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Why is every influencers birth story traumatic?! I don’t believe every single one is, they all say they don’t want to and won’t share it then they do😂
 
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Oh really? I'm not interested in kids/babies/I'm happily child free so the only other person I follow that's had kids recently is Casey Holmes and I don't think she said hers was traumatic or anything so didn't know they all say it 😅.
 
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Why is every influencers birth story traumatic?! I don’t believe every single one is, they all say they don’t want to and won’t share it then they do😂
To be fair, all but one of my friends who have had babies had a traumatic delivery. In my baby group with five other mums, four of them had emergency sections. Mine was planned and while I wouldn’t say it was as traumatic as an emergency, there was some complications and I was terrified at times!
 
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my birth was traumatic (29 hour labour, pushed for an hour, ended in an emergency c-section and i nearly died from the blood loss) but the one thing that got me through was knowing my son came out perfectly healthy. i can’t imagine how helpless it must feel to see your baby being resuscitated and knowing all you can do is watch. i really feel for her
 
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My daughter's best friend had her little boy on the 25th. The labour was four hours ....which, for her first was quite a shock to everyone. She was fully dilated when she got to hospital and had gas and air and two paracetamol! My daughter had been on facetime to her at 1am. She was woken at 7am to say she'd had the baby!
 
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In my circle an uncomplicated birth seems to be the exception - nearly everyone I know has had an emergency C-section after something going wrong.
 
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I think even if the labour and birth itself wasn’t ‘traumatic’, the baby being resuscitated and then being too unwell to hold your baby for several hours is serious!
She must’ve been in a bad way to not have been able to hold him.
 
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When you've had an epidural, it can make you really shaky. I couldn't hold my son for quite a while, maybe 2 hours, because I was shaking so badly. It's a side effect. It's horrible. Also, an episiotomy is vile. Barbarically painful.
 
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When you've had an epidural, it can make you really shaky. I couldn't hold my son for quite a while, maybe 2 hours, because I was shaking so badly. It's a side effect. It's horrible. Also, an episiotomy is vile. Barbarically painful.
honestly sometimes i am quite thankful i got cut open through 7 layers of my stomach rather than having an episiotomy. i can’t even imagine
 
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Personally I think most births are “traumatic” for one reason or another. I know very few people (myself included!) who have had straight forward births.
 
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I’m glad her and baby are okay now!

Do agree that births can be traumatic in different ways but
your baby immediately needing support like that must’ve been absolutely terrifying and up there with the worse things that could happen even if it was for just a few minutes.
 
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I think she might have had an infection after giving birth. Could be wrong but what she’s describing is what happened with me. I had baby brought up onto my chest but didn’t hold them again til much later as I was being stitched up from episiotomy and then was so loopy from fever/infection I didn’t know what was happening.
 
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My daughters birth was traumatic as well, 27 hr labour, episiotomy and 4th degree tear, ended up with damage to my bladder as well, had to keep a catheter in for 6 weeks after giving birth as had no bladder sensation at all. I was deeply depressed for about 2 years after it, took a few years of therapy and being on medication to overcome it. I haven’t been the same mentally since. Still on anti-depressants 4 years on anytime i tried to come off them I just spiral back into depression. I’m not Sophs biggest fan but can relate and hope her and the baby are ok. I actually love the name.
 
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Why is every influencers birth story traumatic?! I don’t believe every single one is, they all say they don’t want to and won’t share it then they do😂
For a lot of women it is whether they are influencers or not. I do think it’s still seen as ‘taboo’ to share any aspect of it if it hasn’t been all sunshine and rainbows likes it’s portrayed on social media which isn’t right imo. Both deserve to take up the same amount of space whether it was a positive or negative experience. I just think it it’s a negative experience a lot of ppl dismiss it or don’t want to hear it as they don’t like to associate giving birth as a ‘negative’ or not nice experience.
 
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I’m glad her and baby are okay now!

Do agree that births can be traumatic in different ways but
your baby immediately needing support like that must’ve been absolutely terrifying and up there with the worse things that could happen even if it was for just a few minutes.
I feel for her, I ended up with an emergency c section and my daughter was unresponsive for a good five minutes, worst five minutes of my life, I won’t go into it but I didn’t see or hold her for 6 hours because of complications with me, I know people that have had it much worse than me, makes you wonder why people go through it again! 🤪
 
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James having an insta page where he shows off Pokemon cards is actually the most wholesome thing ever.
 
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I simply cannot get my head around her being a Mum? And not because i think she’d be bad but she just seems soooo young. Mega hard to imagine her as a parent?!
 
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I simply cannot get my head around her being a Mum? And not because i think she’d be bad but she just seems soooo young. Mega hard to imagine her as a parent?!
she’s 28 right? pretty average age to be a mum. though she does look and seem younger
 
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I simply cannot get my head around her being a Mum? And not because i think she’d be bad but she just seems soooo young. Mega hard to imagine her as a parent?!
I'm the same age as her and I have two and am married. She just cosplays a 13 year old swiftie 😂
 
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