struggling with restrictions thread.

[Koakes]

Thank you for starting this thread. I live in Canada so I know our restrictions are different then yours in the UK.

But I honestly feel like I am just living one big groundhog day. I am a person who typically is okay to spend quite abit of time alone and enjoys my own company, which is usually a blessing since my husband works away. But I feel like I am going crazy lately.

And I too feel like I am judged or not allowed to feel certain ways because I haven't lost my job while my husband was laid off for 7 months last spring.

This whole thing is just hard and I wish people were more kind and aware of others feelings and wouldn't feel the need to make it a pissing match or make you feel like you aren't entitled to feel the way you.

Sorry for the rant haha had alot more to get off my chest then I thought I guess

 

[Rockin' Robin]

The first lockdown was easier because Spring was approaching, and my partner and I spent a lot of time sitting in his back garden. It was lovely watching everything he had planted flourish, home grown vegetables were lovely.
But this current lockdown has been so much more difficult, miserable weather, no where to go ect. One consolation is the days are getting longer (more daylight) the weather will hopefully improve over the next few weeks.
I long for the days where I could hop onto a bus and go wherever I wanted. And I miss going to pubs with my partner. I really feel for all those in the hospitality industry, newly opened businesses opening early last year, only to have to close again because of the lockdowns. Many of these businesses will never reopen.
I really wish for some kind of normality.

 

[Tots]

Just wanted a rant and felt like this was the right place. I’m a new young mom on maternity leave so for a start it can be lonely feeling like all my friends aren’t interested anymore and not many of them have babies and don’t really bother. Can’t see my family and living alone with my baby has been so hard. Not had much support with my baby and I also struggle with Bipolar and despite mental health support I’m just finding this so hard doing this without my family. He hasn’t even met most of his family yet. I have had my first dose of the vaccine due to being vulnerable. I just long for a sense of normality. Feels like every day is the same

I love my baby so much and they’re the only thing that’s kept me going honestly. It’s so hard being shut in
I’m just glad to be healthy and have a healthy baby that is a blessing in itself and I feel ungrateful and silly and over dramatic moaning

hope everyone is well and coping ok
Take it a day at a time is my best advice x

You have a baby under one so can legitimately form a support bubble with one other household even if both households are 2 adult households. You can then all act as one household, stay over and spend time indoors. I hope that helps x

 

[Moira Rose]

Just wanted a rant and felt like this was the right place. I’m a new young mom on maternity leave so for a start it can be lonely feeling like all my friends aren’t interested anymore and not many of them have babies and don’t really bother. Can’t see my family and living alone with my baby has been so hard. Not had much support with my baby and I also struggle with Bipolar and despite mental health support I’m just finding this so hard doing this without my family. He hasn’t even met most of his family yet. I have had my first dose of the vaccine due to being vulnerable. I just long for a sense of normality. Feels like every day is the same

I love my baby so much and they’re the only thing that’s kept me going honestly. It’s so hard being shut in
I’m just glad to be healthy and have a healthy baby that is a blessing in itself and I feel ungrateful and silly and over dramatic moaning

hope everyone is well and coping ok
Take it a day at a time is my best advice x

As said above, definitely form a child support bubble.

I too have had a baby during lockdown and like you, suffer with BPD and there is no way I could do this alone. It's almost been a year now (baby was born a day or so before this whole thing began!) and it's hard enough even with my child support bubble. You'll wear yourself down doing it all alone with issues already weighing on you. Don't be afraid to reach out to family or friends for help. It doesn't matter what curtain twitchers think

If you think you'd like to - you can always rant to me in my inbox. That goes for anyone who needs a friend right now.

 

[TheScarletgirl]

I use to go out a lot before lockdown saw my friends went shopping and cinema by myself and just had a me day to get my hair done. These were my little comforts that i enjoyed . i know it is really silly things but i just miss having the freedom to do as i like .

 

[LittleMy]

I wasn’t the most outgoing person prior to Covid anyway and my life pre-Covid was being a stay at home mum to two under 5’s, which could be so isolating in itself. But you know, I could hop on the bus with the kids and take them places like soft play, other parks, into town for a browse or visiting relatives. We’d even take the train down to visit my mum who lives by the coast. I’d spend most mornings with my Gran in her house, keeping her company for a few hours and I miss our chats over a cuppa before I had to pick my eldest up from nursery while the little one plodded around. It wasn’t much, but not having the freedom or spontaneity to do these little things has been hard.

I work now as a key worker, nights in a care home. I’d applied before lockdown as we needed both incomes and the kids were due to start school and nursery respectively. I got started straight away because of the pandemic and witnessed the terrible cost of Covid in the care home. I even caught it myself due to a lack of appropriate PPE at the time and caring for Covid positive residents. My other half was between jobs before lockdown 1 hit - he had just been accepted for a better paying job and had worked his notice period but didn’t even get started as lockdown happened and now the company he was going to work for has had to close down. He was unemployed for the first time in his working life. He hasn’t been able to find work due to having to look after the children who were supposed to be in nursery and school.

I’m lucky to have a job, but it hurts when I think that I was doing this to better our situation but now I have to just to make ends meet. OH misses working and I feel that the children don’t always get the best of me anymore because I’m exhausted and stressed out from work. Thankfully they will both be able to return to school and nursery on Monday as we’re in Scotland, but it’s still the uncertainty of this happening again. OH wants a job but what if cases rise again and schools and early years have to close their doors? Who will look after our children? It’s draining.