I get an odd urgency about it ? can't really put my finger on why they'd ask to meet if you don't really know this person , but they come across as a tad forceful 
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That is a bit weird. If I were you, I’d say I’m so sorry its very late notice, but happy to have a chat on Facebook messenger (or whatever you’re using) to see if you get a good vibe from them?
Thank you so far everyone. Just to add I have only posted on a thread with her once or twice over a year ago. I don't know her at all.
I now know what she wanted and our conversation is over.. But I am still very much confused over what happened and how it happened., This is why I want opinions .
I will post the rest of the conversation tomorrow so you know what happened and can maybe explain to me what happened and why.
I now know what she wanted and our conversation is over.. But I am still very much confused over what happened and how it happened., This is why I want opinions .
I will post the rest of the conversation tomorrow so you know what happened and can maybe explain to me what happened and why.
I get an odd urgency about it ? can't really put my finger on why they'd ask to meet if you don't really know this person , but they come across as a tad forceful
Yes agree with this, I would avoid tbh .
I have reread your initial question and realise you wondered what we think the person wanted. After rereading, I wonder if they wanted a local chauffer (because maybe friends and family have said no), to take her places on demand, I get the feeling the garden centre trip would be the first of many... If she really needed to speak to someone it wouldn't need to be any specific place, a message or phonecall should be sufficient. My MIL had a friend like this, MIL basically became her chauffer and the requests/demands kept coming in, until MIL said 'no more'.
I think she’s just after a lift as well
Yes!! That is what she wanted. I thought she wanted to chat over coffee as she was having some problems.
but turns out after my long reply saying sadly I could not take her there but I can chat if she would like that. but got a awful reply back from her.
Let me fetch mine and her replies and will post now. I got it wrong but you two would have known. hahaha
My reply... ( next morning)
Hi blank
lovely to hear from you. Unfortunately I am agoraphobic and although I now go out. meeting up with a stranger in a strange place would be impossible. But I don't mind chatting here, maybe until we know each other better? ... Also do you go to stand in the park etc? My daughter goes there to chat with like minded people and they also meet up on a Tuesday evening at a local pub. its very casual and people just drop in and out as the feel... I could find out the details if you like? my daughter is coming here this morning to pick up her children, so can ask her then? But if not you can always chat with me here . Many of us are suffering right now, it's been and still is a very intense time. You are not on your own or alone. xx
Her reply to that
Hi Purrrrrrr Thanks for replying.
Firstly, I have myself a lift.
Secondly, please don’t be offended by what I am about to say but I don’t do long chats on text behind a screen. It’s avoiding the issue. I have managed mild agoraphobia for over 30 years as a result of a sexual attack from which I possibly saved myself. I used cognitive behavioural therapy to help deal with the problem which has largely worked except when it comes to being in isolated spots outside. I worked taxis into my budget for many years for dealing with the isolated areas but now the money has run out. This is the resurfaced issue in recent weeks that is my main mental health issue now. I have been very fortunate in that for all the years I did community campaigning for which I asked for nothing in return people have helped me a lot in recent weeks and been incredibly supportive. I have also reached out to new neighbours in face, not from a computer or behind a screen. I feel so very sad for you that you are going to spend your days behind a screen which without I’m sorry to have to say will achieve nothing. I’m not going to waste my days on negativity and social media. I spend hours daily doing meditation which helps me a lot. No I’m not on my own because I’m reaching out to the right people. But you are Purrrrrrr and I feel very sad for you that you are. Look after yourself X
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Brass neck on that one! You spent time replying and offering suggestions ( which you didn’t have to) and they’ve decided to turn it round on you , block block block!
What does she mean by avoiding the issue if it’s only a lift she was after? It seems she’s trying to convert you to her way of thinking for some strange reason , it’s an odd thing to send to a random stranger who never asked for her opinion on how they spend their days.
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Yeah that’s definitely very pushy, insistent, manipulative behaviour. Avoid that witch!
She thinks because I don't want to meet up with a stranger I'm avoiding people thus avoiding the problems with agoraphobia, because notice she says she has it as well but faces it head on
Wow. What a cheek. Didn’t get what she wanted so turned it around on you. I would have done exactly the same, why would you take a stranger somewhere at the drop of a hat, very odd behaviour.
Yes! I have felt shocked all day. reading and re-reading and wondering how it came to that.
WowI think it’s very sensible not to want to meet up with a random person who you only know through a FB page and have only interacted with once or twice a good while ago?
The thing is though, if she had said, look I'm in dire straights and need a lift. I would have taken her or at least sent her some money. But her post to me didn't read like just needing a lift. I just didn't fancy a meeting in a place I don't know, with a stranger. I have come unstuck a few times in my life with strangers.
Another thought. if she didn't have money for a Taxi how was she going to give me the petrol and who was going to pay for the coffee and last how was she going to buy anything in the garden centre.
They want a lift to the garden centre and they want someone to sit and listen while they off load all their baggage/drama/bull and for some unknown reason they seem to think you A) care & B) are up for the task!!!!!!!!
What an odd message!!!!
Yet she’s messaging randomers for meet ups / lifts but claimed she wants to avoid isolated spots because of her past when a stranger could easily drive her there
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