Theworldwithalfie

[Sendparent]

Being able to effectively communicate does determine disability otherwise we would not have specialist schools as an autistic adult and parent of autistic children, communication plays a big part.

Also we would not have EHCP... I'm sorry but your wrong, having a child that can talk compared to a child that can't are very different, the levels of care are different, I have both, and I feel non verbal kids get a raw deal, they need more support and more time.

You have a really disappointing view that your putting across as facts yet you are the one in the wrong. This point of view is annoying, I'm fed up of people having this ableist attitude. The first point you made is false. 'Being able to effectively communicate does determine disability otherwise we would not have specialist schools'. In any specialist setting there will be a mixture of children with different needs, some will have communication needs but some wont. There are different types of specialist settings to cover all different needs.

It's insulting to those who are disabled but have no communication issues. Minimising someones disability based on them being able to have a conversation is wrong. I should rip up my childs EHCP, withdraw them from their special school and apologise for taking a place as they must not be disabled enough as they can talk. Best kick all the kids out in wheelchairs who can speak too and tell them their verbal skills have determined them not to be that disabled.

How would we not have EHCPs? They're not just granted to those who have communication issues. Lets also remember behaviour is communication too, that's just as important as verbal communication.

I'm sorry but as a SEN parent of a verbal autistic child in my opinion it is the children who people think are ok because they look like they are who get the raw deal, fighting for assessments and therapies, the lack of understanding and ableism.

Alfie was non verbal by the way. Love or hate her, she did the right thing by spotting things early and getting support for him. He highlights how important early intervention is and how beneficial it is for children.

 

[Win]

I can’t stand her. Her post about the value of money when she’s scrounging off followers with a go fund me. Thank god Simon is free of her, although imagine what the poor bastard still has to put up with every day.

 

[Gingercream]

I don’t really gaf about other people’s parenting tbh but honestly does she just like a battle???

Who gives a shit how many teddies a 6yr old wants? I say pick your battles personally

 

[Pinkmilink86]

She’s now saying how Alfie is understanding the value of money at 6years old. Now I’m not saying I don’t think Alfie is autistic I don’t no him, but how she describes him, is like every normal child.
I think she really really pushed for a diagnosis, and that it’s her own behaviours that she is pushing onto him.

 

[Basicbasic]

Toxic gaslighter, she's the biggest bully. Probably fuming he's out living his life. She never misses an opportunity to publicly shame him. No wonder her last fella didn't last long despite her saying she was a 10/10 for looks

Also very odd comment about being jealous of alfies hair when she goes to great lengths to hide/ straighten/ weave her own original black hair. I've said this before, there is something very telling in the fact that she does not seem to have a single mate who is a person of colour. She herself married a white guy and only dates white guys, and she's obsessed with her son being light and having green eyes.

 

[LividLalji]

Cannot say much, but there was alot of drama in the SEN community before she disappeared.. and then no one heard from her again.

You’re on the wrong website then if you can’t say much

 

[maytoseptember]

I thought he was a wonderful dad and they had a brilliant co-parenting relationship?

I mean, I know things change but I’m not sure whether L is a reliable narrator here.

Has he got a new girlfriend by any chance? Just wondering whether L is kicking off because she’s angry that he’s with someone else, or whether he’s decided to walk out on his kid because he’s with someone else. Both totally plausible.

 

[Sendparent]

Chip on shoulder is how I'd describe it..she makes out her son is so bad, when the child can have full blown adult conversations


That's because kisscub is a bit of a narcissist and thinks no one can be as autistic as her

Being able to have conversations does not determine how disabled a child is.

 

[Basicbasic]

Another case of 'we're not entitled to this, but I'm gonna scream and shout until they make an exception and bow to my demands'. Of course he's not entitled to free after school provision, no child is. Instead of throwing shade at your ex and the system, why not chase him for the share of the money that needs to be paid.

 

[have the privilege]

Oh fuck off lesley

my kids both have autism. We still get surprised sometimes when they do stuff, because we’re not omniscient or any more “with it” than any other parent. You know your kid, but they’re a separate person to you and with that comes behaviour that can’t always be predicted. She just sounds like an idiot here

 

[melonsandlemons]

my kids both have autism. We still get surprised sometimes when they do stuff, because we’re not omniscient or any more “with it” than any other parent. You know your kid, but they’re a separate person to you and with that comes behaviour that can’t always be predicted. She just sounds like an idiot here

She just sounds like the sort of parent to be like ‘oh my child can’t do that… they have autism don’t you know’. And she bangs on about ableism… the irony!

 

[LennyBriscoe]

my kids both have autism. We still get surprised sometimes when they do stuff, because we’re not omniscient or any more “with it” than any other parent. You know your kid, but they’re a separate person to you and with that comes behaviour that can’t always be predicted. She just sounds like an idiot here

My son has Autism and GDD. He’s different at home, different at school, different at Grandma and Granda’s…he goes to an ASN school and if the teachers tell me he’s done something, good or bad that I haven’t seen him do, I’m not going to think “he’s never done that, the school think I don’t know my son so they must be lying to me”.

I don’t judge anyone’s parenting but from that post alone I’m wondering if she’s waiting for things to argue/moan about

 

[teawithtoast]

The way she ‘hints’ for money is honestly so embarrassing, she’s a loser and a freeloader.

 

[melonsandlemons]

Sometimes I can see why her marriage may have ended as it did. I can’t imagine living with someone as narcissist as her. Everything is a competition, woe me or I know best.

 

[melonsandlemons]

I don’t really gaf about other people’s parenting tbh but honestly does she just like a battle???

Controlling narcissistic behaviour. Who cares how many teddies he sleeps with

 

[Justmyopinion101]

She may have done right by him but she’s unnecessarily aggressive and pretty vile

 

[teawithtoast]

Her mothers Instagram bio ‘don’t ask me for money’ pretty ironic since her and her daughter like to regularly ask for handouts…

 

[melonsandlemons]

It comes back to her need to be love, to be showered in gifts, to rub things in peoples faces. She clearly isn’t over her ex as much as she would like to make everyone believe. She’s the least independent independent person ever!

 

[FizzyWig]

She has wound me the fuck up tonight. As someone who apparently champions disability and all the relevant pieces of equipment, shes on her fucking stories slagging off a bloke on love island for having thick lenses. Because she thinks they should have been thinned.
Sorry what?? Your ableism is showing through there hun

 

[Win]

Bet Simon can’t believe his luck that he got shut of her.