I've been working on this with both of my sisters who are 19 and 22.
19 year old:
-Got her nails done. It's something she's wanted to try.
-Photoshoot with a professional photographer to prove to her that she wasn't ugly. She loved the photos we got back. So I did rebook again.
-Better not necessarily expensive clothing. 90% of her wardrobe is from M&S. They do good jeans for £19.
-Found her a good therapist : She has learnt to put up boundaries with her friends and a cousin.
-Paying for dental treatment.
-Got her hair cut & colour fixed by a professional hairdresser.
-You've got this book by Byrony Gordon
-Paying for a personal trainer to work with her for 2 months + paying for her gym membership.
-Buying her makeup/ looking at stuff with her.
22:
-Getting her used to ordering in coffee shops and restaurants.
-Hair cut by the same hair stylist + Innoluxe treatment + paying for a semi regular blowdry
-Book about red flags in relationships so she won't accept the bare minimum.
-Paid for her gym too but she didn't go regularly.
-She's therapy resistant but i'm hoping on day she will see someone too.
-Helping her apply for a better job.
Made a playlist of songs like this one which I blast when they're in the room with me
: Sia is also really good.
" We are glorious" "I am brave" "I'm not scared to be seen".
My self esteem on the other hand- doesn't really exist
.I'm less willing to put up nonsense then I used to though so that's something I guess. I've also put weight on during the whole pandemic situation comfort eating after my friend died.
I like buying myself nice soap and hot chocolates from Starbucks. Trying not to compare with others.
Woman are allowed to take up space. Take baby steps. There's also a weightloss thread if you would like more support.