The advice thread for random problems #4

[littlepup]

Those who’ve experienced chickenpox - how did it start? My little one has some red blister type raised spots on his shoulder and towards the centre of his back. Probably about 15 spots. Does this sound like chickenpox?

We got off lightly over all but the shoulders and center of the back was where it started. Quickly spread into their hair, tops of legs & arms, side of face and genitals by the next day but didn’t spread further.
Looked like this to start then scabbed over.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Apart from amazon what is a good website/shop to look at gadgets. Kitchen, bedroom, bathroom, etc I'm just looking for gadgets that are a little different and makes life easier or at least a little more fun

 

[TheGlossy]

Help please - I can’t choose between the following two dresses:

 

[watermelon sugar]

Help - I can’t choose between the following two dresses:

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Second one

 

[TheGlossy]

Second one

Thank you!

I’ve been looking at dresses for weeks but I kept coming back to the second one over and over again.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Thank you!

I’ve been looking at dresses for weeks but I kept coming back to the second one over and over again.

That is your sign! If you keep going back to the second one that’s the one you like the most get it!

 

[stargirl23]

The second one is gorgeous!

 

[Popcornshovel]

Second dress - the first one looks like it hangs oddly in the middle. The second is a classic style and you'd be able to wear it for years to come.

 

[Snippysnips]

Apart from amazon what is a good website/shop to look at gadgets. Kitchen, bedroom, bathroom, etc I'm just looking for gadgets that are a little different and makes life easier or at least a little more fun

I think not on the high street do homeware

 

[stargirl23]

I think not on the high street do homeware

Or Robert dyas/currys

 

[littlepup]

Apart from amazon what is a good website/shop to look at gadgets. Kitchen, bedroom, bathroom, etc I'm just looking for gadgets that are a little different and makes life easier or at least a little more fun

Lakeland, JosephJoseph, John Lewis.
They dan be expensive but you can find good stuff then look for a cheaper version on Amazon if budget dictates.

 

[TheGlossy]

Thank you @watermelon sugar @Popcornshovel @stargirl23! It’s clear the second one is the one! I ended up ordering it.

The fact I kept thinking about it was definitely a sign Also, it was out of stock for weeks and one came back in stock earlier today. Fingers crossed it fits!

Agree that the first one looks like it hangs oddly in the middle. I also wasn’t too keen on the back that looked like a sport‘s bra. The color is beautiful but something about it is a bit off.

 

[turkishdelightmad]

Hi, has anyone had any experience with frozen shoulder.. I’m at my wits end with it

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Hi, has anyone had any experience with frozen shoulder.. I’m at my wits end with it

My mum (retired GP) swears by acupuncture for hers

 

[stargirl23]

My mum also had acupuncture for her frozen shoulder and now it’s pretty much back to normal

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

My Dad had frozen shoulder and it almost sent him mad - they said it was due to his diabetes. Only thing that helped him was plenty of movelat gel on it, a heat pad and eventually cortisone injections.

 

[Snippysnips]

My dad has to go for a meeting tomorrow I think a disciplinary, some females at his work have come together an are victimising him because they want him to leave so have given false accusations of him being aggressive (he's 67 an like 5ft 6 an a complete walkover which is why I hate this place because they take advantage) he's not in a union so will I able to go as a rep to record an take notes? He's getting forgetful because of very early dementia, he can still do the job perfectly fine because it's auto for him but he can sometimes forget conversations an I worry he will forget certain things of this meeting

Obviously I want to take this further, he says not to bring up anything tomorrow because it's too early an because he also wants to take things further so we can't say anything which will give them something they can turn against him, which is why I am simple going to record an take notes, is there anything else I can do?

It's also his day off tomorrow, are they allowed to be taking him in on his day off as well?

 

[littlepup]

My dad has to go for a meeting tomorrow I think a disciplinary, some females at his work have come together an are victimising him because they want him to leave so have given false accusations of him being aggressive (he's 67 an like 5ft 6 an a complete walkover which is why I hate this place because they take advantage) he's not in a union so will I able to go as a rep to record an take notes? He's getting forgetful because of very early dementia, he can still do the job perfectly fine because it's auto for him but he can sometimes forget conversations an I worry he will forget certain things of this meeting

Obviously I want to take this further, he says not to bring up anything tomorrow because it's too early an because he also wants to take things further so we can't say anything which will give them something they can turn against him, which is why I am simple going to record an take notes, is there anything else I can do?

It's also his day off tomorrow, are they allowed to be taking him in on his day off as well?

Get straight onto ACAS https://www.acas.org.uk/contact
Sounds like they’re gearing up for a constructive dismissal.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

My dad has to go for a meeting tomorrow I think a disciplinary, some females at his work have come together an are victimising him because they want him to leave so have given false accusations of him being aggressive (he's 67 an like 5ft 6 an a complete walkover which is why I hate this place because they take advantage) he's not in a union so will I able to go as a rep to record an take notes? He's getting forgetful because of very early dementia, he can still do the job perfectly fine because it's auto for him but he can sometimes forget conversations an I worry he will forget certain things of this meeting

Obviously I want to take this further, he says not to bring up anything tomorrow because it's too early an because he also wants to take things further so we can't say anything which will give them something they can turn against him, which is why I am simple going to record an take notes, is there anything else I can do?

It's also his day off tomorrow, are they allowed to be taking him in on his day off as well?

I’m not saying this is the case with your dad but dementia can make people aggressive.
Do you know what the procedures at his work is? During some meetings he will be allowed an advocate but depending on the business they might only allow a work colleague. Your best bet is to ask them for a copy of the procedure

 

[Snippysnips]

Get straight onto ACAS https://www.acas.org.uk/contact
Sounds like they’re gearing up for a constructive dismissal.

They are, they have a new female in working so basically want him out an are throwing false allegations around, he only got told today he's to go tomorrow which I thought you needed 48h notice as it's left us basically little to no time to get anything sorted

I’m not saying this is the case with your dad but dementia can make people aggressive.
Do you know what the procedures at his work is? During some meetings he will be allowed an advocate but depending on the business they might only allow a work colleague. Your best bet is to ask them for a copy of the procedure

I know, my papa an great aunt had it, but the thing is, he's not aggressive in any way, he has the very very start of it which is more forgetfulness but only when you ask him something an he's not fully paying attention an he then forgets, I know myself when it comes to cooking which is his job he's still fully all there, he still can remember recipes an cook from scratch, they take the absolute piss out him because he won't say no to them

This is also the same place that harassed him constantly on the phone to cover shifts when it was his day off then when I kept putting the phone off they had random staff members show up to our private home address looking for him to go in, he barely gets a day off cause as soon as they ask he won't say anything an just goes in to cover them

I honestly don't know what the procedures are with this place, it's a care home, an this is all going to be a case of their word against his, they done this with another male at the work months back