back.
Love the sound of your calm corner. I bet I would have liked that when I was little
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can you offer her something else instead. Mine sometimes goes to the freezer like 10 am and I’ll say you’re not having an ice lolly but you can have some cereal or a croissant or a banana. Will she be happy with that!
I always find small compromises are better maybe some would say easier
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You don’t sound soft at all! The naughty step is a horrible parenting technique, we’ve had decades of experience with navigating emotions and desires, yet expect the new humans to be at our level immediately and banish them to a corner to feel shame or guilt over something they cannot control or even possibly understand. A lot of the time children are sent to the naughty step for very confusing things too, if they want something, expressed it, but get denied, well it’s pretty natural to be upset about it, that should be met with empathy, it’s such a strange thing to shun a child for having opinions or emotions, because in the end by dismissing their wants and needs we’re only teaching them to also then disregard our wants and needs tooI have never put mine on the naughty step. I don’t want to sound like a twit but it’s just not something I do. And if I tell him off like raise my voice he gets upset and cries more. Maybe I am soft but he is quite a good boy most of the time and I rarely have to tell him off!
I think some people would say I spoil him a bit and maybe I’m too soft but he is genuinely well behaved. I don’t let him do what he wants but he does have probably wider boundaries than some on here just because me & my partner are both quite laid back.
Love the sound of your calm corner. I bet I would have liked that when I was little
3 year old is having his immunisations next week, feeling anxious because he had a seizure after a booster last year. How many injections is it this time round? Won't need HiB as was revaccinated last year due to a vaccine failure.
yeah I do, I say if you’re hungry have some cereal/fruit etc and not good enough is itYou don’t have to stay in but you don’t have to do much either. Does she like going in the garden. Mine likes doing things like play doh or painting at home
We love going for a walk or to the park ( I know that isn’t for everyone ) but I do think half a hour swimming and then a hour horse riding is a lot for a little one In one day but that’s just me. I’d say one or the other is plenty cos she goes to nursery as well.
Mine goes to nursery 9-3 and when we got home he’s tired. We usually play for a bit he has a chill on the iPad whilst I make tea and clean up then its bath and bed
Weekends in summer we are usually in the garden or a walk
Winter soft play once a month
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I have never put mine on the naughty step. I don’t want to sound like a twit but it’s just not something I do. And if I tell him off like raise my voice he gets upset and cries more. Maybe I am soft but he is quite a good boy most of the time and I rarely have to tell him off!
I think some people would say I spoil him a bit and maybe I’m too soft but he is genuinely well behaved. I don’t let him do what he wants but he does have probably wider boundaries than some on here just because me & my partner are both quite laid back.
Love the sound of your calm corner. I bet I would have liked that when I was little
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can you offer her something else instead. Mine sometimes goes to the freezer like 10 am and I’ll say you’re not having an ice lolly but you can have some cereal or a croissant or a banana. Will she be happy with that!
I always find small compromises are better maybe some would say easier
she loves to push the boundariesI think it’s quite old fashioned isn’t it. My dad suffered migraines when I was younger which made him so grumpy and I felt like we were always being shouted at as kids. My mum was strict too! I never wanted to be like thatYou don’t sound soft at all! The naughty step is a horrible parenting technique, we’ve had decades of experience with navigating emotions and desires, yet expect the new humans to be at our level immediately and banish them to a corner to feel shame or guilt over something they cannot control or even possibly understand. A lot of the time children are sent to the naughty step for very confusing things too, if they want something, expressed it, but get denied, well it’s pretty natural to be upset about it, that should be met with empathy, it’s such a strange thing to shun a child for having opinions or emotions, because in the end by dismissing their wants and needs we’re only teaching them to also then disregard our wants and needs too
If I used to ask for a biscuit everything was always in a minute but last week she offered my little boy a brownie at 1030!
I think as parents we are always learning and we don’t always get it right and that’s ok.
You sound like a lovely parent, who leads with empathy and compassion. I’ve also never used the naughty step and try and choose connection over correction when possible. There’s nothing wrong with being soft either, the world needs more of it! I also would have loved that as a child. As a sensitive person now parenting another sensitive person it’s probably easier for me as I relate to her so much. In parenting her I am also reparenting myself and allowing my inner child to rest in the love my child rests in.You don’t have to stay in but you don’t have to do much either. Does she like going in the garden. Mine likes doing things like play doh or painting at home
We love going for a walk or to the park ( I know that isn’t for everyone ) but I do think half a hour swimming and then a hour horse riding is a lot for a little one In one day but that’s just me. I’d say one or the other is plenty cos she goes to nursery as well.
Mine goes to nursery 9-3 and when we got home he’s tired. We usually play for a bit he has a chill on the iPad whilst I make tea and clean up then its bath and bed
Weekends in summer we are usually in the garden or a walk
Winter soft play once a month
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I have never put mine on the naughty step. I don’t want to sound like a twit but it’s just not something I do. And if I tell him off like raise my voice he gets upset and cries more. Maybe I am soft but he is quite a good boy most of the time and I rarely have to tell him off!
I think some people would say I spoil him a bit and maybe I’m too soft but he is genuinely well behaved. I don’t let him do what he wants but he does have probably wider boundaries than some on here just because me & my partner are both quite laid back.
Love the sound of your calm corner. I bet I would have liked that when I was little
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can you offer her something else instead. Mine sometimes goes to the freezer like 10 am and I’ll say you’re not having an ice lolly but you can have some cereal or a croissant or a banana. Will she be happy with that!
I always find small compromises are better maybe some would say easier
Sorry it that was really woo woo but it is massive to me. I saw a post on instagram today I think you will like.
Oh thankyou. I am a very sensitive person as well and so is my little boy. So is my partner to be honest. For a man he Is quite sensitive and definitely has a lovely heart! To this day I still don’t tell my mum my little boy sleeps in my Bed and has done since 10 months
. He doesn’t like being alone so why would I want to force it and upset him but that’s a different subject altogether !!Yes I love that post. Every word! Especially when it says no punishment or anger just safety and love
I have always wanted to raise my little boy where when he’s older he will still want to come and see me! Whereas I don’t always feel like that with my parents
I use the naughty step as I’d rather not do what my parents did and stand there and shout or go round in circles as to why she can’t have another meltdown. Hitting me maliciously warrants the step cos she it’s horrible behaviour, she knows she shouldn’t do it and I’ve got to say she’s probably been on the step I’d say a handful of times
Sorry to hear that. That would worry me too. I honestly can’t remember I think mine had to jabs one in each leg maybe. I would tell them your worries before they do it.
hope it goes ok
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Sorry to hear that. That would worry me too. I honestly can’t remember I think mine had to jabs one in each leg maybe. I would tell them your worries before they do it.
hope it goes ok
Personally I don't feel like you want advice.
You don't particularly offer advice to others, countless people have tried to show you understanding and help you understand children better and you don't want to take it on board.
I get being a parent is hard.
I understand that being a single working parent is doubley hard.
But it's frustrating when countless people are trying to offer you insight and you repeatedly shut them down with yet more excuses.
You don't particularly offer advice to others, countless people have tried to show you understanding and help you understand children better and you don't want to take it on board.
I get being a parent is hard.
I understand that being a single working parent is doubley hard.
But it's frustrating when countless people are trying to offer you insight and you repeatedly shut them down with yet more excuses.
Tbf, she sounds a lot like my eldest. I was going through horrible time of my life, and I was taking everything out on her, even when she wasn’t doing anything wrong. I’m a lot more relaxed with my other kids because I’m in a much happier place and I have support. I don honestly think she is over stimulated and tired. Nursery exhausts them, I know mine is struggling and will find anything to cry about, which I get is stressful
I wouldn’t say she’s being malicious at all, it’s out of frustration, toddlers have big emotions. She just sounds very misunderstood tbh. It’s better to try and work with them rather than against them all the time.
This is an advice thread not dear diary
What do you mean
We had two injections, one in each arm, they were very quick and no fever afterwards
Not wading in on the actual issue that was posted however…
It truly warms my heart to see so many kind, compassionate parents of toddlers on here. People who are listening, learning, and remembering that toddlers are complicated small people who need our love and understanding even in their truly crappy moments. It is lovely to think so many toddlers are growing up in emotionally supportive homes.
It truly warms my heart to see so many kind, compassionate parents of toddlers on here. People who are listening, learning, and remembering that toddlers are complicated small people who need our love and understanding even in their truly crappy moments. It is lovely to think so many toddlers are growing up in emotionally supportive homes.
Just fed up reading people’s moans and breakdowns of their days without taking or offering advice to people who take the time to give it
I’m used to it I have a friend who does the same
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