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Thank you, I feel like I projected my own feelings onto your post sorry about that! Yeah it’s just not a great situation for her as she ends up being in the spotlight with 6 adults all commenting on what she’s doing, what she’s eating (or not eating) and her grandad spent the whole time in the kitchen cooking then cleaning up. It’s just a lot and I always leave feeling annoyed.
Oh that’s not on. I wouldn’t be happy with that. You’re not being over protective, they should be stopping her not laughing it off. I’d definitely meet on neutral ground next time. She might fair better if it’s not her space, although isn’t always the case.
Don’t be sorry. This is a place to vent too.
bless her. Mine probably wouldn’t like that either. Adults do expect too much from children sometimes I think. Especially when it comes to meals out etc. is it your side of the family or your partners.
yeah I will suggest the park next time possibly 🤣
 
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But a baby does massively change the dynamic. She’s still so little. My eldest was 7 when he brother was born, and she struggled and hit out massively because her mum got taken away from her.
You know why her behaviour has changed. Please don’t feel sad 😔 people will judge no matter what!
Thank you, I know she’s found it so hard but she’s done really well and although she’s had her moments which have been awful she’s taken it better than I thought she would. We’ve actually not had a lot of that behaviour recently.
It’s a bit of a sore subject for me as it happens every time we go round there, even before the baby. It’s like no one can see how wound up she’s getting and it’s something about them which riles her up. Probably the constant comments and lack of body boundaries there as they always tickle her and ask for hugs. I do advocate for her but it falls on deaf ears. Anyway enough of my pity party. Thanks for sharing your experience. What was it like after the third and fourth? Was it easier?
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Don’t be sorry. This is a place to vent too.
bless her. Mine probably wouldn’t like that either. Adults do expect too much from children sometimes I think. Especially when it comes to meals out etc. is it your side of the family or your partners.
yeah I will suggest the park next time possibly 🤣
Thank you! That’s why we don’t do it often. They know not to invite us to a restaurant or any meal after 3 🤣 It’s not my family or I would talk to them.
Park is a good idea but be prepared to be the one running round after them if she brings the baby. Do you have a small soft play that has a decent baby/toddler area where you could all sit so she can intervene a bit more?
 
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Thank you, I know she’s found it so hard but she’s done really well and although she’s had her moments which have been awful she’s taken it better than I thought she would. We’ve actually not had a lot of that behaviour recently.
It’s a bit of a sore subject for me as it happens every time we go round there, even before the baby. It’s like no one can see how wound up she’s getting and it’s something about them which riles her up. Probably the constant comments and lack of body boundaries there as they always tickle her and ask for hugs. I do advocate for her but it falls on deaf ears. Anyway enough of my pity party. Thanks for sharing your experience. What was it like after the third and fourth? Was it easier?
My mum really winds the kids up. Always question why they’re so quiet and why they don’t say hello/kiss goodbye, because she’s made such a big thing about it over the years, that’s just what they do to her now
Erm… 3 and 4 slotted in, but it’s hard work 😂 we just got back from a week abroad (2x youngest first abroad holiday) and as lovely as it was they both wanted to go in different directions and it was hard to keep up, so I’m more tired than when we went 😂 but they all kind of look after each other, and I know when the baby gets a bit older, it will be these lot against the world!

*I’ve just realised you may have meant maybe feeling a bit jealous? I haven’t had it with the younger 2
 
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It wasn’t as such the tantrum that I was bothered by it was the way she grabbed his hood and tried dragging him out of her Wendy house 😂 my friends say all the time she tries bossing her friends around.
When she was having the tantrum mine was on my knee with his head in my chest hiding.
How come it has made you sad. Sorry
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Well I thought if we met somewhere out and about it might be better. And then if she is the same then I’ll say something. They know she is bossy tho! They said she was bossing a girl around at the park the week before 🙈
Maybe she was just having a bad day 🤣 but I’m just protective of mine because he has only recently started speaking properly and at nursery they say he struggles to communicate with the other children so I just didn’t like the way she man handled him 😅
Totally get you I’m quite protective of my wee sensitive toddler lol. Try a park and fingers crossed it’s more enjoyable x
 
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I definitely don't think you're being unreasonable or dramatic.
I personally disagree with the whole timeout situations and using the baby as an excuse as to why the other child can't do something. So to me I think she is using tantrums because it's how she's getting a direct one on one connection with her parents.
Sorry I’ve just seen your reply. It seemed like they were making excuses to me as well but i wasn’t sure!!! Cos their baby had been unwell the week before they said she hadn’t got a lot of attention and this that and the other.
its just a bit awkward but I feel better for getting it off my chest if nothing else
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Totally get you I’m quite protective of my wee sensitive toddler lol. Try a park and fingers crossed it’s more enjoyable x
Me too!! Mine is sensitive also!!! If I tell him off he stuffs his head in my chest and cries a little or says sorry mummy 🥹🥹. He isn’t one for a tantrum. He’s just so laid back and chilled really.
 
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My mum really winds the kids up. Always question why they’re so quiet and why they don’t say hello/kiss goodbye, because she’s made such a big thing about it over the years, that’s just what they do to her now
Erm… 3 and 4 slotted in, but it’s hard work 😂 we just got back from a week abroad (2x youngest first abroad holiday) and as lovely as it was they both wanted to go in different directions and it was hard to keep up, so I’m more tired than when we went 😂 but they all kind of look after each other, and I know when the baby gets a bit older, it will be these lot against the world!

*I’ve just realised you may have meant maybe feeling a bit jealous? I haven’t had it with the younger 2
Have you ever spoken to her about it? I find it so interesting how people differ with interacting or understanding children.
I did mean the jealousy. I wondered if each child had their turn when they were no longer the “new” child. But they’ve always had a sibling so I guess no different for them.
I really admire you. I could not do any more than two, I’m knackered as it is. Hats off to you doing a holiday abroad, they hit different after kids 🤣
 
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Have you ever spoken to her about it? I find it so interesting how people differ with interacting or understanding children.
I did mean the jealousy. I wondered if each child had their turn when they were no longer the “new” child. But they’ve always had a sibling so I guess no different for them.
I really admire you. I could not do any more than two, I’m knackered as it is. Hats off to you doing a holiday abroad, they hit different after kids 🤣
I just tell them to ignore her and tell her to leave them alone
No, no jealousy with the other 2, but the 3 of them have got the same dad. My eldest has different, so think that has a big part to do with it
Sorry for getting all confused. I’m shattered 😂
 
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I just tell them to ignore her and tell her to leave them alone
No, no jealousy with the other 2, but the 3 of them have got the same dad. My eldest has different, so think that has a big part to do with it
Sorry for getting all confused. I’m shattered 😂
Ah yea that must have been hard for her. No I like to hear about it. A part of me would love a third but I’d be totally overwhelmed.
 
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@moimoi hello! So glad to hear from you! Apart from the head job comments I hope all is well with you and ToddlerMoi?
Good to see you still around too! I’m mainly just witching in the Ashley James thread these days 🤣 we are well, thank you. ToddlerMoi just got over chicken pox, he was fine though, glad it’s out the way now. Still breastfeeding and desperate to wean but it’s not happening! Hope you and your crew are doing well ❤
 
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Can we just breathe a sigh of relief for my 3 year old, the fussiest eater when it comes to frozen freezer stuff. She’s finally eating potato waffles 😂 she hates beige food! She’s starving after swimming so lunch is always abit earlier and she wants waffles and beans with fruit 🥳😂 amazing LOL smiley faces next lol..
 
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Can we just breathe a sigh of relief for my 3 year old, the fussiest eater when it comes to frozen freezer stuff. She’s finally eating potato waffles 😂 she hates beige food! She’s starving after swimming so lunch is always abit earlier and she wants waffles and beans with fruit 🥳😂 amazing LOL smiley faces next lol..
Alphabites are a winner for my son he likes saying what he’s gonna eat 🤣
 
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Mini A has got tonsillitis. She WILL not have the medicine prescribed, she first got penicillin which was bright yellow and stunk. Mixing that in stuff was a nightmare. Rung her gp surgery back and they prescribed her clarithromycin. I’ve had to pin her down literally climb on top of her and force her mouth open. She spits it out and it just goes all over, it’s horrible for us both but what can I do.

She’s the same with calpol and always has been.

mixing it with stuff doesn’t work, she just won’t drink it. Telling her it makes her better has no effect and bribing her with “if you have your medicine you can have x y and z” .. I’m at a loss. Pinning her down isn’t working cos she’s just spitting it out even when I’m aiming the syringe at the side of her mouth she just gags and it’s just awful and it’s getting all over!

Anyone got an ideas? I’m out of options. Why don’t they make penicillin into gummies that taste amazing 🤣🤣🤣
 
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Mini A has got tonsillitis. She WILL not have the medicine prescribed, she first got penicillin which was bright yellow and stunk. Mixing that in stuff was a nightmare. Rung her gp surgery back and they prescribed her clarithromycin. I’ve had to pin her down literally climb on top of her and force her mouth open. She spits it out and it just goes all over, it’s horrible for us both but what can I do.

She’s the same with calpol and always has been.

mixing it with stuff doesn’t work, she just won’t drink it. Telling her it makes her better has no effect and bribing her with “if you have your medicine you can have x y and z” .. I’m at a loss. Pinning her down isn’t working cos she’s just spitting it out even when I’m aiming the syringe at the side of her mouth she just gags and it’s just awful and it’s getting all over!

Anyone got an ideas? I’m out of options. Why don’t they make penicillin into gummies that taste amazing 🤣🤣🤣
Ah God it sucks doesn't it. We had three lots of penicillin in 3 months and I dreaded it every time. I don't know what to suggest as for us, we got away with hiding it in her morning bottle of milk or melting ice cream and mixing it with that. We tried the pinning her down thing and it was just horrible.
Oddly, when she had the purple penicillin (flucloxacillin or something) she loved it, and used to take it voluntarily and even lived the syringe clean after. Weirdo. :ROFLMAO:
No real help, sorry, just solidarity. Do your best but remember, she will get better without antibiotics and if she doesn't get it all in, you've tried your best. When miniP had an ear infection I remember just giving up after a couple of days of torturing her to take it.


In other news, my daughter woke up at 6am this morning (compared to her usual 7-8am) and I am bleeping DEAD. :LOL:
 
Ah God it sucks doesn't it. We had three lots of penicillin in 3 months and I dreaded it every time. I don't know what to suggest as for us, we got away with hiding it in her morning bottle of milk or melting ice cream and mixing it with that. We tried the pinning her down thing and it was just horrible.
Oddly, when she had the purple penicillin (flucloxacillin or something) she loved it, and used to take it voluntarily and even lived the syringe clean after. Weirdo. :ROFLMAO:
No real help, sorry, just solidarity. Do your best but remember, she will get better without antibiotics and if she doesn't get it all in, you've tried your best. When miniP had an ear infection I remember just giving up after a couple of days of torturing her to take it.


In other news, my daughter woke up at 6am this morning (compared to her usual 7-8am) and I am bleeping DEAD. :LOL:
😫😫😫😭 after we came back from the walk in the woods, she wanted milk and I thought right I’ll hide it in that but obviously she took one sip, spat it out and said medicine 😭😭😭😭😭 she isn’t stupid! I’m just gunna try get as much into her as she can. Also - the doctor said possible tonsillitis but she was unwell more last week and a lot better this week she just gave it her as a “maybe” cos we go away on the 8th May so didn’t want to risk anything abroad as her tonsils are abit swollen.

There’s nothing worse than being woken up early when you’re used to a “lie in” 😭mini A was up at 6:35am today which isn’t too bad, yesterday morning she was up at 7:20am so swings and roundabouts 😂
 
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Mini A has got tonsillitis. She WILL not have the medicine prescribed, she first got penicillin which was bright yellow and stunk. Mixing that in stuff was a nightmare. Rung her gp surgery back and they prescribed her clarithromycin. I’ve had to pin her down literally climb on top of her and force her mouth open. She spits it out and it just goes all over, it’s horrible for us both but what can I do.

She’s the same with calpol and always has been.

mixing it with stuff doesn’t work, she just won’t drink it. Telling her it makes her better has no effect and bribing her with “if you have your medicine you can have x y and z” .. I’m at a loss. Pinning her down isn’t working cos she’s just spitting it out even when I’m aiming the syringe at the side of her mouth she just gags and it’s just awful and it’s getting all over!

Anyone got an ideas? I’m out of options. Why don’t they make penicillin into gummies that taste amazing 🤣🤣🤣
We put in milk works well for us. It is a nightmare when their won't take it. Milk was the only way we could get it down
 
Yesterday picked my little boy up from nursery got him in the car and noticed he had done a poo ( still in nappies ) and I changed him in the car cos he would have got upset if I tried taking him back in.
And the teacher later on sent me an email saying apologies I forgot to change him this afternoon.
like hello that is not acceptable in my opinion. I picked him up at 3 and he hadn’t been changed since before dinner I could tell the poo had Been in there a while and tbh I’m really upset today. I emailed her back saying he had done A poo and she hasn’treplied. It isn’t the first time he’s come out with a poo in his nappy. I’m pretty furious to be honest 😭😭😭😭
 
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Yesterday picked my little boy up from nursery got him in the car and noticed he had done a poo ( still in nappies ) and I changed him in the car cos he would have got upset if I tried taking him back in.
And the teacher later on sent me an email saying apologies I forgot to change him this afternoon.
like hello that is not acceptable in my opinion. I picked him up at 3 and he hadn’t been changed since before dinner I could tell the poo had Been in there a while and tbh I’m really upset today. I emailed her back saying he had done A poo and she hasn’treplied. It isn’t the first time he’s come out with a poo in his nappy. I’m pretty furious to be honest 😭😭😭😭
speak to manager about it, mini As nursery put a clean top on her or leggings if they’re dirty before pick up. When she was in nappies they always checked before pickup! It’s not acceptable at all!
 
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Yesterday picked my little boy up from nursery got him in the car and noticed he had done a poo ( still in nappies ) and I changed him in the car cos he would have got upset if I tried taking him back in.
And the teacher later on sent me an email saying apologies I forgot to change him this afternoon.
like hello that is not acceptable in my opinion. I picked him up at 3 and he hadn’t been changed since before dinner I could tell the poo had Been in there a while and tbh I’m really upset today. I emailed her back saying he had done A poo and she hasn’treplied. It isn’t the first time he’s come out with a poo in his nappy. I’m pretty furious to be honest 😭😭😭😭
I would be furious too, that’s totally unacceptable! Not sure how they can just ‘forget’ to do a nappy change, really poor excuse.
 
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