TheNurseMum #9 The nurse purse mum, on the sesh in Marrakesh

[Basicbasic]

The non stop sharing/obsession with colours all of a sudden. It's like branding class 101. When j was alive he wore mainly beige, his room was all white, she paid 700 to have his bed painted white ffs, her whole aesthetic with him and her was always white/ beige/ grey. There was no sensory equipment in the house. Look back at all the photos, no colours. When he went to school they started teaching him colours, even then Kathy was living her best beige life. So it's sad that she's chosen colours as j's 'branding' just so she can market and sell him off piece by piece. It's all so contrived and fake. Her nails, clothes, bangles, branding. All fake. There's nothing authentically j in her shop at all. To even have a shop selling j merch is revolting, but then to create whole fake persona is just appalling.

 

[mrslh]

With respect you ain’t dealt with her and her narcissist behaviours. If you think what you see on here is bad it’s nothing compared to what she’s really like . When I say I will be his voice because he ain’t got one is because he’s keeping private and anytime he does speak she just shuts him down . He has took actions so don’t think he’s sat back and watched this happen if anyone is to blame it’s the authority for believing her every word over the actual evidence in front of them pure neglect on many levels . He won’t voice his opinions on social media because he knows she will shut him down with her minions and you all know for a fact she would . She’s a liar and a fraud and a narcissist and she does everything to look the perfect one . So don’t for one minute think he isn’t trying he is he’s just not broadcasting it on social media for her to send her minions onto him he has less than 400 followers she has over 100k that are blinded by her single parent doing it alone but shut that she portrayed. He had jaxon more than she did . like the Other family member said the family are disgusted and have warned her but she does not give a shit . when She changed his medications she said the hospital did it so it was fine then when she did the feeding school she said it was advices by the doctors his father was blocked from her insta he didn’t see anything and she made damn sure he wasn’t allowed to ring a doctor etc over his son it had to be her only . He trusted her because she was a nurse and the mother of his son it was only when people directed him to this thread that he realised and now we know just how bad things was ,

you have no idea the grief and hurt he’s feeling right now knowing that something was wrong and he trusted her . So please before you judge it see that he was just a normal father trusting the mother of his child . Jaxon had A tough time medically since birth so when kaytee told his father something he trusted that she was telling the truth never in a million years did he think she was neglecting him like that .

 

[mrslh]

with the way she manipulated her followers begging will continue . She’s gone silent now hoping her followers think she’s in a bad way over the fake troll message she sent herself . She knows exactly what she is doing . she had no intentions to give to good causes she took the go fund me for herself . She hated the people that helped jaxon she was never ever happy just wanted to moan about every little thing to make herself feel superior, The funeral really was not that lavish trust me it definitely did not cost a huge amount like she claimed it did . So out of 43k she will have most of it left . none Of us care about the go fund me keep it if it makes her happy but stop the merchandise shop and stop allowing strangers To visit his resting place let him rest in peace and stop using his death to cash in on . Just get a job and live a normal life but stop using jaxons death to financially gain that’s all we and his father want !!!

 

[Curiouslycurious]

QUOTE="CasinoRoyal, post: 6462116, member: 3010"]
This thread is savage. Yes she may have her faults and made mistakes but her child is dead.
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I would say monetising on your child death is pretty savage, go and read the previous threads and then have an opinion

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

The stories now about panicking because the car was being collected and then "loads of people have messaged and told her she can buy the car" so she's enquired with them about it to delay the collection - she says she knows its unrealistic because of what the car is, BUT, i get the feeling that car will be hers very shortly. She'll spout some shit about using the gofundme money and "its what J would've wanted".... Ugh. Knob.

"This horrific situation"

It's not a horrific situation you stupid woman, it's the procedure with motability cars. It was Jaxon's car. He's not here anymore, therefore he doesn't need the car, so it goes back.

A colleague of mine has a husband who lost his leg in an industrial accident about 15 years ago. He qualified for an automatic motability car for those 15 years, then last year they received a letter saying the rules had changed and he's no longer disabled enough to qualify for a car...as if his leg had suddenly grown back or something. They gave them 3 weeks to sort something out and return the car. This was in the middle of lockdown when all the garages were shut and the only way to buy a car was to order it online and collect it. No shopping around, no test driving. Luckily, her parents lent them some money to get themselves sorted, but it was a horribly stressful time for them.

She's known for weeks this was coming. No way has she left it till today to sort, this has been in the pipeline for a while. It's all just part of her "persuade the idiots I should be spending the gofundme on myself" plan.

 

[Smiffy1990]

Too grief stricken to sort her affairs and finances out and get everything in order
But not quite enough to stop her swanning off on holidays and shopping trips in London and setting up disrespectful merch shops.
Says it all really.

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

I'm cynical enough that part of me thinks she's sent that message to herself from a fake account, using some of what's been said on here. Obviously nobody on here has said the bit about being punished by God, but a lot of the rest of it is exactly what we've been discussing.

 

[mrslh]

She knows exact what she is doing trust me . She’s been on the phone since I posted yesterday to get him to tell everyone to stop and NO it’s not happening . I will stop when she stops . For a week she has been loosing followers she panicked because that’s her life she needs followers to make cash . shes The most manipulative person you will ever come across honestly . If you ever get the chance to meet her you will see how chavvy she actually is . She’s nothing like what she portrayed on Instagram . She thinks she is better than everybody else so yesterday when she realised she’s loosing followers and loosing her 50k merc she freaked out then she realised oh shit I’ve made myself look worst saying I need the car because jaxon liked the sunroof so I need to fake a troll messaging me . It was her who sent herself that message . As someone who knew jaxon can I just say he hated cars . He only loved the school bus and that’s because he was surrounded by the staff that loved and cared about him !!

 

[mrslh]

Seriously sick of this women !!

you changed your sons medications when advised not to .
you stopped his feeds turning him skeleton when told not to .
you left him day and night to live your best life !!!
you discharged him a week before he died so you could continue your birthday celebrations !!
you then took over 40k donations for a funeral and bagged the rest !!!
you pissed off abroad for a month why claiming to be finalcialy struggling
you managed to set up a merch shop selling T-shirt’s to strangers of your dead child !!
you then come back and went London shopping trip after shopping trip !!!
you then went on to say your not financially stable and the begging started !!!
and now your crying over so called trolls all whilst begging for another go fund me so you can buy your 30k car whilst claiming jaxon loved the bloody sunroof !!!!

about time this shit show stopped and you took your beggy arse elsewhere nobody cares anymore shows over hun !!!!

 

[Basicbasic]

Classy of her to bring the cemetary into it. Sure didn't seem bothered about visiting it the last few months she's been in Cornwall/ Morocco/ London, but now she desperately wants a car to visit j's grave. Truth is, if she wanted to get to the grave she would, car or no car. She got around London to shop and meet her managers no problem, but now getting the bus or taxi to the grave is not an option???

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

This thread is savage. Yes she may have her faults and made mistakes but her child is dead.

A child that she profited from in life, and continues to do so after his death. That's the part we have a problem with.

 

[Grace's Secret]

You are right. I don’t know the ins and outs but comments on here like ‘she killed her child’ are awful.

No one has said that. Please don't make stuff up.

 

[longtimelurker86]

The stories now about panicking because the car was being collected and then "loads of people have messaged and told her she can buy the car" so she's enquired with them about it to delay the collection - she says she knows its unrealistic because of what the car is, BUT, i get the feeling that car will be hers very shortly. She'll spout some shit about using the gofundme money and "its what J would've wanted".... Ugh. Knob.

 

[mrstakeaway]

If you know jaxons father or know his family you will know the hell that kaytee has put him through . And until today I kept quiet about certain things . many wanted to go to jaxons funeral but did not go because biting your tongue is really hard given the circumstances. everybody who DID look after jaxon was gaslighted by kaytee and abused . She was NOT a single mother she was co parenting and jaxons father had jaxon more than she did . Jaxons father paid a substantial amount in maintenance also and rightly so he was his father . But she was far from the single mother she portrayed. We all expected this shit show to stop after jaxon passed but sadly it has carried on and the things she does hurts those around her but she cannot see it all she can see is pound signs . I only made myself known on here today because I know your all thinking wow she seems overly invested and yes I am because I am sick of jaxons father and all of us being made the bad ones when in reality he was better off with anybody but HER ! everything the last month has been shocking but the worst for us that knew them was when she invited strangers to his resting place without even asking how his father would feel . he was not just her son !!!

It doesn’t matter how she knows KT, and the fact that she is speaking out I think it’s very admirable.I hope Js passing gets the investigation it needs and then Js family can get the closure. I feel awful for Js dad and his daughter and I hope they can move forward in peace

 

[mrslh]

I’m just going to say it how it is . Many people loose a loved one and a mobility car . Kaytee has no job she has no other children she needs to collect or take to appointments school etc etc . She does not need a car desperately. All the moaning and sympathy she is begging for on Instagram is typical kaytee behaviour. in Life and death she has been profiting from jaxon and now is the time it stops . stop The begging stop the profiting from selling merch based on a dead child . Stop the constant crying at his grave for attention on insta . Donate the go fund me and go back to a normal job and fund for yourself instead of using Jaxon to make an income . I’ve lost my baby it’s the most soul destroying thing to ever experience but all this begging and using his death to cash in it’s not normal behaviour and inviting strangers to go visit his grave is absolutely shocking!!!

 

[Waffleandlies]

Looking at autotrader I’ll be shocked if they quote less than £40k given it’s only a year old with low milage.

I get everyone grieves differently but something seems so off with her for me. When I lost my baby, the materialistic items didn’t bring me comfort. She’s not fake crying over a beaten up Yaris and hiding away in a travelodge. She’s going on luxury holidays and crying over keeping a Merc.

Sincerity would be crying over their smell on the bed sheets, their medicines still in the fridge, their hair still in the brush. Not ‘he loved the sunroof’.

I find the whole grave thing very odd too. I completely understand the pain of visiting but she’s turned it into some tourist eye sore, encourages others to go but not herself. Like others said, she’s not considered anyone else’s need to grieve.

A postbox seems a bizzare decoration too unless she’s begging for donations, even on a bloody grave.

 

[Basicbasic]

Does anyone remember those horrific stories she posted of j 'crying for hours' in the other room and she couldn't face going to comfort him? Also around the time just before his passing when she storied that he'd been extremely distressed overnight and it had woken her up when the carer had tried to settle him (she didn't go check on him when all he wanted was his mum)? Or was always too much effort for her to go give him a cuddle. Unless of course she could use the footage for content.

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Does it matter what colour the car is so long as it gets you to the cemetery? I had a csection 3weeks ago and I cant drive, my babies are in NICU, I'm reliant on taxis and my partner or dad bringing me in when my partners in work. I can't use my car. But I don't care what car I come in so long as I can sit here.

Fuck off Kath. Buy any old fucking car stop looking for justification to spend the funds you said you'd donate.

And it won't be a banger she buys, it'll be something that shows her off too. I'd be happy with a clapped out Ford focus so long as it got me from a to b

 

[Smiffy1990]

Some of the comm ents on here regarding views on respite need addressing. I am a parent of a child who has complex medical needs.
Kathy has and is still continuing to paint parents of medically complex children in a bad light.
J didn't need the carers he got because he wasn't as medically complex as his mother liked to portray.
However there are children who do fit that criteria and reading some of the comments about leaving well kids and not being able to .... I just have to point out .... Kathy is the extreme. She's already painted us all in a bad light because of the go fund me's we all supposedly have for our disabled children..... now she's making people think that respite is like abandoning your child.

Respite is there for parents with medically complex children because it is needed. Parenting a child who has oxygen, seizures, medication hourly, needing turning in the night etc..... well its very very different to parenting a child who doesn't have those health problems. It's tiring.
We arnt all like Kathy. We don't milk the system for all its worth. We are greatful for the things we do get. The mobility car.... that I can assure you every single parent I know alongside me use the mobility scheme for our child. Not to look good posed with designer goods in. We always give back to others, we share others fundraisers, we put in others, we support each other, we love our children to the ends of the earth.
I do not want that twat painting a picture of SEN mums going off what that cunt is like. We arnt all exploiting out children, 'dumping' our kids in respite, living off fundraisers, driving around in Mercedes and living the High life.
This is exactly why a lot of the SEN community haven't supported her. She has damaged the reputation of a whole community and has successfully got people not wanting wanting give to fundraisers or giving people negative views on respite and the mobility scheme.
Shes the most ableist person I know and the whole point of her page was to advocate when she did the total opposite. She used her sons disability to financially gain, used his disability for sympathy and 'fame' and took advantage of the things other SEN parents fully appreciate and cherish such as the charities out there, the mobility scheme, respite, etc.
Respite is for those who need that help because trust me we need that little bit of help. She used it as a babysitting service and a stand in parent because she couldn't parent. Not because she wasn't able to. Not because her son was so so hard to look after but she just didn't want to and continually put other things before his needs.
Even now in death she is painting a bad light on grieving parents.
Please do not let that absolute disgrace of a SEN parent let alone parent of a child without disabilities distort your views on the things that come with the life myself and a lot of others lead.

I fully agree. And I actually can't stand the 'I wouldn't even leave my healthy child brigade.' Well done would you like an award for your virtue signalling.
I have a medically complex child and 2 other children and have my first no children's holiday booked for next year. You wanna bet I feel absolutely no shame or guilt for wanting, needing and feeling excited for it.
People need to learn the difference between what kathleen did with regards to using palliative care as childcare for a holiday and parents that actually need these services and use them appropriately.

 

[cb81]

Also the comment about the funeral fell on her alone. So where was his Dad then?! Because his stories and posts give a completely different picture!