Hi all, I’m looking to see if it just me that thinks this way and I’m being an overprotective parent.
My daughter is 15 and her boyfriend 14 and when she was with her dad he let the boyfriend sleepover. I was not comfortable with this in the slightest and when I found out said no to it happening again. When she was next at her dads they lied to me (he encouraged my daughter to also lie) and said she was at his when in fact she had slept at the boyfriends. I’ve since spoken to the boyfriends mum and said I am not comfortable with the sleepovers so I’m coming to you mum to mum that if they’re suggested it’s a no. I didn’t think it was unreasonable at all. They have been together 3 months which I know is forever in teenage time but the reality is different. I am also conscious that teenagers have hormones running crazy through their bodies and my daughter has been open in saying she is not ready for anything and I am worried that she would feel some pressure if they’re in that situation. Yes I don’t want to be dealing with a potential pregnancy but I want her to be safe emotionally too.
I had thought that my decision was more than reasonable for no sleepovers at this age. However, my friends son has his first girlfriend (he is 14) and she’s said that once she meets the parents she isn’t adverse to it (they’ve been together a week). Is it me being a crazy overprotective parent that needs to relax a little or what are others thoughts?
My daughter is 15 and her boyfriend 14 and when she was with her dad he let the boyfriend sleepover. I was not comfortable with this in the slightest and when I found out said no to it happening again. When she was next at her dads they lied to me (he encouraged my daughter to also lie) and said she was at his when in fact she had slept at the boyfriends. I’ve since spoken to the boyfriends mum and said I am not comfortable with the sleepovers so I’m coming to you mum to mum that if they’re suggested it’s a no. I didn’t think it was unreasonable at all. They have been together 3 months which I know is forever in teenage time but the reality is different. I am also conscious that teenagers have hormones running crazy through their bodies and my daughter has been open in saying she is not ready for anything and I am worried that she would feel some pressure if they’re in that situation. Yes I don’t want to be dealing with a potential pregnancy but I want her to be safe emotionally too.
I had thought that my decision was more than reasonable for no sleepovers at this age. However, my friends son has his first girlfriend (he is 14) and she’s said that once she meets the parents she isn’t adverse to it (they’ve been together a week). Is it me being a crazy overprotective parent that needs to relax a little or what are others thoughts?