Going to have to rewatch this nowThere's a Starbucks cup in every shot in the movie Fight Club.
Going to have to rewatch this nowThere's a Starbucks cup in every shot in the movie Fight Club.
I came across a very similar case last year. Bloke in his 70's. Never had a licence but had been happily driving around since he was a teen.Today I learned that you can get away with having no drivers licence for 70 years!
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Man says he drove without licence for more than 70 years
The man, in his 80s, tells police he has been driving with no licence or insurance since he was 12.www.bbc.co.uk
Look at it and enjoy it with him maybe? I accept you might feel a little hurt or betrayed but remember at the end of the day it's just a fantasy thing. Unless he has been going out and cheating on you for real then I think everyone is entitled to their own fantasies.Today I learned my husband has spent over £350 on Onlyfans over the last year! What do I do with this information?!?!?!
Thanks for this perspective. I need to figure out how I feel about it and how to or if I should talk to himLook at it and enjoy it with him maybe? I accept you might feel a little hurt or betrayed but remember at the end of the day it's just a fantasy thing. Unless he has been going out and cheating on you for real then I think everyone is entitled to their own fantasies.
You're fully entitled to feel however you feel!Thanks for this perspective. I need to figure out how I feel about it and how to or if I should talk to him
About it.
Rip him a new one! That money could have been spent on you!! He should not be paying for porn in this age, it’s freeToday I learned my husband has spent over £350 on Onlyfans over the last year! What do I do with this information?!?!?!
Not a biggie about the porn IMO, but rather that he wasn’t open about it.Today I learned my husband has spent over £350 on Onlyfans over the last year! What do I do with this information?!?!?!
Even in a marriage surely we're allowed to our own private thoughts and fantasies?Not a biggie about the porn IMO, but rather that he wasn’t open about it.
I would be furious. Porn isn't the issue (for me), spending hundreds of pounds on something that's available elsewhere online for free is almost madness. (I hope you aren't financially struggling. If that's the case, the fact that it was hidden is even more distasteful.)Today I learned my husband has spent over £350 on Onlyfans over the last year! What do I do with this information?!?!?!
Absolutely. But if it impacted our joint finances to the tune of £350, a bit of transparency wouldn’t go amissEven in a marriage surely we're allowed to our own private thoughts and fantasies?
It's each to their own.Even in a marriage surely we're allowed to our own private thoughts and fantasies?
This was what I was thinking. I know he looks at porn but there is a bit more of a back story. We are trying for a baby and can’t because we don’t have sex pretty much. I feel rejected by him especially after finding this out.Rip him a new one! That money could have been spent on you!! He should not be paying for porn in this age, it’s free
Thank you. I feel like I don’t want to be around him but also still love him. Just feels so shot and wish I didn’t know this or have to deal with this.You're fully entitled to feel however you feel!
It's your opinions and feelings that matter, when and if discussing it with him, not other people's![]()
Yup! I watch porn and I’m ok with him watching it. But not paying for it and especially Onlyfans as I know that toh pay for custom videos and 121 chats etc. it feels like he has went cheated. The money is an issue as he is always discouraging me from spending my own money.Rip him a new one! That money could have been spent on you!! He should not be paying for porn in this age, it’s free
Yes this is how I’m feeling! Like he chooses porn over sex or time with me. He has literally said no to having sex with me a couple of times because he had just watched porn and had a tank. So I was literally rejected.It's each to their own.
Personally I'm not comfortable with my partner pleasuring themselves over other women.
Especially when that is, in many many relationships, chosen over their own partner.
Myself included. Hence my issue with it after being in a relationship where you're rejected because they'd rather look at porn. It's very common.
If that hadn't been the case previously, then maybe I would have the same view as you.
Yeh and I do get that part too. I don’t want to sex shame him or make him feel like he can’t have his own personal time. I would be hurt if I couldn’t feel like I could have some “self care” and was made to feel bad about it.Even in a marriage surely we're allowed to our own private thoughts and fantasies?
We aren’t struggling financially but we are watching what we spend and need to take out a loan to pay off something this year. So we are saving a lot and don’t have this money to literally be paying sex workers for. This is how I see it, paying for sex. Albeit it is online so not in person sex work.I would be furious. Porn isn't the issue (for me), spending hundreds of pounds on something that's available elsewhere online for free is almost madness. (I hope you aren't financially struggling. If that's the case, the fact that it was hidden is even more distasteful.)
I'm another who has experience this with a partner watching porn and basically being rejected.This was what I was thinking. I know he looks at porn but there is a bit more of a back story. We are trying for a baby and can’t because we don’t have sex pretty much. I feel rejected by him especially after finding this out.
It’s the money part also as he is always controlling how I spend money.
Thank you. I feel like I don’t want to be around him but also still love him. Just feels so shot and wish I didn’t know this or have to deal with this.
Yup! I watch porn and I’m ok with him watching it. But not paying for it and especially Onlyfans as I know that toh pay for custom videos and 121 chats etc. it feels like he has went cheated. The money is an issue as he is always discouraging me from spending my own money.
Yes this is how I’m feeling! Like he chooses porn over sex or time with me. He has literally said no to having sex with me a couple of times because he had just watched porn and had a tank. So I was literally rejected.
Yeh and I do get that part too. I don’t want to sex shame him or make him feel like he can’t have his own personal time. I would be hurt if I couldn’t feel like I could have some “self care” and was made to feel bad about it.
We aren’t struggling financially but we are watching what we spend and need to take out a loan to pay off something this year. So we are saving a lot and don’t have this money to literally be paying sex workers for. This is how I see it, paying for sex. Albeit it is online so not in person sex work.
I go without things that I want to buy l, for instance I wanted an Apple Watch and he said I didn’t need it and discouraged me from buying it. Then I find this out?!
How did you address it? Or manage it for yourselves? Xx feel free to not respond if you aren’t comfortable talking about it.I'm another who has experience this with a partner watching porn and basically being rejected.
So I fully get it too and have exactly the same view.
It cause a lot of problems mentally too!
It's something people don't speak about a lot!