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One of the worst things about me is that I love misery, in a way. I don’t want to feel this way yet I thrive off sadness or something. Don’t know how to explain it. I love torturing myself and overthinking.
Youre like me, it's called being a pessimistic, you always expect the worst, and most of the time that happens, every time I think I'm having an okish day, doesn't take long before it goes wrong, but sending
to you lovely folks on here, you're so supportive x
How is everyone doing today? 🤍
I have a question to you all. How do you deal with feeling overwhelmed by your own emotions? I just can’t stop thinking, I think and I overthink and end up feeling like I’m drowning. When I feel like this, I can’t even manage to distract myself by counting to ten, listening to music, etc etc. I get either aggressive or tearful or both. It happens way too often, it’s like experiencing severe PMS symptoms every day.
In other (more positive) news, I want to give a shout-out to @Jotham, who recommended the Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns to me several weeks ago. I bought it straight away and found some of the techniques and exercises to be quite helpful. Since it’s CBT-based, it’s not for everyone, but it’s worth giving a try if you need some guidance. Recognising the cognitive distortions caused by my depression has helped me feel slightly better about myself.
I have a question to you all. How do you deal with feeling overwhelmed by your own emotions? I just can’t stop thinking, I think and I overthink and end up feeling like I’m drowning. When I feel like this, I can’t even manage to distract myself by counting to ten, listening to music, etc etc. I get either aggressive or tearful or both. It happens way too often, it’s like experiencing severe PMS symptoms every day.
In other (more positive) news, I want to give a shout-out to @Jotham, who recommended the Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns to me several weeks ago. I bought it straight away and found some of the techniques and exercises to be quite helpful. Since it’s CBT-based, it’s not for everyone, but it’s worth giving a try if you need some guidance. Recognising the cognitive distortions caused by my depression has helped me feel slightly better about myself.
Could it be that you are just so used to torturing yourself and overthinking that it gives you a strange comfort? You know what being misery is like and thus subconsciously seek it because you are familiar with it? A bit like a habit. I remember reading about MH issues acting like a comfort zone of sorts for certain people.
So I don’t go for walks to deal with my emotions but I happen to notice when I go out that I feel better. Semi-populated areas, lots of greenery — something about signs of life and seeing the world keeps turning in spite of the chaos I’m feeling feels good. It’s like throwing water over a fire.
That’s a good way of thinking about it, I do agree
What about times when you can’t go out, e.g. it’s too late at night or you are working? I really wish something like breathing exercises worked for me.I take Flo vitamins which have made a difference. I can’t explain what it does except that my reaction to certain things is more chill than if I wasn’t taking it. I also dance to music, use cbd oil, nap, take stress relief gummies but they all are secondary to the vitamins except for maybe the dancing lolThat’s a good way of thinking about it, I do agree
Hi is anyone on accutane? I am very up and down mentally, always have been, but in all honesty I masked a lot of it so I could start this drug. Not been on it long, been fine up until today and I can feel a dark cloud coming 
Hello, I haven’t been on here in a wee while which is Classic Lenny. I had an increase in my medication and that combined with my son making good developmental progress has me feeling more able to cope, hopeful and able to take things a day at a time. So I’ve stopped writing things down, stopped contributing to it reading this thread (which is so beneficial to me) and stopped reading my Dr Julie Smith book…
I will find my place and go back and read the posts but I wanted to send you all love. I always find Bank Holidays a bit weird, like I ‘should’ be doing something, and in this case, something memorable. But that’s just because other people are doing stuff!
I hope you guys know how amazing you are. To find the strength to post when you’re feeling hopeless, lost, down…anything is beyond strong and if you can’t see that in yourselves then I’m here to tell you!
I will find my place and go back and read the posts but I wanted to send you all love. I always find Bank Holidays a bit weird, like I ‘should’ be doing something, and in this case, something memorable. But that’s just because other people are doing stuff!
I hope you guys know how amazing you are. To find the strength to post when you’re feeling hopeless, lost, down…anything is beyond strong and if you can’t see that in yourselves then I’m here to tell you!
@LennyBriscoe sending you and hugs xx
and hugs xxSorry to post guys but I'm having a really bad day
I had a date yesterday which was disappointing and had to text the guy this morning to say I'm sorry but I'm not feeling it.
Its my mums birthday and with it being the jubilee I've found the pressure to be jolly and happy when I'm having a relapse with my depression so hard.
I feel hopeless and like a total failure for my continued singleness. I feel like the days all stretch out in front of me
I'm not enjoying my job after loving it for thr last 2 years, im just getting no support or lee way considering I had to call the samaritans and breaking down whilst working in February
I miss the guy I was seeing still and I just feel tired and rubbish.
Sorry for all the woe is me talk on what should be a lovely weekend x
I had a date yesterday which was disappointing and had to text the guy this morning to say I'm sorry but I'm not feeling it.
Its my mums birthday and with it being the jubilee I've found the pressure to be jolly and happy when I'm having a relapse with my depression so hard.
I feel hopeless and like a total failure for my continued singleness. I feel like the days all stretch out in front of me
I'm not enjoying my job after loving it for thr last 2 years, im just getting no support or lee way considering I had to call the samaritans and breaking down whilst working in February
I miss the guy I was seeing still and I just feel tired and rubbish.
Sorry for all the woe is me talk on what should be a lovely weekend x
Please don’t apologise. I think a lot of us struggle when it’s “meant to be“ a lovely weekend. Like you said, it brings even more pressure to be happy. It sounds like you’ve had so much to deal with. It’s not a reflection of who you are as a person though. The fact that you’re coming here to talk about it with people who understand is a good thing. Please, please try and be kind to yourself, you deserve to x
You post away on here.we all understand, I'm the total opposite of you're situation, been with my oh for many years, but if he died tomorrow, god forbid, I wouldn't bother with another partner, maybe that's just me, but I've been lucky to have my soul partner.
Lenny I’m so so glad to hear you’re doing better, it’s not as easy as it soundsHello, I haven’t been on here in a wee while which is Classic Lenny. I had an increase in my medication and that combined with my son making good developmental progress has me feeling more able to cope, hopeful and able to take things a day at a time. So I’ve stopped writing things down, stopped contributing to it reading this thread (which is so beneficial to me) and stopped reading my Dr Julie Smith book…
I will find my place and go back and read the posts but I wanted to send you all love. I always find Bank Holidays a bit weird, like I ‘should’ be doing something, and in this case, something memorable. But that’s just because other people are doing stuff!
I hope you guys know how amazing you are. To find the strength to post when you’re feeling hopeless, lost, down…anything is beyond strong and if you can’t see that in yourselves then I’m here to tell you!
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You’re so sweet, what you‘ve said really is encouraging xI got what you meant
No it certainly didn't come across like that! It was lovely of you to reach out so thank you. I'm sorry you struggle and am sending lots of love x
I’ve found myself struggling more than normal recently. It all started with me experiencing pains in my hips and periods being irregular or not coming at all. Doctors thought it was PCOS, turned out it was just stress induced. This increased my anxiety so much. I then found myself thinking that I have an inward tremor, as I could feel myself physically shaking but if you were to look at me, you wouldn’t see it, and of course as you do with everything, you Google and this led to me becoming increasing worried to the point I was giving myself panic attacks.
Aswell as all this happening, a close friend invited me to a small housewarming party however I declined as my social anxiety was sky high. I told them I would explain fully why I couldn’t come but they brushed me off saying “you could’ve just denied, rather than make up some story”. Now I feel even more crap. I let down my friend, my anxiety is higher than ever and I can feel my ED creeping back in. Honestly, I have no idea where to go from here.
Aswell as all this happening, a close friend invited me to a small housewarming party however I declined as my social anxiety was sky high. I told them I would explain fully why I couldn’t come but they brushed me off saying “you could’ve just denied, rather than make up some story”. Now I feel even more crap. I let down my friend, my anxiety is higher than ever and I can feel my ED creeping back in. Honestly, I have no idea where to go from here.
I’m definitely in the ‘sod the bank holidays’ camp! I’ve had a few but instead of making me feel merry, alcohol made me so much more miserable. Being myself, I am just wallowing in this misery and purposefully making myself feel worse. I really wish I had someone who would tell me to stop.
You really are a lovely soulI got what you meant
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