Hi everyone, sorry I need to vent about my dog. It sounds silly even just writing that but I cry at least 2x a week about this.
We got a rescue pup in April this year. He was 4 months old and we were so excited. It was a bit of an unusual rescue situation because he basically came from a puppy farm so the rescue rescued him and his litter mates when he was 8 weeks old and then he was in a rescue shelter until he was 4 months, then he came over to the UK from Spain.
The fact he was from a puppy farm should have been the first red flag and I will wholeheartedly admit I went into this naively. The rescue didn’t tell us it was a puppy farm per se, and it is only reading between the lines that I now realise that that’s what it was.
It’s mine and my boyfriends first dog together although we have grown up with dogs and it is just not what I pictured it to be like.
I see a lot of posts on other forums that I follow saying I love my dog, he is the best dog ever even though he has XYZ problems. I just don’t feel that way about our dog. Before people tell me I’m a horrible person, believe me I already know it. He can be very sweet inside our house with just me and my boyfriend but he hates strangers with a passion. He has bitten 4 times, the last time drawing blood. We are working with a behaviourist and had the initial consultation but not got our proper appointment for a few months. The behaviourist said he is likely not socialised and this has led to fear of strangers. I just can’t see how it can better. I don’t believe it can get better. He barks at me in the house, not all the time but when he does it scares me a bit. He air snaps and my boyfriend says he has always done this and it’s just becuase he’s excited but it still scares me.
It has been manageable up until now but he has either regressed or is (hopefully) only going through a phase but I can’t even take him out for a walk unless it is to a really quiet place, otherwise if any person walks by us he lunges and does a really aggressive bark. It scares me. We are muzzle training him but it’s still not ideal. I don’t like the dog he is growing up to be.
I’m venting here becuase I don’t feel like my boyfriend is even taking it very seriously. I do the primary caregiving which is fine, I knew that would be the case, but my boyfriend basically leaves me and the dog to go camping 1-2 weekends a month. It would be fine if I got a break in return but I don’t. He also doesn’t seem to be taking what the behaviourist said seriously. He wasn’t at the initial consultation but he hasn’t even watched the recording of it she made for us. When I ask him to do the training the way she told us to, he does it for a couple of times then reverts back to what he was doing. I can’t tell him how I feel about our dog without what feels like him brushing it off. He says we just need to give him the best life we can which is sweet but I feel like I can’t tell him I don’t think I’m up to it. If someone else would take our dig I would probably do it. Me and boyfriend are still young and we got the dog to take with us on walks, to take to pubs, to take away for weekends places plus do what we used to do. I don’t see how we can leave the dog in the future to ever go on holiday again. I know I’m being selfish but when we got him, the plan was to leave him with family or at kennels but becuase he has bitten I don’t think this is possible.
I think my expectations were just too high but I’m just sad that it’s not turned out like this. Our dog was going with a dog walker 2 x a week but he can’t even do that anymore becuase (a) he is a teenager and is basically doing what teenage dogs do, which I could cope with becuase he’ll grow out of it and (b) I don’t trust anyone else to walk him just now. This means when I go back to the office I’ll have no one to walk him and I can only realistically come home for 30 mins at lunch, so I feel bad he’s not going to get the attention he needs.
If I tell anyone else how I feel they say he’s a puppy he’ll grow out of it. I don’t think he will and it’s my own fault it’s like this. I regret getting him.