The advice thread for random problems #2

[stardust1]

Not a problem as such but we are having a bbq (weather permitting) can anyone give me some other party food ideas mini pizzas etc

 

[Carapop]

AH thank you! I have terrible health anxiety so I was like I know it's probably that but I needed reassurance

Oh I hear ya! But I promise this is nothing to worry about. Mine is dayglo the minute I look at vit b! I believe it’s because b vitamins are water soluble so whatever your body doesn’t need it excretes via kidneys.
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I also take theanine for anxiety. Btw it’s recommended to take it 30mins before bedtime with magnesium theonate to help sleep.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Potentially something like that. It was 2020 so can’t even remember. I feel like I remember I was arguing with british gas that something was wrong at the time but can’t actually remember what about.

it was a brand new boiler when we moved in, and we had a shower but it was like a mixer tap so I think that is gas? I must have gave a meter read when I moved out but what good is that if the meters faulty?

Check the move in read- or, did you switch suppliers?

 

[rainbowlemon]

I'm having some counselling at the moment.
I'm definitely not about to start dating again, it's just these feelings have made me overthink things.

Nothing wrong with thinking. Do you journal? Maybe free writing could help - I always think we already have the answers we're searching for.

When the time comes with trust look also look at their actions too. What are they doing or not doing?

 

[chickhicks86]

Wondering if someone can help me.
Where do I recycle old clothes/textiles that I don't want/can't use? I've got old clothes with stains (like bleach and ink etc) on them and bedding that's a bit worse for wear with stains from tan and nail varnish. They are years old anyway but they are in no state to donate/re-use.
Equally, I don't want to put them in landfill. Anyone know where I can take them?

We can put ours out (bagged) with the kerbside recycling, might be worth a check?

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

With a black cardigan/jacket, perhaps tights and flats/long boots to tone it down I’d say so.
Bare arms, legs and heels I’d say it’s possibly a bit flashy.

But I would say don’t wear a dress you love to a funeral if it’s someone close because you’ll always think of it when you wear it again.
H&M has got a wear it all the time ‘rib knit dress’ code 1130015001 for £19.99 or this for £15.
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Didn’t think bare arms would be so controversial! Never even came up in my thoughts as a no-no

I’ll have a little look in H&M thanks

 

[Dogtanian]

It’s probably solid brick as cavity walls didn’t really start to be popular until after the war.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Just looking for a bit of perspective… Had an argument with the other half last night (one of a few) because I didn’t like what he was doing and he refuses to stop and says there’s nothing wrong with it. So basically, he will sit on the couch with his balls and other parts hanging out his shorts and be playing with them (not just readjusting, literally stroking and pulling on them). It really winds me up as I find it quite disrespectful and needless, especially when I am eating my tea. He says it’s normal and what every man does, yet agrees he wouldn’t be doing it in front of anyone else or at work etc. Would anyone else find this gross and a bit disrespectful, especially when you have asked them to stop, or am I just being uptight? It really gives me the ick.

Yeah I don’t know any man who does that. And I come from a family with a lot of uncouth men in it. They’ll put their hands in their pants, sure but that’s it. I’d be disgusted if my OH started pulling the whole lot out on the sofa. I think from now on just take your trousers off and sit on the couch in your bare crotch and see if he thinks it’s acceptable! Clearly talking hasn’t worked so maybe shock tactics will!

 

[HoGi]

Thank you. Yes, I can. I might do this actually.

Instructor can make or break your experience.

I would do what rainbowlemon suggests then book some automatic lessons with a different instructor.

It couldn't be easier. Stop and go all with one leg!

 

[LaBlonde]

Looking for anyone that's techy with computers, so this weekend DW is airing the regeneration episode, I don't watch it but my close friend is a huge lover of DW, for some reason they aren't airing it in America at the same time as the UK an she's really bummed about it

My question is, is there a way to somehow hook up my laptop to the TV an have what's on the TV on my laptop an give her a link so she can watch along or am I only going be able to point the webcam towards the TV on a Skype chat an have her watch that way

I know how to hook the laptop to the TV to watch what's on my laptop on the TV but if never tried it the other way around

would caracal work? (https://caracal.club/)

you can basically watch the same thing on both your laptops so if you have DW on yours she can watch it simultaneously! i sometimes do it for an american friend who loves eastenders

 

[Snowjoke]

Will it brush off when dry?

No it’s not moving unfortunately

Once the stain is dry, get some Fuller's Earth powder from the chemist and sprinkle it on the stain. Leave it for a few minutes, then go in with your suede brush, (as a previous poster said, go gently) and voila, stain gone

Thank you I will try this

 

[Snippysnips]

Not sure about the iron levels. Maybe I need to ask the GP to check them again? Thanks for the advice about vitamin d & stress. I'm on meds for panic attacks, so it could be a combination of all those things. I hope you're feeling better now??

Thanks, I am feeling alot better, I also felt keeping a diary helped me as well, it could be worth doing, make a note of when the tiredness is bad an note down how you are feeling, how you ate, slept etc, it will help to determine if there's a pattern to your tiredness or if it's random

If it can all be linked to your eating, sleeping, mood etc then maybe you just need a boost to your iron an vitamin d levels (since we only get vitamin d from the sun then it's common for alot of us to be low or have a defincy) an if it's more random where you feel like your mood, eating an sleeping have been fine then it could be more going on an worth to have more blood tests done with other things, drs usually only take general blood tests an you might need things like thyroid or cortisol levels checked

Hope you manage to get it sorted

 

[Snippysnips]

I wish I did take my supervisor up on that offer but I just felt like it looks like I’ve got them fighting my battles. I’ve told my supervisor I just try and sit there doing my work with my headphones in trying not to join in the convo doing what I need to do.

I feel like she’s not happy I’m not pally with her as some other people are or the fact I rather go to other people than her. She tries to tell me how to do my job when she hasn’t actually got a clue. I need to make sureI get service users to fill out feedback questionnaires but then question how I’m doing it or questioning why I’m doing it that way but then all I say to her is I need it doing I’m not going on bed.

she had my name down on a room booked on the system the appointment was still down so I spoke to admin over it and told them she told me to keep the room and she’ll sort it out because is was for her device user. I got worried as the user would still get a text over to and I was worried they’ll turn up but they aren’t having an appointment. Admin weren’t happy with her telling me not to cancel the room and she’ll sort it so admin had a go at her over it. I don’t think she was happy I went to them over it but I was checking if she spoke to them or not.

It's definitely not your management fighting your battles for you, at least I don't see it that way an i don't think they would either, she's over stepping boundaries, not respecting you, telling you what to do an trying to get about your business, management really do need to have a word with her, unfortunately they aren't going to be able to help unless they know there's a issue but I do think it would he worth having management talk with her

Some people will never back down unless they are basically told too like a child

 

[Dogtanian]

Depends, is there anything aside from sick leave you have done wrong? I assume you are UK, if so then company's need to have three steps before firing, a disciplinary, a written letter of a disciplinary, then a meeting which can result in your last warning or a sacking, failure to do these can result in you taking them for unfair dismissal an can go to the courts

The only way you could be straight up sacked is if you have done something massively wrong, i.e shown up drunk, been on drugs, stole, got into bother with the police that will go to court etc

If you are in a temporary contract then they can just not offer you another one, but if you have signed a permanent one then they can't just let you go without warning as you will have past the trial stage since that's usually the first few weeks you start

Could it be they maybe want someone to work alongside you? Do you have a backlog that maybe they are wanting a second hire to help clear it?

I thought you had no rights for the first 24 months of employment and could be sacked at any time?
Link : https://www.johnfowlers.co.uk/latest-news/what-employment-rights-does-an-employee-have-under-2-years

 

[Snowjoke]

I need a good website for electronic birthday cards. Does anyone have a recommendation that they’ve used?

Thortful

 

[CoffeeMamma]

I need a good website for electronic birthday cards. Does anyone have a recommendation that they’ve used?

I just use Free Prints Photo Cards

 

[littlepup]

Thanks for the replies.

I work for a family (I can’t really explain how without giving away a huge part of who I am IRL) and I love being a part of them. The littlest one is 2 and I say I’m “mummy’s friend who helps out”. Honestly Jane will be happy it’s such a big part of your life.

We’ve just filled out a nursery admission form and Jane is listed as “important people in my life”, they so regularly talk about her - I think explaining that she helps us is the way to go.
Maybe as she they get older we’ll discuss how we get we get help with things we’re not good at or can’t find time for and we help others with things they’re not good at or don’t have time for.

 

[no-no]

I have but by day two it’s noticeably dirty! So the most I can leave it is like 2 days. I’ve tried training it over lockdown, or during school holidays and it just won’t Co-operate! It’s long, thin in texture but there’s loads of hair

Have you tried K18 detox shampoo? Pricey, but it’s lasted me a while and I wash twice. I have similar hair texture https://www.cultbeauty.co.uk/k18-peptide-prep-detox-shampoo-250ml/13906715.html

 

[Snippysnips]

Can you take a load of coins in to the bank branch and have them put in to your account still? We have about £50 in small coins, including old £1 coins not bagged or sorted. Should I be sorting them before I take them in or do they use a machine now? haven’t been in branch for years. Also would a high street HSBC branch still take back the old £1s?

At our bank they have a machine you put them all in an it gets added automatically to your account, but if they don't have one then I would expect they would want you to sort an bag them before going in, also as another said, they might take the old £1 but you wouldn't get anything for them

 

[LaBlonde]

It's the right perfume but it's clearly a fake - the bottle is shoddy and the perfume itself smells slightly off.
She's emailed to request a refund as her bank says that's the first step.
Yeah for sure it's fake
Trust pilot (I googled it once she told me where she got it from) gives it 2 stars and a lot of reviews saying its a scam website.

I'm sure, I have the real one and compared side to side its obvious. The wesite is unfortunately listed as based in Bulgaria and is now not listing any perfumes for sale either just other beauty products eg chanel foundation etc.

aw i’m sorry it’s so easy to get caught out ivy these things!

i would note all these things for the bank (that they’re now no longer listing perfumes for sale, potentially don’t reply to your email, confirmed on trust pilot as a scam) to make a good case for your mum. it might be worth her cancelling the payment card she used too, just to be on the safe side.