The advice thread for random problems #7

[Snippysnips]

i have contacted the council they told me it was private.

If they are stating it's private ask them for the landowner details, if they can't give them then they are fobbing you off because they can't be assed (which is typical of all councils)

 

[Bread]

I would keep reporting to the police. Tell them as a wheelchair user you are being pushed into the road. Blocking the pavement is a crime. I'd also scatter birdseed on the cars, or wet Frosties. Entirely legal.

 

[Captainmouse]

I would keep reporting to the police. Tell them as a wheelchair user you are being pushed into the road. Blocking the pavement is a crime. I'd also scatter birdseed on the cars, or wet Frosties. Entirely legal.

This is the info I want

 

[cowtastrophe]

If they are stating it's private ask them for the landowner details, if they can't give them then they are fobbing you off because they can't be assed (which is typical of all councils)

Sorry, but this isn’t true. Not all council departments have access to landowner details and it’s not possible to call every single department to see if they have. Land Registry is the place to get land ownership info but if the land has recently changed hands then it may not be up to date. LR is very behind on updating its records.

 

[Bread]

This is the info I want

You're very welcome. I do this A Lot because dangerous parking on pavements, etc. enrages me.

 

[littlepup]

Just wondered what people would do about this....
A family memeber painted a nice picture for our first kid when they were born.
They are the sort of person that has an issue with everything. After a couple of issues the last few times we've met up at family gathering we don't talk anymore, a relief really after alot of unnecessary drama. One of the things they said was how my children's behaviour spoils their day. Both are neurodiverse, we have some challenges but nothing that I would say is massively out of the ordinary for any kids really.
I know they started a painting for my other kid but we've never been given it and I doubt we will now.
I don't know if I want to keep the first painting. It feels unfair on the second one and generally unfair on both of them to have it from someone who's been quite vocal about disliking us all. My husband says keep it because it's a nice painting but I don't know if my hearts in it.
What would you do in the same position?

If they were different then and it was given in love/kindness at the time (rather than some kind of manipulation/ showing off, great significance) then that’s what’s important to me, not the relationship now. Now it’s just a nice painting, the story doesn’t really matter.
I have gifts for ex boyfriends and estranged family because they’re just objects, nice ones i, they probably don’t even remember. A gift is simply that, “I like you, I’d like you to have this” in that moment. I can think of it fondly or with apathy even if the relationship is sour now because I can’t erase the good that was once there, if I did that I’d regret half the relationships and good memories in my life!

Regarding the younger child I can understand this is tricker but I’ve found the first get spoiled rotten and the second doesn’t get half as much. They won’t be equal in life, it’s impossible but the youngest will no doubt have things the oldest doesn’t have in future too, it’ll balance out.

If you can’t seperate the object from the person, which I would also understand, I like the idea of saving it and letting your child decide in future.