I don't work, my husband is full time (long shifts over 4 days). I do everything housework wise, he does DIY. Obviously that's 100% fair and I'm very lucky to be in this position, but I do wish I could split the cliché of the mental load sometimes.
I feel the same, most of my free time is housework. If I complain about it or I’m tired of it i get the response of ‘don’t do it then’I work Monday - Thursday 8-4 , he works 12 hour shifts , 4 on 4 off in the military so is usually away for those 4 days so I do 99% of all household chores. My son's dad takes him to school when I'm working. I set my son up for school before I leave for work , come straight home to start dinner . I do all the cleaning on my day off , change beads etc. Washing , all me , he will take it out if the washing machine and out into the dryer when he is around. He will wash up after dinner , but I do all the cooking.
I always say , I work 30 hours per week and then I have my unpaid work at home . He finishes work and his free time is his own , whereas me , my " free time " is cooking , cleaning and clearing up after him and my son. I'm exhausted to be truthful , and fed up
If I had the spare money would I pay someone, yes of cource...... A teenager no, minimum wage also no. If it was a teenager I knew well perhaps. Same with babysitting, I'd need to know someone very very well to be around my kids. I had no family around when my son was born and that was that, you just get on with it.Hi, not really sure where else to ask this and looked around for suitable threads, this is the closest I could find.. I’m on maternity leave, have 10 week old twins.. Partner has recently gone back to work full time; 8hr day shift/12hr nights. When he’s on nights, he only helps with one feed before he heads out to work. He is absolutely hopeless with housework, and mainly because I have particular ways I want things done, and he does try his best but I end up doing it myself. When he’s on days, it’s not too bad, he’s an amazing dad and I can work away (I actually quite enjoy cleaning). But when he’s on nights it’s hard to get anything done and look after two babies. We’ve discussed getting someone in to help with the housework, but more than likely a local teenager who’s looking for a bit of pocket money.
I used to do this, and was lucky to get €20 for 2-3 hours work, but we’re talking 15 years ago and I’m wondering would you pay someone like this minimum wage? At the moment I do not expect this person to look after my babies, although it would be a great opportunity down the line for this person to also babysit, as we’re new to the area, and are options are very limited..
sorry for the long spiel, just genuinely curious… TIA.
You have to let it go or you’ll have a breakdown very soon (especially with two small babies!!!)He is absolutely hopeless with housework, and mainly because I have particular ways I want things done, and he does try his best but I end up doing it myself.