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Is there anyway you an your team can stay away from them? Who are the other woman? Are they another team or some that's on your team? Is there anyway your team an you can play elsewhere or get others to join an kick them out
 
You can look into carpenter ants but they usually build their nests in decaying wood. Especially if it's timber and the wood is dampish. I think overtime they can get worse and dig through the wood causing damage so your landlord would have to replace it eventually anyway.
 
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Thank you.

I looked into carpenter ants but I don’t think it’s them. The ones in my kitchen are brownish and light like ghost or sugar ants.

I think some parts of the wood in the kitchen are old and in poor condition (since the day I moved in).

Is there a product I can use to keep them at bay?
 
For anyone that works or has worked in the NHS: how do you approach informal enquiries when looking for information about a job you’ve seen in a different department/area of work? I’ve seen one that I’d like to know more about but I’m not sure how to word the email without sounding pushy and asking too many questions or maybe not even asking the right kind of questions. I’d also like to know what the development opportunities are but don’t want it to sound like I’m thinking of moving upwards before even applying..

I usually just apply for jobs and hope for the best so this is all new to me!
 
I'm honestly not sure about a product - but there should be one! But I think you can use a mix of white vinegar and water to spray around the area. Cinnamon is meant to be a good repellent as well
 
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I'm assuming your landlord isn't steaming in with a brand new kitchen.
Meanwhile, go to your hardware store and buy a small tin of transparent paint. Lash this on to the exposed wood - this will eradicate any insects living within that you may not be able to see - and then if you see any lurkers spray around with some crawling insect killer (available in all pound shops) and job done.
 
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Ok am on day two of this so am just gonna ask lol, on the computer its showing the full image of the picture, however no matter how much I try it will not print the full image, I've tried the option scale to paper size an tried both letter and A4 an still it will not work, I only need the page printed with that picture on it

My boss has been off two weeks an off this week with COVID an I need it done before the weekend as the training is on then
 

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There might be a better way, but since you already tried the scale bit and if you only need the picture could you do a print screen, crop it, paste it into a different document, maybe a Word doc that is easier to manage, and just print that document?
 
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I don't know if this is even something anyone could even help me with... Earlier this year I was at a house party with a group of friends, my best friend was there and she got so so drunk and started lashing out at everyone, physically attacking, me, my partner and our friend. I tried to calm her down because I knew she had been going through a tough time with her mental health but she just screamed at me for being a terrible friend. After that I told her to go home to her children to which she responded well at least I have children to go home to and then told me to take her children as she didn't want them. For reference, as my best friend she was aware of my struggles with infertility and had been a regular shoulder to cry on about it for years. How do I move past this? It has been months and I still feel heartbroken but according to another friend in our group I should be making an effort to sort things out. Can anyone advise me..Please and thanks
 
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It sounds like your friend was going through severe mental distress, that type of aggression and bold statements like you should take her children seems beyond regular drunkenness. But that doesn't give her permission to treat you like that, and much less to not make amends herself. It doesn't mean either that you should give her a free pass or become a punching bag.

Has she sought help? Has she apologized, sincerely, to you for her actions that night? Has she taken responsibility for her own actions?

If the answers to these questions are no, then I don't see why you should be under any obligation to brush things under the rug.

You're allowed to feel whatever you're feeling, sad, betrayed, wary. Whatever. For your own sake I'd suggest forgiving her in a general manner, as in not holding a grudge or hating her because it sounds like she was completely out of her senses. But if she, the offending party, hasn't made any effort to apologize and make amends, I think the friendship is probably not one that would be equal. You'd keep being there and giving her support and she wouldn't reciprocate. So I'd evaluate if that's something that you want or if you'd prefer to just take some distance.
 
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Is her drinking a regular thing? I’d be concerned that there’s a problem there if she’s physically attacking people. Without being dramatic, are her children safe when she’s been drinking?

I’m sorry that she was so cruel to use your fertility struggles against you like that. The question you have to ask is do you actually want to move past this? I’d say she is the one that needs to be making an effort considering how upset you are. Has she made any effort to apologise? Why does she think you are a terrible friend? The fact you tried to calm her down at the house party suggests you are far from that
 
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Can you email it to yourself and try from a different device? My laptop always prints my Vinted labels at the full size of the sheet of paper, regardless of what I do, but if I send from my phone to print, it's fine.
 
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There might be a better way, but since you already tried the scale bit and if you only need the picture could you do a print screen, crop it, paste it into a different document, maybe a Word doc that is easier to manage, and just print that document?
Thanks I've tried this as a temp solution right now, it managed to print fine on its own in a new document, but in future it will be a bit of a hassle to print the whole thing with missing that page out then printing the image on a new page, am really not sure why it prints perfectly fine on its own but can't print like that when it's part of a set
 
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She was attending sessions to help with her drinking, she doesn't know when to stop when out. But at home her husband is there so she will only drink 1 or 2
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She was under mental distress which is why i looked out for her but no she hasn't offered an apology just moaning to her other friends that she wont be invited to my house and that i dont call or message anymore. I seriously just dont know what to do, you're probably right i shouldn't brush it under the rug.,
 
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It sounds like she doesn't even think her actions could have hurt you or she doesn't have the guts to take responsibility and apologize. I've been around people like that, it's not that they're evil or anything, but they're extremely hard to have in your life.
 
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That's what another person has said to me, said I can forgive but not forget but she hurt me and i'll never trust her the same, I'll never be able to go out with her again, that's for sure! She said to our friend that she isn't ready to address what she said to me yet too which I honestly think is a cop out
 
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Which programme are using to print from?
 
I think it's just windows office she's got, it's the first job in years that's been a desk job for me so I've been trying to slowly get used to windows again since it's updated a bit since I last used it
When you open the image what program is being used? For example MS Office Picture Manager?
 
Yeah, that does sound like a cop out. No one's asking her to address what led her to that outburst, but she should be able to say: "I know my actions hurt you, I said some terrible things. I'm working through stuff that I'll hopefully be able to talk to you about further along, but for now know that I am very sorry I hurt you and I regret my actions." That's basic adulting. Owning our actions, recognizing how they impacted someone else, and stating we are sorry. Ideally there'd also be a statement about how to regroup, improve, etc (like, "I'm going to therapy to address my drinking/rage/depression and I know I will have to work hard to regain your trust") the but the basic recognition of pain inflicted is the bare minimum.

Sounds like she's been given lots of grace by you and your other friends. She should be grateful to have you in her life and try to repair the relationship, even when it of course will never be the same. Trust takes time to build and she tore down your trust that night.

Friendship troubles are tough, sending you good thoughts.
 
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