for doing what? a couple of hairstyles and dressing the kids everyday
shambolic
God forbid Ella had to get a job, buy her own home, clean it, and raise the kids, plus do the school runs & after school activities, while cooking meals, making lunches & breakfasts and the million other things like the rest of us have to do.
What pisses me off is how much they use & take advantage of the grandparents and they never do anything nice or take care of them.
My parents live 30 seconds away from my house. My partner and I built our house on my parents land. We paid for it ourselves with hard work. It wasn't handed to us. But i cook dinner everyday and my parents come to ours for dinner to eat with us. They make their own brekky & lunch etc. Once a week I give my parents house a good deep clean and do their laundry. Obviously they do all their daily housework tasks themselves. When I go grocery shopping, I take my mother so she can do hers. Even though my parents drive, we enjoy going together. I invite my parents over for family movie nights etc. I want them to be highly involved in my kids lives so everyday we spend time with them. They read my kids bedtime stories while I or my partner make lunches for the morning or give a tidy up of the house. But I never dump my kids on them and I never ask them to clean my house. I always encourage my kids to make cards, write notes, pick flowers for the grandparents. When my kids play outside they always end up in my parents house playing with them. In the summer, my parents are outside with the kids showing them how to do gardening or wash cars. Its a lovely bond. My bigger kids are now like, im going over to nanas to put her bins out because her legs hurt. But i know half the time its because Nana has the icecream and goodies and grandad lets them run wild
I cant understand how Tim & Ella dont create a nice bond with their parents and the kids.
It's the same with my partners parents. We invite them over for Sunday dinner, movie nights etc. We visit them a couple of times a week, my partner stops by their house for 10-15 minutes everyday on the way home from work. As they live about 10 minutes away. Just to check on them and ask if they need anything from the shop etc. Many of times when they are ill, I have made batch cook food for them and cleaned their house.
I just want to take care of my parents, give them an easy life as they get older and have health issues. Thankfully they are capable to do tasks themselves but I still want to care for them as they gave my siblings and myself a good, happy, caring life and provided so well for us. That I would never want them to struggle. With them living so close i always have to tell them stop spoiling my kids with gifts and sweets but i guess thats just what grandparents are like. Tim & ella Obviously wouldnt care about kids getting spoilt with gifts because their greedy as hell and it would never be enough for them.
I just find it so digusting that Tim & Ella are too selfish to help their parents and are constantly take, take, take. Their all about themselves and their fake life. Maybe its just me having a close bond with my family, it's how I was raised in my cultures. But if I can do it while working and raising my kids then those lazy, useless shits can do it & should be making more of an effort to care for them rather than being greedy all the time.
Surely im not the only one that feels they should do their part for their elderly parents. Obviously if somebody doesn't have a good relationship or lives miles away its different but i think it's just in my nature to be caring and protective rather than greedy or using people. And my whole family is like that with elder family members. So i think its maybe part of my cultures i grew up with on both sides. Who knows
Nobody is asking Tim & Ella to take on the role of caring for the grandparents but at the very least they should learn to stand on their own two feet and stop begging and taking from the grandparents. It sickens me that they allowed Tims mother to get on her knees and pick their garden weeds and Ellas mother on her knees cleaning the house. They literally call the grandparents over to clean, cook and buy their groceries. And dumping 6 kids on the grandparents regularly is disgraceful. What fuckin planet are these people from
With their views on gender roles, they're probably saving that for their elusive third boy. In their eyes, girls need gentle, soft names, like Hand-towel.
