You have a really disappointing view that your putting across as facts yet you are the one in the wrong. This point of view is annoying, I'm fed up of people having this ableist attitude. The first point you made is false. 'Being able to effectively communicate does determine disability otherwise we would not have specialist schools'. In any specialist setting there will be a mixture of children with different needs, some will have communication needs but some wont. There are different types of specialist settings to cover all different needs.
It's insulting to those who are disabled but have no communication issues. Minimising someones disability based on them being able to have a conversation is wrong. I should rip up my childs EHCP, withdraw them from their special school and apologise for taking a place as they must not be disabled enough as they can talk. Best kick all the kids out in wheelchairs who can speak too and tell them their verbal skills have determined them not to be that disabled.
How would we not have EHCPs? They're not just granted to those who have communication issues. Lets also remember behaviour is communication too, that's just as important as verbal communication.
I'm sorry but as a SEN parent of a verbal autistic child in my opinion it is the children who people think are ok because they look like they are who get the raw deal, fighting for assessments and therapies, the lack of understanding and ableism.
Alfie was non verbal by the way. Love or hate her, she did the right thing by spotting things early and getting support for him. He highlights how important early intervention is and how beneficial it is for children.