That sounds perfect to be honest. Not too much and not too little. See what, if anything, he wants to do after seeing his sister. He may, or not, find that harder than expected.
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Didn’t want to read and run, but that all sounds very overwhelming and exhausting. Look after yourself(Sorry for derail)
I finally got through to sheltercymru and they went for me regarding my situation. I wasn’t in the best of moods, not least because I’ve had two hours of sleep and spent hours, literally, trying to get through to them and they cut callers off so instead of waiting in a queue it gets to about an hour and disconnects. I wasn’t rude but was clear I’d not rung to be called names, or told to just go online but required information.
Then he tells me it’s too complex for phone. There’s no office where I live - the telephone line is funded exclusively for the disabled, who they can’t helpand to go online who specifically advise me to phone because it’s legally complex
Their website totally confuses me. Their help pages especially difficult - the irony does not escape me.
I’m in wales. I was not given the contract I was supposed to be in December 2022. Despite it looking like ‘no fault’ eviction the covering letter says it’s my fault due to being a hoarder and not being able to cope in private let. No one else will touch me with a barge pole as a tenant including the one and only social/housing association provider (it’s all merged, again complicated). Eviction notice not given to me but, literally, buried outside door. End date is April. Have had contact with hoarding charity and they’re looking into a specialist solicitor to help; due to distress not on therapy waiting list but have been able to work in removing items (bigger deal than it sounds - now category 4 not 5).
So shelter told me that not only am I legally liable for all court costs but also bailiff costs and changing of locks/any damages to door and new keys for other tenants as the keys are double sided and that’ll cost ‘hundreds’ as court alone is £400 to be evictedeven if I pay no rent between now and then (not what I’m going to do) I cannot raise that - landlord gets every penny of my money. Also I must attend court but our court is closing end of March. There’s no way I can get to the alternative, at this point he became extremely angry with me for ‘not trying’ It’s all my fault for letting things get out of control and I need to get a grip. I understand he was in Swansea and it can be really hard to understand just how tough rural living can be when not ill never mind when you are, and, short of giving my address out here (he had my address) I’m sure you all feel the same, but it is what it is and I ended the call at that point - I was polite simply saying I had all I needed. I was actually just getting more and more distressed at this point of the call.
Am now very confused.
Does anywhere else offer housing advice? Council housing dept have advised landlord on this so can’t help me, like wise homelessness prevention team (again irony not lost).
(again sorry for derail)
Ps. With regard to earlier enquiry mind simply referred me back to advocate who won’t get involved due to not being allowed to with private lets. Mind did agree I shouldn’t need to pay to see their housing advisor and are looking into an appointment for me, I agreed as a gesture of goodwill to fund half of it so they aren’t paying any more than when they see others.
I sold two coats last week and shipped both of them at the same time. The buyer is telling me they only received one and not the other which I find hard to believe.
I used prepaid envelopes that don’t have tracking (as agreed with the buyer). I suggested they wait a few more days and if not received, I’ll refund them but I find the whole thing a bit strange.
This is a private sale by the way.
I used prepaid envelopes that don’t have tracking (as agreed with the buyer). I suggested they wait a few more days and if not received, I’ll refund them but I find the whole thing a bit strange.
This is a private sale by the way.
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Sounds a bit odd to me too. I’d definitely think they should wait a few more days. Were the coats of value? Could it be a scam?
The saying goes 'you know what big feet mean...', but how come I take a size UK 12 shoe and my wee chappie is only three and three quarter inches long?
Answer me that one, Oxbridge boffins!
Answer me that one, Oxbridge boffins!
Yeah, the story sounds a bit odd, especially as I put my address in the sender’s section. If there was an issue, the package would have made its way back to me.
It’s an old Zara coat sold for €12, but it kind of annoys me that I need to refund without tangible proof that it was never received.
Does anyone have any advice how to stop over thinking something? Once I’ve got something in my mind I find it very hard to let go of, it can invade every part of my life and I end up making mistakes/not doing actual life because I have something going round and round in my brain
No but if/when you find any advice, please share it with me
Could writing it out help, maybe write it as a type of "help" letter as if you were sending it, then take a break an then read it an try an write a reply to it as if someone had sent you the problem an you needed to reply back to them what to do?
It may not do anything, usually when I'd get pictures in my head that seemed to be all I could think off the only way I could rid them was to draw them out
What about grounding techniques to bring you into the now
I struggle with this too. I try to think of whatever I'm over thinking about - as if it has happened to a friend and they're telling me. Take my recent overthinking - I farted in front of a date. Yep.
Now obviously because it happened to me it's the absolute end of the world. But if I went for a coffee with a friend and they told me, I'd find it absolutely hilarious and if anything quite charming. So now I'm trying to apply that to myself - rather than thinking it makes me a horrible gross ogre, I'm trying to laugh it off.
Not sure how much sense I've made but that's my idea!
Advice for getting 2 year old used to nursery? 
Just FYI, there's a toddler advice thread, I'm sure they'll be able to give you some great advice over there as well as anyone who may comment hereAdvice for getting 2 year old used to nursery?
I can't offer much advice unfortunately, as I sent my daughter to a childminder from 9 months and she kind of never knew any different...
Saying that, she is 4 now and is going through a phase of HATING going, she clings on to me crying so that's fun!
What do these entail?
Wine.
I really want to get into a nice glass of wine! I keep trying red wine but haven’t found any I like as they’re just too strong/vinegary?! I tried a non alcoholic Merlot in marks and sparks the other day and it was gorgeous. It was basically like sangria which is like drinking pop! Any recommendations for which to try?
I really want to get into a nice glass of wine! I keep trying red wine but haven’t found any I like as they’re just too strong/vinegary?! I tried a non alcoholic Merlot in marks and sparks the other day and it was gorgeous. It was basically like sangria which is like drinking pop! Any recommendations for which to try?
Ooohhhhh thank you I’ll go there right awayJust FYI, there's a toddler advice thread, I'm sure they'll be able to give you some great advice over there as well as anyone who may comment here
I can't offer much advice unfortunately, as I sent my daughter to a childminder from 9 months and she kind of never knew any different...
Saying that, she is 4 now and is going through a phase of HATING going, she clings on to me crying so that's fun!
There's box breathing, where you breathe in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4. And repeat.
The other one I know is the senses one, so 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste
Unfortunately my bro just had to leave her at the door screaming, there's nothing else he could do as everyone is working, she'd cry in the mornings even as she was getting ready to go, they do get used to it eventually an the nurseries are trained to help the kids, we were told not to go in with her an just leave her at the door an as much as it's hard she did eventually settle an was fine that is till she was moved up a group an has lost a friend as the friend is still in the lower group so it's all repeating itself now but we know she will eventually settle again an be fineAdvice for getting 2 year old used to nursery?
Good luck, it's not easy leaving them at the door screaming the place down
We tried and tried with one nursery at 1 and a bit years, I had to drop at the door, couldn’t come in and settle or anything. They didn’t suggest anything to settle. We had to give up, after about 3 months, kiddo was absolutely traumatised. (I realise how fortunate I was to be able to do that.)Advice for getting 2 year old used to nursery?
When we tried again at 2 years at a different setting and the nursery's approach was so different. They asked us all about LOs interests and favourites, got stickers with their fave character and a soft toy to greet them at the door. Set up activities suited to their interests, completely hand held them through it all. We still had false starts, pick ups after an hour, tears on almost every drop off and so on but we're finally there.
I always went and collected when they thought enough was enough even if it was half an hour before usual pick up, in fact, just telling LO I was coming was often enough to calm them so I went back and sat outside only to leave again once or twice.
I get that not everyone’s in the situation that they can go back or take it slowly but having the nursery take a targeted, personalised approach should be an option, if you can provide them the toy and stickers or an activity you know your LO will love. (Our 2nd nursery wasn’t any ‘better’ or more expensive btw)
I also tried the thing of drawing a Mummy love button on my hand and theirs, if they press the ‘button’ they know i'm thinking of them and sending them love and I know they’re thinking of me and I’ll be there soon - sort of helped, wasn’t miraculous.
It could have been their age, but I really think it was the nursery being so much more accommodating and personalised.
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