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Does anyone know what happens on Ebay if you buy from a business seller that offers a warranty, but they are not responding (6 months after purchase) - can I get Paypal or Ebay involved?
I’m tempted to say no, do they refer to the address in other parts of the contract?
I think it is still valid:
Understanding your tenancy agreement in England
Check what terms can be in your tenancy agreement. Check documents your landlord needs to give you and what counts as an unfair agreement.
I think it is still valid, however, they MUST provide their own address.
Understanding your tenancy agreement in England
Check what terms can be in your tenancy agreement. Check documents your landlord needs to give you and what counts as an unfair agreement.www.citizensadvice.org.uk
I’m not entirely sure, but the landlord is asking them to leave the property in 4 days with no notice. I’ve told them to go to citizens advice as soon as it reopens for advice
Yes, that’s good advice, tell them to go to CAB.
Shelter charity may be able to help. I think they have a helpline.
A tenancy can be verbal, it would then follow the law on short term tenancy. Check government guidelines, depends if the landlord is live in, does tenant have bills with the address on or any additional emails or texts referring to the location or implied agreement? Deposit paid? An agreement can say anything but the law will always apply over and above.
Trying & failing to look for a new job, was even turned down for a shelf stacking job at my local supermarket, I’m just fed up now, I live in a shared house, have a part time minimum wage job as a supervisor, no extra pay, they won’t up my hours (do roughly 20hrs a week) not entitled to any extra help ie with rent (it’s half my wage) & I’m just struggling so much, I just dream of having my own little place nothing fancy but my own kitchen, front door, etc (have en-suite luckily) but it’s never going to happen, I’m mid 40’s & just giving up I really am, I don’t drive, just feel like an absolute failure.
I got a save a date to a wedding around summer time and the bride told me the proper invited would be sent around mid October. I haven't got one do you think they just haven't sent them yet? Do I ask? I don't necessarily want to go tbh as I won't know anyone there but I'm going the hen party so I feel I have to go
It’s a weird one - this is where they start to get independent and don’t want you involved. I’ve usually asked for the number for emergencies and then text the mum saying “thanks for having XX on Saturday, she’s looking forward to it. Thought I’d share my number just in case you need it. Let me know if you need her to bring anything” - something like that so it’s not checking up as such but is good mannersParents of teenagers please help! My 14 year old daughter has arranged to sleepover at her friend's house Sunday evening, but I'm not sure on the etiquette, do I need the friend's parent's phone number? Do I just let my teen get on with it? They are organising it over WhatsApp. I know where the house is and who the girl is, but no idea on the parents. Never met them.
She hasn't been to a sleepover since she was in year 5 and she's year 10 now so I've no idea how these things work
A friend had a bit of a go at me today over text and I'm not sure whether I'm necessarily in the wrong or not (so I'm asking you lovely people). Sorry for the long post!
A close friend of mine lives about 5 hours away, so we talk over text mostly. The past 3 months or so I've been very unwell - absolutely exhausted - and so have been a bit 'quiet' with everyone, but explained why. I found out two weeks ago it's pre-cancerous cells, and told her immediately. I've been quiet over Christmas while I process the news. I'd say we've chatted once a week or so about various news or what's going on etc regardless, and she's currently planning her wedding so we've chatted about that too.
Today she asked me what I did on NYE and I said I actually spent it with my now-boyfriend - and that we need a proper catch up to talk about it. She said she was shocked and hurt that I hadn't told her earlier that I was dating someone, that she doesn't know now where we stand and that she's upset I haven't reached out to tell her more about my life. For context, I met him a few months ago through work and he's been my rock in a very difficult time. The relationship has developed slowly but it's been really lovely - despite being unwell he can't do enough for me and we had a quiet NYE - one of the best of my life. But it's very new, I haven't even introduced him to my daughter yet. I didn't feel I was hiding anything at all and told her so - she disagrees.
She also said I had 'abandoned my commitment to not be in a relationship'. I was really taken aback and this is where I wonder if the problem is her, not me. This stems from a simple conversation about six months ago where I'd given up on actively dating after a few very bad dates and I simply said I'll take the cards life deals me, and if someone comes into my life, great, if they don't, all good too. The conversation back then wasn't a pleasant one. I remember her response feeling patronising - she told me 'not everyone can have a relationship like mine and that's ok, you can find happiness alone'. She very much wants her life to be picture perfect and her upcoming wedding is a huge part of it - despite supporting her through constant arguments and tears with her partner. That's a whole other story in itself, but I've been supportive and non-judgemental. What I don't understand is why she's brought up this old conversation as if I made some kind of promise to be a nun - it feels like I've offended her by entering into a relationship. I now wonder if it's less about the timing of telling her, and it's more whether she feels some kind of 'threat' to her idea that she's in the best relationship ever etc.
So if you've got his far, when do you think it is right to let friends know about relationships? Did I wait too long? Or is it a case of jealousy or fear or something else?
A close friend of mine lives about 5 hours away, so we talk over text mostly. The past 3 months or so I've been very unwell - absolutely exhausted - and so have been a bit 'quiet' with everyone, but explained why. I found out two weeks ago it's pre-cancerous cells, and told her immediately. I've been quiet over Christmas while I process the news. I'd say we've chatted once a week or so about various news or what's going on etc regardless, and she's currently planning her wedding so we've chatted about that too.
Today she asked me what I did on NYE and I said I actually spent it with my now-boyfriend - and that we need a proper catch up to talk about it. She said she was shocked and hurt that I hadn't told her earlier that I was dating someone, that she doesn't know now where we stand and that she's upset I haven't reached out to tell her more about my life. For context, I met him a few months ago through work and he's been my rock in a very difficult time. The relationship has developed slowly but it's been really lovely - despite being unwell he can't do enough for me and we had a quiet NYE - one of the best of my life. But it's very new, I haven't even introduced him to my daughter yet. I didn't feel I was hiding anything at all and told her so - she disagrees.
She also said I had 'abandoned my commitment to not be in a relationship'. I was really taken aback and this is where I wonder if the problem is her, not me. This stems from a simple conversation about six months ago where I'd given up on actively dating after a few very bad dates and I simply said I'll take the cards life deals me, and if someone comes into my life, great, if they don't, all good too. The conversation back then wasn't a pleasant one. I remember her response feeling patronising - she told me 'not everyone can have a relationship like mine and that's ok, you can find happiness alone'. She very much wants her life to be picture perfect and her upcoming wedding is a huge part of it - despite supporting her through constant arguments and tears with her partner. That's a whole other story in itself, but I've been supportive and non-judgemental. What I don't understand is why she's brought up this old conversation as if I made some kind of promise to be a nun - it feels like I've offended her by entering into a relationship. I now wonder if it's less about the timing of telling her, and it's more whether she feels some kind of 'threat' to her idea that she's in the best relationship ever etc.
So if you've got his far, when do you think it is right to let friends know about relationships? Did I wait too long? Or is it a case of jealousy or fear or something else?
I'd keep your head down and presume you've swerved it and don't think about it anymore.
Please don't feel a failure, you are working and actively trying to improve your situation. Plus you're financially supporting yourself even though you're only working limited hours atm. But I completely understand why you'd want a place of your own.
In terms of work, is there anything you could do to add to your current skills or qualifications that might improve your chances of getting a job with increased hours/pay? See if there are any free courses available in your area either online or in person (if you can fit this around your working hours). Also I know that care work isn't for everyone, but I know that's an area where there are often vacancies, some extra hours doing that type of work might allow you to build some savings whilst looking for a better paying full time role?
Honestly she seems to be a bit of a red flag, why does it matter if you are in a relationship when she's getting married? It's not as if you both made an agreement to never date an then you broke it while she kept it, an by the sounds of it you didn't actually say you were never going date again but just see how life goes
You are entitled to have a relationship an if it's working out then that's great, people shouldn't be making you feel like it's a bad thing especially when you have already been through so much
Maybe she has a rocky relationship an thinks the wedding will solve it? but if she's unhappy then she shouldn't be taking it out on you, to me if someone had said "not everyone can have a relationship like me, an you should be happy single" then I'd instantly see that as a red flag as to they obviously don't want you to be happy with someone else an want you exclusively themselves, I'd be careful going forward an take note if she starts to exclude your bf from any activities, if she's going to try to distance you from your bf then she's clearly not happy at having to "share" you
For those who are on good terms with their siblings, do you usually text them a ‘Happy New Year’ on the 1st?
I texted one sibling ‘happy new year’ and they responded back, but my other siblings didn’t send me anything. Those same siblings also forgot my birthday and only wished me a happy birthday days later.
I don’t know if I should bother wishing them a happy new year by text?
I texted one sibling ‘happy new year’ and they responded back, but my other siblings didn’t send me anything. Those same siblings also forgot my birthday and only wished me a happy birthday days later.
I don’t know if I should bother wishing them a happy new year by text?
@didisaythatoutloudoops You should be able to tell a genuine friend about good news at any time. It sounds like jealousy to me.
I think a lot of unhappy people comfort themselves with schadenfreude. “My situation is bad, but at least yours is worse” kind of thing. It sounds to me like you, as the single friend, were that schadenfreude for her to feel better about the cracks in her relationship, and now that you’re happily in a relationship of your own, the house of cards has come crashing down.
I think a lot of unhappy people comfort themselves with schadenfreude. “My situation is bad, but at least yours is worse” kind of thing. It sounds to me like you, as the single friend, were that schadenfreude for her to feel better about the cracks in her relationship, and now that you’re happily in a relationship of your own, the house of cards has come crashing down.
Thank you @Snippysnips and @Bianca Del Rio - for this advice and I believe you've both given me advice before, so thanks again 
I explained the situation and she's read but not responded, but you've both given me the gumption to not chase it up. She can sit and stew for a while.
I explained the situation and she's read but not responded, but you've both given me the gumption to not chase it up. She can sit and stew for a while.
I don't know if there's anything more to her frustration but based on what you've told, she sounds a bit resentful that she can't count on you to be "that friend" anymore, the friend that maybe she saw as a bit beneath her in some aspects maybe?
The fact that she went quiet after you've told her about your serious health scare but she was riled up enough to pipe up about your boyfriend is a red flag to me. Especially since you don't even live close. Life gets in the way for adults and we can't be constantly giving updates. Good friends understand this and they are happy for you. If this person is giving you an earful because you've abandoned your commitment to being single (??) I don't think she cares if you're loved and happy, maybe she liked you better when you were single and going through bad dates because she felt better about herself.
If you have been good friends for a long time, I'd text her to at least try and understand if there is another reason for this behaviour. If she gets defensive or carries on being accusing you of weird things like abandoning your convent or something, maybe it's better to let the distance do what it does best. I'm glad you have someone in your life to support you.
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