Once again my point was nothing to do with saying what she should do, but that she was lucky to have a choice. I didn't and did not have a job I enjoyed to go back to. I do not begrudge her. She works hard for what she has. Just think she might regret what she has missed. And the nanny bit was a joke from the book I am reading The Housemaids Secret. But I really wanted to say what a lovely pic you have for your handle. Audrey Hepburn is that a fifties pic by any chance I have anotherCompletely agree. It's difficult enough for women as it is without all this internalised misogyny.