i can’t keep doing this ... I know I’m lucky to live in a beautiful home with the North Antrim coast outside my window but the joy has gone from my life. Doing this completely alone is killing me inside
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Yep I feel like all I do is wake up, work, eat, sleep repeat. The fact this has been my life for nearly a year now is baffling. I feel like we are all just existing day to day and not living 
University has been extremely hard this year. I am lucky in the sense I have many feedback sessions online but it is not one to one anymore and I sometimes get too anxious to screen share during group calls. I also had begun to get to know someone at uni and we even went on a quasi-official date during the tier system days and had a drink together. Not seen her since November and we have been put in the same group for a uni project, but I just wanna see her 
I hate complaining though as I'm living with 2 of my friends in a shared house which is more than some people have...but we are all sad asf in our rooms most days. And busy asf with uni work. Saturdays are our day to sort of unwind and watch a movie together but it always seems like something in the film will remind us of covid, and even now every song we play we end up relating to covid in some way. I actually think I'm gonna have this entire year on my mind for the rest of my life. Like I'm gonna be constantly worrying if this is gonna happen again.
Also OP I totally agree with the feeling fed up even with a privileged life. One thing this pandemic has taught me is no amount of money is gonna make me happy, I just need people.
I hate complaining though as I'm living with 2 of my friends in a shared house which is more than some people have...but we are all sad asf in our rooms most days. And busy asf with uni work. Saturdays are our day to sort of unwind and watch a movie together but it always seems like something in the film will remind us of covid, and even now every song we play we end up relating to covid in some way. I actually think I'm gonna have this entire year on my mind for the rest of my life. Like I'm gonna be constantly worrying if this is gonna happen again.
Also OP I totally agree with the feeling fed up even with a privileged life. One thing this pandemic has taught me is no amount of money is gonna make me happy, I just need people.
If I didn’t have my children or my husband in my life, I don’t think I would cope at all. I suffer depression and anxiety, and there have been so many times throughout the pandemic where I’ve wanted to end it (sorry if that’s triggering for anyone). I never would, I have my family to live for, but the longer this continues the worse my mental health is becoming. We’re just going through the motions, every day is the same and there’s nothing to look forward to. My children are struggling and I can already see the effects lockdowns have had on them. They used to love being outside and playing but now it’s a battle even to get them out the door. It’s such a struggle trying to get through the days. I refuse to read/watch the news daily as it just makes me feel worse.
We need to normalise not feeling bad about feeling bad. I catch myself doing this all the time when I’m speaking to people.
“I shouldn’t complain because I still have my job”.
“There are people who have it worse than me”.
We’re all in this together and we’re all struggling for different reasons. Your feelings are valid and you’re entitled to them regardless of where you live or the view from the window
I actually seen someone on twitter today post about how depressed and lonely they feel in this lockdown and someone replied to it saying ‘at least you’re not on a ventilator though’ honestly some people are such dickheads, it makes me so pissed offWe need to normalise not feeling bad about feeling bad. I catch myself doing this all the time when I’m speaking to people.
“I shouldn’t complain because I still have my job”.
“There are people who have it worse than me”.
We’re all in this together and we’re all struggling for different reasons. Your feelings are valid and you’re entitled to them regardless of where you live or the view from the window
It's all relative ultimately! We're in the same storm but everyone has a different boat. I'm glad there's threads on tattle where I can get all this stuff out without fear of someone saying "it could be worse" etc...
One person’s feelings don’t negate another’s. We all experience life differently and it’s not fair to say that just because one person appears to have it worse, everyone else has to suck it up.
I’m beginning to question everything now, the impact these restrictions are having on people’s mental health, small businesses, people’s livelihoods is really really troubling and I feel like I can’t voice this to anyone without backlash and being a “conspiracy theorist”. Well if a conspiracy theorist is simply questioning this after a year of lockdown then give me my tin foil hat! Really not looking to start a debate but everyone’s entitled to their feelings no matter how they feel. This pandemic is really turning us all against each other
Just wanted a rant and felt like this was the right place. I’m a new young mom on maternity leave so for a start it can be lonely feeling like all my friends aren’t interested anymore and not many of them have babies and don’t really bother. Can’t see my family and living alone with my baby has been so hard. Not had much support with my baby and I also struggle with Bipolar and despite mental health support I’m just finding this so hard doing this without my family. He hasn’t even met most of his family yet. I have had my first dose of the vaccine due to being vulnerable. I just long for a sense of normality. Feels like every day is the same
I love my baby so much and they’re the only thing that’s kept me going honestly. It’s so hard being shut in
I’m just glad to be healthy and have a healthy baby that is a blessing in itself and I feel ungrateful and silly and over dramatic moaning
hope everyone is well and coping ok
Take it a day at a time is my best advice x
I love my baby so much and they’re the only thing that’s kept me going honestly. It’s so hard being shut in
I’m just glad to be healthy and have a healthy baby that is a blessing in itself and I feel ungrateful and silly and over dramatic moaning
hope everyone is well and coping ok
Take it a day at a time is my best advice x
It’s such a drag now. Some aspects I have enjoyed; time to discover new things to do and hobbies; saving money and having a secure job; no travelling for work which I’ve done for years. The change was kind of welcomed, at first. But since October, things have taken a turn. I’d give everything to just have normal life back. I miss my friends more than I thought was possible. I’ve not seen them since September and my extended family too.
It’s frustrating because I’m lucky in so many ways but the days just drag on now. I miss the freedom of our previous existence. The past feels like a foreign land.
It’s frustrating because I’m lucky in so many ways but the days just drag on now. I miss the freedom of our previous existence. The past feels like a foreign land.
Honestly, if you’re struggling alone with a new baby, I would say duck the rules and see your family. Your mental health and well-being and that of your child’s is important too. You have to weigh up the risks yourself in situations like that. Props to you for taking care of baby during the pandemic. Being a new mum is isolating enough sometimes without a bloody pandemic to contend with on top of it
I can't even begin to imagine what it is like for new mums in all of this. Motherhood can be isolating enough as it is without lockdown to contend with. Please feel free to message me if you want to talk more - I'm a first time mum and my daughter is now a toddler but I remember those early days and months and how tough it was.
I feel lucky to have my husband and daughter but we have no family close by and whilst Skype and facetime is great, it's definitely not the same. I feel grateful that my daughter is still able to go to nursery but I feel guilty that she seems to prefer being there than at home because it's more fun and she can see other kids but the weekends are just being home and we are exhausted from work and the general monotony of lockdown. I can't get excited over the 200th trip to the same park, we have no space for crafts as my husband is working at the dining table and we have to be careful of noise because his bosses moan that our daughter occasionally shrieks or cries at meal times which are taking place less than a metre away from his workspace because it is THE ONLY place either of these things can happen! I can't bring myself to even consider what is going to be announced next week as I dont care about pubs or shops. I just want to see my mum and dad, let my daughter play with her friends, go back to a brilliant toddler class every week and do something other than the bleeping park!
Thankyou so muchHonestly, if you’re struggling alone with a new baby, I would say duck the rules and see your family. Your mental health and well-being and that of your child’s is important too. You have to weigh up the risks yourself in situations like that. Props to you for taking care of baby during the pandemic. Being a new mum is isolating enough sometimes without a bloody pandemic to contend with on top of it
sending my love to you and family too!
I am in the process of sorting out a support bubble ect as everyone else seems to have one x
Thankyou so much I can’t imagine how hard is trying to keep a toddler entertained indoors and just going to the park especially when it’s not the warmest!
You are doing well don’t forget to give yourself credit x
I think pubs and restaurants will reopen around Easter but I think they have no plans to drop social distancing measures, rule of 6 and mask wearing so it makes me feel like what is the point ?? Yes at least the pubs will be making something but surely they will be running at a loss and inevitably have to close their doors. Last year my opinion on it was different and I was thinking well fair enough, the vaccine was being talked about a lot and things looked promising for this year, but now we actually have mass vaccine rollout and still probably going to have to keep these restrictions. Thing is we will all accept it too because this lockdown has been so tit we will literally take anything that the gov give to us now
I'd be having word. with his boss reminding him that it is your and your daughter's home firstly . The boss has no authority over your daughter