Toddler advice thread #3

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

I feel a bit silly worrying about him so much last night when I think he was just extra extra tired . I’ve kept him off pre school today and he’s fine. He’s been dancing & all sorts . Bloody kids. The other month i asked my friend who also has a son at what age do we stop checking their still breathing at night and she just said 18 . Being a parent is constant worry isn’t it .

My daughters been unwell for over a week but to look at her you wouldn’t know it until her temp comes back up. She’s just been extra clingy and upset and no energy to go out but has me and the house wrecked
Glad your little one is ok x

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

My daughters been unwell for over a week but to look at her you wouldn’t know it until her temp comes back up. She’s just been extra clingy and upset and no energy to go out but has me and the house wrecked
Glad your little one is ok x

Sounds like they have the same thing. He was teary and clingy last night. He probs could have gone in today but I feel he needs a days rest. 5 days a week is a lot bless him. He has been ok this morning but he’s tired and a bit pale now. Thought we’d go a walk after lunch but might not bother. He’s happy playing

hope yours is ok too.

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

Sounds like they have the same thing. He was teary and clingy last night. He probs could have gone in today but I feel he needs a days rest. 5 days a week is a lot bless him. He has been ok this morning but he’s tired and a bit pale now. Thought we’d go a walk after lunch but might not bother. He’s happy playing

hope yours is ok too.

He must need the rest. I sent mine in last week when she was saying her ears hurt and regret it as now a week on she’s only just getting better.

 

[daffydaffyp]

My children are just awful at sleep. And this is a major reason why there will not be a third, I think even more years of sleep deprivation would finish me off!

My first didn't sleep through the night until about 5years old. Baby Daffy is now 2 and still hasn't. I live on coffee and hope every day!

Anyone find it so hard to wear their toddler out after their nap?

Baby Daffy will wake about 2pm aftern an hour or so of sleep, usually pretty grumpy and clingy for a half hour. Then oldest is home from school, start homework, dinner etc and it's so hard to keep the youngest entertained and tired him out before bed. Roll on summer in the garden!!!!

Edit to add:


I'd anyone could share thier afternoon 'routine' that would be great

 

[WhatABore]

My first didn't sleep through the night until about 5years old. Baby Daffy is now 2 and still hasn't. I live on coffee and hope every day!

Anyone find it so hard to wear their toddler out after their nap?

Baby Daffy will wake about 2pm aftern an hour or so of sleep, usually pretty grumpy and clingy for a half hour. Then oldest is home from school, start homework, dinner etc and it's so hard to keep the youngest entertained and tired him out before bed. Roll on summer in the garden!!!!

Edit to add:


I'd anyone could share thier afternoon 'routine' that would be great

Could you consider cutting the nap?
If they're not tired by bed time, maybe?

 

[Higuyswelcometomychannel]

Anyone else struggling with intrusive thoughts like mad right now? I think it must be the strep A thing but my mind is in overdrive. Like walking down the street I was having vivid visions of my 3yo falling under a car’s wheel and having his head crushed, I was literally almost was sick at the thought.

Being a parent’s great innit 🫠🫠🫠

 

[daffydaffyp]

Could you consider cutting the nap?
If they're not tired by bed time, maybe?

We had days without naps and he's been so tired he's had a 6pm bedtime. Still wakes in the night same as before

Anyone else struggling with intrusive thoughts like mad right now? I think it must be the strep A thing but my mind is in overdrive. Like walking down the street I was having vivid visions of my 3yo falling under a car’s wheel and having his head crushed, I was literally almost was sick at the thought.

Being a parent’s great innit 🫠🫠🫠

Yep I get this all the time! Especially at soft play. My boy is so crazy he throws himself down slides and tumbles around in just waiting for a trip to a&e

 

[Hairraiser]

My 21 month old has recently got over a viral cough & cold & during that he was very clingy, clingier than usual. He used to go down to sleep for naps and night time in his own bed but then when he became poorly he wanted to sleep in our bed one day, at first I thought ‘aww how cute, I don’t mind a couple of times’ but now, of course the inevitable has happened.
he won’t now go in his own bed, unless he’s in a deep sleep and we carry him in.
My husband volunteers to go on the sofa every night but I’m beginning to feel bad cause he is now complaining of a bad back
I can’t sleep on the sofa cause I have a shoulder injury.
It’s just something I never really planned to do, I don’t have anything against co sleeping but it was always something I wanted to try and avoid as I love my sleep when I can get some
Now I have a wriggling toddler who likes to cuddle up very close, basically laying on my tummy until he falls asleep, and sometimes when I try and move him to his own bed he wakes up crying. so I just bring him back into my bed till the morning!

I guess I just want some reassurance that I’m not the only one doing this, cause I always worry that I’ve perhaps made a rod for my own back and now caused an attachment issue!

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

My 21 month old has recently got over a viral cough & cold & during that he was very clingy, clingier than usual. He used to go down to sleep for naps and night time in his own bed but then when he became poorly he wanted to sleep in our bed one day, at first I thought ‘aww how cute, I don’t mind a couple of times’ but now, of course the inevitable has happened.
he won’t now go in his own bed, unless he’s in a deep sleep and we carry him in.
My husband volunteers to go on the sofa every night but I’m beginning to feel bad cause he is now complaining of a bad back
I can’t sleep on the sofa cause I have a shoulder injury.
It’s just something I never really planned to do, I don’t have anything against co sleeping but it was always something I wanted to try and avoid as I love my sleep when I can get some
Now I have a wriggling toddler who likes to cuddle up very close, basically laying on my tummy until he falls asleep, and sometimes when I try and move him to his own bed he wakes up crying. so I just bring him back into my bed till the morning!

I guess I just want some reassurance that I’m not the only one doing this, cause I always worry that I’ve perhaps made a rod for my own back and now caused an attachment issue!

Erm you’ve described my son. twice last week when he was going to bed he wanted to fall asleep on top of me. So I let him cos I’m soft. Other night he kept moving and putting his face in my neck during the night when I moved. I’m not sure why he’s so clingy but he is. You’re 100% not the only one. Loads of kids sleep in their parents beds ! Not everyone likes to admit it

 

[WhatABore]

We had days without naps and he's been so tired he's had a 6pm bedtime. Still wakes in the night same as before


Yep I get this all the time! Especially at soft play. My boy is so crazy he throws himself down slides and tumbles around in just waiting for a trip to a&e

Tbh, my kids have always had a 6pm bed time at that age.
(my kids also apparently hate napping and the latest one has napped us the youngest who stopped in October at 18 months )
So 6pm has always worked perfect for us!
Doesn't always fit into people's routines though. Especially with work ect

Anyone else struggling with intrusive thoughts like mad right now? I think it must be the strep A thing but my mind is in overdrive. Like walking down the street I was having vivid visions of my 3yo falling under a car’s wheel and having his head crushed, I was literally almost was sick at the thought.

Being a parent’s great innit 🫠🫠🫠

Mine is worst when laying in bed going to sleep.
Like ill think "Oh what if my step dad just chops the 4yos face off"
Like that's ever going to happen?
And then I'll keep picturing it until I have to get up and walk around!

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

Everyone tells you about how hard the newborn stage is. No one tells you how hard the three year old clingy crying stage is. I thought it was where she was poorly but she’s nearly finished her antibiotics now and hasn’t had a temperature or symptoms for a few days. Is it just hangover from the illness or is this a phase?

She’s also refusing to eat and as soon as I throw the food away she’s asking for a snack. I won’t give her one and it’s just full on meltdown. She’s not the best eater but I’m not offering her anything she doesn’t eat or would find hard to eat if feeling poorly. Bribing her with chocolate buttons to get her eye drops in hasn’t helped

 

[Jellybean093]

Picked the 3yo up from preschool today. He said something about his lunchbox, and one of the teachers was like ‘well done tbean!’ But it was literally the basic of basic sentence. Which makes me think he just doesn’t talk at school. He’s just not interested in talking. He’s the same when I’m with my friends. Their kids talk for Britain, but he will just go off and play by himself. I really think they have all this speech worry wrong

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Everyone tells you about how hard the newborn stage is. No one tells you how hard the three year old clingy crying stage is. I thought it was where she was poorly but she’s nearly finished her antibiotics now and hasn’t had a temperature or symptoms for a few days. Is it just hangover from the illness or is this a phase?

She’s also refusing to eat and as soon as I throw the food away she’s asking for a snack. I won’t give her one and it’s just full on meltdown. She’s not the best eater but I’m not offering her anything she doesn’t eat or would find hard to eat if feeling poorly. Bribing her with chocolate buttons to get her eye drops in hasn’t helped

Omg I can’t get away from mine tonight. Every time I move he wakes up crying. He’s soooo clingy when he’s sick

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

Omg I can’t get away from mine tonight. Every time I move he wakes up crying. He’s soooo clingy when he’s sick

Really hard isn’t it. I feel awful but it’s all day long. I think it could be the antibiotics. She only has two doses left so let’s see how she gets on. Thank god her eye drops are over now. I hope your little one feels better soon. I’ve been my daughters pillow for two weeks which would be fine but I’m very pregnant now and it’s causing me pain.

 

[Okgolightly]

Agree with everyone about the intrusive thoughts, mine are so much worse at night I took my 21 month old to the doctors yesterday as she had some blemishes on her skin and a bit of a cough. The doctor said she has tonsillitis so she’s now on antibiotics and can’t go back to nursery til next week…The thing is she seems fine in herself but I’ve had to take time off work who’ve been really funny about it I’ve also got the flu and feel completely awful. My boyfriend is little to no help and I just feel like an utterly rubbish mum- overdone the screen time today and spent two hours trying to get to nap because I feel so poorly!

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Ladies can I join the thread quickly? I need so much to get this off my chest.

My daughter isn’t a toddler any more, she’s 4 and a half but she’s had a tummy bug since Wednesday night (second in less than a week???) and I’m by myself - husband is away working and the whole thing is doing my head in. I’ve texted him 6 times over the day so far (I know he’s probably in a meeting but it’s so frustrating he hasn’t responded to me at all). Yesterday she was poorly until 8:30am then bouncing off the walls the entire day (but obviously we can’t go out because she could give it to someone), she’s been fine all day so I though we were over it really until about half an hour ago and it’s bloody well come back again and she’s crying her eyes out. I honestly don’t have a lot of patience, I am trying my best but I just want it all to stop. I think I would be more patient if this wasn’t my day off - i had a MW appt yesterday I’ve had to cancel and a whooping cough vaccination I’ve cancelled, and I did have some cakes that I wanted to make (not sure I even can now with a stomach bug in the house), wanted to tidy and clean the house properly - she wants me to cuddle her constantly, and it’s my dad’s birthday this weekend so we were meant to go down to stay with them but I don’t think we can now because I don’t want them to get sick too. I’m also just so preoccupied with the Strep A stuff that’s just another worry on top of everything else. I’ve texted my mum and she is asking me the weirdest questions and not really paying attention to my texts… I just feel so lonely and trapped today I want to cry!!!

Sorry, I apologise for the lack of punctuation and grammar in the above I just feel like I might explode at any minute. Also because other than a runny tummy she’s pretty right as rain she’s talking to me non stop and I genuinely just want a few minutes of quiet but I have to act really interested when she says “and did you know….” For the 60th time in 10 minutes….

 

[WhatABore]

Has anyone bought the pantysaurus book?
Or has any alternatives?

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

Ladies can I join the thread quickly? I need so much to get this off my chest.

My daughter isn’t a toddler any more, she’s 4 and a half but she’s had a tummy bug since Wednesday night (second in less than a week???) and I’m by myself - husband is away working and the whole thing is doing my head in. I’ve texted him 6 times over the day so far (I know he’s probably in a meeting but it’s so frustrating he hasn’t responded to me at all). Yesterday she was poorly until 8:30am then bouncing off the walls the entire day (but obviously we can’t go out because she could give it to someone), she’s been fine all day so I though we were over it really until about half an hour ago and it’s bloody well come back again and she’s crying her eyes out. I honestly don’t have a lot of patience, I am trying my best but I just want it all to stop. I think I would be more patient if this wasn’t my day off - i had a MW appt yesterday I’ve had to cancel and a whooping cough vaccination I’ve cancelled, and I did have some cakes that I wanted to make (not sure I even can now with a stomach bug in the house), wanted to tidy and clean the house properly - she wants me to cuddle her constantly, and it’s my dad’s birthday this weekend so we were meant to go down to stay with them but I don’t think we can now because I don’t want them to get sick too. I’m also just so preoccupied with the Strep A stuff that’s just another worry on top of everything else. I’ve texted my mum and she is asking me the weirdest questions and not really paying attention to my texts… I just feel so lonely and trapped today I want to cry!!!

Sorry, I apologise for the lack of punctuation and grammar in the above I just feel like I might explode at any minute. Also because other than a runny tummy she’s pretty right as rain she’s talking to me non stop and I genuinely just want a few minutes of quiet but I have to act really interested when she says “and did you know….” For the 60th time in 10 minutes….

Honestly it is so hard. My daughter has been ill for 3 weeks now. I had 1 day yesterday where she was all better, no weepy eyes or runny nose but today she’s woken up and it’s all back. I had to take her to the doctor this morning who was not interested at all. I called back this afternoon as her eye is just running gunk so he’s put in another eye drop prescription but nothing for her still swollen tonsils. Just told me if she’s still ill in a few weeks to take her back to see them

It’s such a crap time of year to have a poorly child, especially when they’re well enough to wreck you and the house but not well enough for anything else. I had to cancel my birthday meal out two weeks ago as my daughter was so poorly. We were meant to go to a Xmas farm last week I had to cancel and the tickets were non-refundable. When all you hear all day is “wet eyes, snotty nose”and hysterical crying it’s enough for anyone.

I hope you manage to get some support soon and feel better. It really is just a phase but it does feel never ending. Just know you’re not alone! I might actually end up having a mental breakdown if she’s not well next week too

 

[PillowsofFluff]

Mini Pillows now has chickenpox

 

[al255]

Mini Pillows now has chickenpox

sorry everyone seems to be having a crappy time!!

I highly recommend head and shoulders but the mint type one, I used it in a bath with mini A and it just worked wonders, it dried out all the spots and soothed them x