Please try not to worry. My mum's took 3 weeks to come back once she was clear of COVID. Her smell came back first I believe. I know it's long but it will happen!
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Get a foot mask, the one from home bargains, it takes it all off, you have peeling skin for a while but omg it really works. I used to get cracked heels before using them. I tried all the creams prior.
How does one usually go about getting out of something they don’t want to do?
I know we are all adults and theoretically it should just be a case of “I can’t make it anymore” and that be that, but I know it’s never as simple.
A work colleague is terminally ill and they have arranged a night out. They’ve only told one person the details of this night and said it’s a surprise, but of course we have all been told and all now know. The “surprise” also involves full payment from everyone going - so basically it’s just an event she wants to go to, nobody else, and we all have to pay our way etc. I said yes initially when asked if I was free but I really don’t want to go. It’s on a weekend and that’s the only time I get to see my family, working all week and other than bath and bedtime, I don’t see my kids much during the week.
I just feel mean as she’s poorly and I know people will talk and say how they can’t believe I’m not going etc. Any tips on situations like this?
I know we are all adults and theoretically it should just be a case of “I can’t make it anymore” and that be that, but I know it’s never as simple.
A work colleague is terminally ill and they have arranged a night out. They’ve only told one person the details of this night and said it’s a surprise, but of course we have all been told and all now know. The “surprise” also involves full payment from everyone going - so basically it’s just an event she wants to go to, nobody else, and we all have to pay our way etc. I said yes initially when asked if I was free but I really don’t want to go. It’s on a weekend and that’s the only time I get to see my family, working all week and other than bath and bedtime, I don’t see my kids much during the week.
I just feel mean as she’s poorly and I know people will talk and say how they can’t believe I’m not going etc. Any tips on situations like this?
I think you can get out of it pretty easily, but if payment is due in advance you might not see it back. What I would do (if it wasn't too hefty a cost) is agree to go, and on the night say you're absolutely down bad with flu or food poisoning etc. Try and work it around shifts and even moan/whine a bit about how sick you feel if you're in work the day before or of the event. Then you simply text and say look, you're really not well and you're so sorry, offer for them to keep the payment you made and if anything is refundable then put it into a pot/flowers for the colleague.
I think personally I would grin and bear it and go. It's one night and the impression your colleagues have of you really is important. As a chronic worrier and over thinker, sometimes I have to weigh up in my head if the anxiety of dropping out is more of a cost to me than the time simply going and getting on with it.
You could say you have a large unexpected bill to pay, leaky roof repair, broken appliance etc. "I would have liked to have gone but suddenly have a lot to pay out for this month". You could still meet them for a pre drink before the event to show willing?.
Make up a personal emergency with a family member
Thanks, was just in home bargains the other day as well, will look out for it next time
I used to say yes to absolutely everything because I felt like I needed to go, or felt like I couldn't get out of it but then I started realising that I was stressing for nothing because people really don't care as much as we think they do if you are there or not, I think we worry more than they do, the person will have enough of others all there, sure they might ask where you were but ultimately they get over it an aren't bothered as much as we are
I'd just say that your weekends are full an you are unable but maybe you could catch a coffee with them some other time when you both have time
My taste took about 4 weeks to fully return post Covid but I hate to say that my sense of smell has gone batshit. I'm almost hyper sensitive to smells and often can't eat or drink something because it smells odd. Walking after it had rained this morning made me feel queasy as there was such a strong smell coming from the ground. I've seen the GP and they said it's a reported long term effect - it's miserable.
That’s awful
. I’m really hoping everything goes back to normal for me, I’m a huge scent person and love my perfumes, candles and scents and I will truly be devastated if it changes my sense of smell forever. As horrible as all of the other symptoms were, I think this is by far the worst and the most upsetting.
Yeah my sense of smell has been in overdrive since I had Covid almost 3 years ago now
The smell of cooking really triggers me, I have to open all the windows and doors I can and if my boyfriend has been cooking and his clothes smell I make him change
And no, definitely never been pregnant to cause this
Has anyone purchased anything from Ali express?. I know they're famed for drop shipping but just a one off item?. My son is desperate for a particular funko pop for his birthday and the only place I can find it at a non Eye watering price is Ali express (I know it won't be genuine but he's not fussed about that). Just wondering about delivery time scales, general experiences pls.
My daughter did one order and the quality was atrocious. I would be prepared for it to look very noticeably different from the other Funkos in quality, size, colour, etc.
If it's cheap enough then might be worth it so long as he's fine it might not be exact, I've known others that have used Ali express an they say it's been ok, obviously it's not the same as the real thing but it's not bad either, I myself use shein for things an have been ok with the quality of what they send, I've gotten diamond art from shops, Amazon an shein an honestly there's little to no difference between them all quality wise so you might be ok with Ali express
im back again with rent arrears. found out rent account is only on my moms name presumably intentionally done by my 'dad'. but he is the one that brings the income etc but doesn't pay the rent. letters come to my mum she cant read them, i read them we're being evicted, causing a lot of stress. this happened last year as well but my dad isnt accepting the rent as a requirement tat he has to paying. council isnt really understanding. what can i do, even if i go to advice bureau they need my dad and his income etc just so stressed and depressed
Somehow make your dad understand that he will be evicted if he doesn’t pay.
Doent matter who’s name it’s in, you’ll all be homeless. What isn’t he understanding about that? Is he in dispute with them or just ignoring it?
I understand this might sound harsh, but it's important to remember that your dad is an adult who was fully aware of the responsibilities when he agreed to the tenancy. If he doesn’t accept that rent must be paid, then this may serve as a difficult but necessary lesson. Eviction, particularly from council properties, is a lengthy process, so there is still time to address the situation.
I strongly encourage you to reach out to your university and explore what support they can offer you, especially in terms of finding accommodation of your own. This is not your responsibility to bear, and it's important to prioritise your own well-being and future.
If the property is only in your mums name, there is nothing stopping you and her going to the Council and seeking accomodation without your dad.
Your dad isn’t going to understand, until he has bailiffs on the door and by then it will be too late. He thinks someone else is going to magically pay. They aren’t. Unless there’s some sort of financial abuse involved other agencies aren’t going to help and even then they probably won’t because it’s something that tends to not be understood even though it is illegal.
Here if you’re evicted for arrears there’s no help from council, if you’re evicted rom a council property for arrears there won’t be the option of reapplying again - admittedly we now only have one provider which makes that easier to enforce now, previously there were several but all used the same system.
Here if you’re evicted for arrears there’s no help from council, if you’re evicted rom a council property for arrears there won’t be the option of reapplying again - admittedly we now only have one provider which makes that easier to enforce now, previously there were several but all used the same system.
I just realised I missed my hair appointment this past weekend and I feel sick with guilt. What would you guys do? I think they have a cancellation policy whereby a charge is issued if you fail to cancel within 24 hours but I have not received this. I realise I had a missed call but hadn’t noticed that either with such a busy week. I feel so bad and embarrassed!
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Just to add I’ve never missed one before and have been going there a while now every 8 weeks or so for services.
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Just to add I’ve never missed one before and have been going there a while now every 8 weeks or so for services.
I’d just be honest & say you’ve not really been ‘with it’ this week & apologise. If you want to go back that’s all you can do really ..
Thanks I appreciate it! I will try to contact them tomorrow and explain. Feel awful as it’s a local business salon and the hairdresser is so lovely.I’d just be honest & say you’ve not really been ‘with it’ this week & apologise. If you want to go back that’s all you can do really ..
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